Do you get jealous?

[Anonymous]

My DS will be lucky to graduate from high school and will have to do some community college before he can get into a 4 year school. So yeah, I feel some jealousy. He’s not lacking in ability, it’s mental health. But I have to remind myself to love the kid I have, not the one I thought I would have.

[Anonymous]

Jealous of the fat financial aid package my divorced friend is expecting to get for her kid after being admitted to Princeton, but practicing saying (and thinking) "good for you!"

[Anonymous]

I am a naturally petty person although I try to rise above. My husband always reminds me that our kid is at a great school, which is a perfect fit for his interests/needs/etc. And that this is the only thing that matters for our family. And that we should root for everyone else's kids to have the same great outcome, whether that's at Harvard or community college or one of the gazillion other options.

[Anonymous]

No, because I learned to water my own grass and I also learned that comparison is the thief of joy. I hope your children know these things too. They will be a lot happier.

[Anonymous]

No because that one that got into Ivy really truly deserved it and we knew it from the time the kids were like 10 years old. And at least for our year, the acceptances Made Sense. There was Ivy level, then Georgetown, then USC, then BC, then UMiami …. And literally it all made sense based on the resumes, grades, classes, scores, etc. It was the opposite in a way of the crapshoot that everyone talks about.
Now if the Umiami kid got into Georgetown, and the Georgetown kid was WL or rejected, I wouldn’t be jealous, I’d be raging mad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, particularly the ones with unfair hooks

Which hooks are fair?

Ah...good one.

PP got exposed.

[Anonymous]

I don't know any of his friends because he lives with his father. I will never know where his friends will go. I hope he goes to CC.
I'm investing money for him and I'm so excited as it is enough for him to retire early, like very early.
I'd rather do this than suffer through all this college mess or make him suffer through it. That said, he probably will get a 4-year degree and get a job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No but people are jealous of me and where my kids got in.

+1

This is why T8 kids and parents stay quiet. Then the lower kids and parents bash them for remaining quiet. Haters gonna hate.

[Anonymous]

No.

I am not a status-driven person.

I want what works for my child, not what impresses my colleagues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS will be lucky to graduate from high school and will have to do some community college before he can get into a 4 year school. So yeah, I feel some jealousy. He’s not lacking in ability, it’s mental health. But I have to remind myself to love the kid I have, not the one I thought I would have.

Always a healthy situation when a parent has to be reminded to love their kid.

[Anonymous]

I am genuinely happy when I hear of kids who get into great schools. I know they had to work super hard. My kids were not lazy by any means, but they didn’t make the huge sacrifices. They just followed their natural interests and curiosities both academically and in terms of ECs.

I will admit I’m jealous that other kids have more options financially. My kids were limited to applying in-state and to schools with generous merit aid. While they are very happy with where they landed, there are a few schools I think would have provided a really nice experience (not due to the status but environment) if we could have afforded them. But I don’t waste much time on that because they are very lucky to be able to graduate in 4 years with no debt and not everybody can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not jealous. Sometimes anxious about the American economy, and how my kids will fare given the widening chasm between haves and have-nots.

+1

20 years of decisions paid off today with a happy kid getting an acceptance from our outside DMV state flagship. I'm not jealous of the DCUMers sending kids to Ivies...just interested in my road not taken.

Hope now our kids can help us dig out of the mess America is in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not jealous. Sometimes anxious about the American economy, and how my kids will fare given the widening chasm between haves and have-nots.

Pretty much this. I think a lot of parents are anxious and think that going to an Ivy League school will help secure their kids place with the haves. But at the rate it’s going, unless you are already at the top, I’m not sure name brand will make a difference.

[Anonymous]

I am jealous of parents who have kids for whom school comes more easily, without the difficulties my kid with learning disabilities has. But I'm not jealous because of their college admissions.

[Anonymous]

No. My kids are fabulous where they are.