What does it mean to be a masculine man?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Masculine men or not, women will cheat on you if you fail to “emotionally” support her.

I think men should embrace their feminine side more so they understand women more. But wait if they do that, the women will complain that he is not assertive, he is not this, he is not that. You can’t please them!

Some women are crazy and don’t have a clue what they want.

[Anonymous]

To me, masculinity is body hair, reasonable strength (huge muscles are gross and signal overcompensating), strong hands that grab me firmly, tendency to dominate in the bedroom, and decisiveness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH is very masculine, and he isn’t very fit or muscular. He is confident, loves women, can banter and tease, picks up the check every time, works hard, never lies, is playful with kids, cusses when he shouldn’t, rarely drinks, goes to church, kisses like I’m the icing on the cake.

Men are woefully misinformed about the secret of what women want: a man who is competent, smart, generous and loves women will never go home alone.

When you say "a man who is competent, smart, generous and loves women will never go home alone," you are right but that many may not end up with the woman he wants. A lot of women want me because I am a man who is competent, smart, generous and loves women. I do go home alone, sometimes, but I do pretty well. Unfortunately I have been crushed when women who seemee compatible ended up going for idiots or jerks who knew how to put up drywall, play a mean guitar riff, ski expert trails, etc.

[Anonymous]

It means I do not care what the bat$hit crazy women on DCUM think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re looking in a forum of entitled suburban moms for an answer you’re scraping the bottom of the barrel here. 70% of the conversations are about these women divorcing their husbands and how they hate them.

If you want to find masculinity it’s simple. Get in shape, take charge of your life, make good financial decisions and be a good role model for your kids. Not complicated.

If you’re an overweight piece of garbage who can’t even put up some curtain rods it’s time to man up. Learn another skill and trade. Stop eating crap and get in shape . Take charge of your finances. Deliver it in the bedroom like it’s your last night alive.

But trying to find advice among a group of miserable cat ladies….come on

If a woman is overweight, does that too make her a piece of garbage?

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure if physical attributes necessarily defines "masculinity."

I've known dad-bod men who looked like hairless cats and had somewhat high-pitched, whiny voices, but still projected masculinity in how they carried themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Masculine men or not, women will cheat on you if you fail to “emotionally” support her.

I think men should embrace their feminine side more so they understand women more. But wait if they do that, the women will complain that he is not assertive, he is not this, he is not that. You can’t please them!

You have it backwards. If you understand your wife/kids/friends better, then you don’t get all hurt and take it personally whenever they do something that you don’t like. This enables you to be more assertive and not walking around in fear of doing something wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re looking in a forum of entitled suburban moms for an answer you’re scraping the bottom of the barrel here. 70% of the conversations are about these women divorcing their husbands and how they hate them.

If you want to find masculinity it’s simple. Get in shape, take charge of your life, make good financial decisions and be a good role model for your kids. Not complicated.

If you’re an overweight piece of garbage who can’t even put up some curtain rods it’s time to man up. Learn another skill and trade. Stop eating crap and get in shape . Take charge of your finances. Deliver it in the bedroom like it’s your last night alive.

But trying to find advice among a group of miserable cat ladies….come on

If a woman is overweight, does that too make her a piece of garbage?

No because women naturally have more fat. Men have more muscle.

[Anonymous]

Masculinity = competence + confidence

A masculine man will:
Walk with confident posture - head up, shoulders back
Have a firm handshake
Know how to drive a stick shift, use power tools, and build a deck
Not be afraid to get greasy working on a car
Enjoy physical triumphs. This often leads to staying in shape, but that isn't a requirement. An overweight guy who dominates at arm wrestling can count.
Feel confident talking to anyone in social situations
Look you straight in the eyes when you're talking to him, focus his attention on whatever the task at hand is

[Anonymous]

Masculine energy: warm, supportive, protective, positive.

There’s no reason why women can’t embody this also. I see many men who don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me, masculinity is body hair, reasonable strength (huge muscles are gross and signal overcompensating), strong hands that grab me firmly, tendency to dominate in the bedroom, and decisiveness.

Minus the body hair, I met a female hockey player who had a lot of those traits in addition to being quite feminine in other ways. I’m a woman.

[Anonymous]

Masculinity is also a state of mind, not just biceps. Know I am stereotyping, but the black men I know have a combination of a laid back attitude but strong sense of self. They have a matter of fact way of looking at the world combined with a way of behaving in control of themselves and not losing their cool. I consider this masculine.

[Anonymous]

Masculinity has changed over the years. It is fluid and may change over time for each human.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH is very masculine, and he isn’t very fit or muscular. He is confident, loves women, can banter and tease, picks up the check every time, works hard, never lies, is playful with kids, cusses when he shouldn’t, rarely drinks, goes to church, kisses like I’m the icing on the cake.

Men are woefully misinformed about the secret of what women want: a man who is competent, smart, generous and loves women will never go home alone.

When you say "a man who is competent, smart, generous and loves women will never go home alone," you are right but that many may not end up with the woman he wants. A lot of women want me because I am a man who is competent, smart, generous and loves women. I do go home alone, sometimes, but I do pretty well. Unfortunately I have been crushed when women who seemee compatible ended up going for idiots or jerks who knew how to put up drywall, play a mean guitar riff, ski expert trails, etc.

This is akin to men who will stay with women who are b1tches because those women are hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To me, masculinity is body hair, reasonable strength (huge muscles are gross and signal overcompensating), strong hands that grab me firmly, tendency to dominate in the bedroom, and decisiveness.

Minus the body hair, I met a female hockey player who had a lot of those traits in addition to being quite feminine in other ways. I’m a woman.

Sure. That list isn't all I want in a male partner. I would also want him to be nurturing and gentle with kids, hilarious, kind, and adventurous. I hope people don't think that men should only have 100% masculine traits and vice versa for women. I'm a female athlete who is into cars and working with my hands. I also have long hair, wear makeup, and am nurturing. We all have a mix of gender expression. People think about this stuff too much.