Do you get jealous?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No but people are jealous of me and where my kids got in.

But you and your kids are inferior in some other way and everyone judges you for that. Such is life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am genuinely happy when I hear of kids who get into great schools. I know they had to work super hard. My kids were not lazy by any means, but they didn’t make the huge sacrifices. They just followed their natural interests and curiosities both academically and in terms of ECs.

I will admit I’m jealous that other kids have more options financially. My kids were limited to applying in-state and to schools with generous merit aid. While they are very happy with where they landed, there are a few schools I think would have provided a really nice experience (not due to the status but environment) if we could have afforded them. But I don’t waste much time on that because they are very lucky to be able to graduate in 4 years with no debt and not everybody can.

+1. My sentiments exactly. My kid is happy at his in state college and has no complaints. But it’s me that thinks he would be really enjoying the atmosphere at certain other colleges if the funds allowed. I don’t say anything; he had even said himself that it was not a good idea to spend more than our state colleges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No.

I don't want the things most people here want. I think big state schools suck for undergrad, and I'm secretly thrilled DC doesn't have a shot at College Park. I'm jealous, maybe a little, of people whose kids are going to Chicago or Williams or Swarthmore... but I don't have that kind of kid. I have the 60-110 US News &World Report kid.

I have also come to realize this is the tranche of American schools I like the most.

Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Three pages of posters who don’t know the difference between jealousy and envy, yet think that their kid should have gotten into a better school…..

Oh, please. We all know what OP meant, and so did you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three pages of posters who don’t know the difference between jealousy and envy, yet think that their kid should have gotten into a better school…..

Oh, please. We all know what OP meant, and so did you.

And if you read the thread, you would see that this isn’t the main sentiment being expressed. At all.

[Anonymous]

Not at all. Kids wind up where it works for them. Many people are successful on whatever track they take. Everyone’s journey is different.

[Anonymous]

Jealous no. Would just like my son to make it his life's mission to discredit and teardown that school in C-Ville when he becomes rich and powerful.

[Anonymous]

No. I'm not an insecure teenager. That's a major benefit to being a grown adult.

[Anonymous]

I’m not there yet but I hope I’ll always prioritize my kids’ mental health, happiness and individual sense of purpose over impressing others.

[Anonymous]

I’m not jealous of admissions but it does seem like some kids have it easier than others. Maybe I don’t know the whole story though. But I try to be happy for them all.

[Anonymous]

I would only be jealous if the kid who mercilessly bullied and hurt my kid got into a school deemed "higher" than my kid. It's immature, but just being honest. For all others, I am happy for them. I know that this whole admissions process was hard on a lot of kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not jealous. Sometimes anxious about the American economy, and how my kids will fare given the widening chasm between haves and have-nots.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is an anonymous forum, so let’s be real: do you get jealous when your kids’ friends and classmates get admitted to more prestigious colleges than your kids?

Not if my kid didn't apply? Why would I? And if my kid did apply, sure jealous, but not angry or mad. It happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would only be jealous if the kid who mercilessly bullied and hurt my kid got into a school deemed "higher" than my kid. It's immature, but just being honest. For all others, I am happy for them. I know that this whole admissions process was hard on a lot of kids.

I get that.

One of my other goals with college applications for DC was not sending them to the schools those kids are going to. The DMV is a provincial town so this is fairly easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am jealous of parents who have kids for whom school comes more easily, without the difficulties my kid with learning disabilities has. But I'm not jealous because of their college admissions.

Same here. Also, I can much more about a school being a good fit for my kid than where it is on the USNWR. If my kid is happy, I'm happy. I think they can get a good education at 100s of different schools.