Be honest. Would you marry a guy making $160K at 55?

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I feel like a middle aged white guy with a college degree, a good brain and solid work ethic in a STEM field should be making over $200K these days but maybe I’m out of touch.

Really out of touch. Wtf?

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At that age it doesn't really matter what their income is imo. It matters what their net worth/assets are. I wouldn't want to marry a 55 yo who will have to work for the next 15-20 years.

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Anonymous wrote:DO you realize that the average salary in the US for someone in the 55-64 bracket is around $63K? $160k is more than double that.
Yes, I married someone making less than that.

This isn’t a useful data point in the context of assertive mating among college or professional degree-educated people.

OP doesn't list her salary, educational attainment or socioeconomic status. They're just asking a bunch of strangers from different backgrounds if they would marry such a man, so my answer is relevant.

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Anonymous wrote:At that age it doesn't really matter what their income is imo. It matters what their net worth/assets are. I wouldn't want to marry a 55 yo who will have to work for the next 15-20 years.

No way is he sitting on millions at that age and income.

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Yes, of course. That's a good salary. But the more important question is how much do you make and why would you combine finances at this late age?

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C'mon OP, you know that he is lying. I'll bet he really only makes $158,000. Dump the bum.

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Anonymous wrote:At that age it doesn't really matter what their income is imo. It matters what their net worth/assets are. I wouldn't want to marry a 55 yo who will have to work for the next 15-20 years.

No way is he sitting on millions at that age and income.

I make $105k and have over $2m. Not sure why you think that’s so impossible.

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Anonymous wrote:DO you realize that the average salary in the US for someone in the 55-64 bracket is around $63K? $160k is more than double that.
Yes, I married someone making less than that.

This isn’t a useful data point in the context of assertive mating among college or professional degree-educated people.

OP doesn't list her salary, educational attainment or socioeconomic status. They're just asking a bunch of strangers from different backgrounds if they would marry such a man, so my answer is relevant.

She said she’s a top 5% earner whose social circle is 1% so you can assume she’s educated too.

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Anonymous wrote:No one needs to marry at 55
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55 is not dead

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Anonymous wrote:At that age it doesn't really matter what their income is imo. It matters what their net worth/assets are. I wouldn't want to marry a 55 yo who will have to work for the next 15-20 years.

No way is he sitting on millions at that age and income.

I make $105k and have over $2m. Not sure why you think that’s so impossible.

Nice job! How did you do that?

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Posts like this make me really feel like I don't belong here. I'm 52 and don't make this much and neither does my ex; he's 49.

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Anonymous wrote:A guy who checks all the boxes but is only in the top 10% of earners?!? Kick him to the curb OP and make sure he knows that you’re a 1% gal.

Christ on a cracker you’re horrible

Well yes, I was married to a 1% guy and am top 5% myself. Most of my friends and family are 1%ers so I have a distorted perspective. I am proud to be with him. However, he will be the lowest earning of all my circle’s male spouses and I don’t want him or me to feel judged or out of place when we socialize. I guess we could find new friends who are less wealthy.

dp.. yes, your friends sound horribly judgemental and snobby if you think they will be judgy about his income.

Think of how hard it will be for him to acclimate to the classy folk OP is concerned with! We don’t want him to be the Ruprecht from Dirty Rotten Scoundrels in this elite social group, it won’t do in Courcheval or on Richard Brandon’s next private island retreat.

OP. I said 1% not 0.1%.

Yes, you’ve got your head on straight.

Well if you’re familiar with the curve, there is a logarithmic difference between what I’m describing and the lifestyles you’re imagining.

Everything needs an /s, eh? I wasn’t serious. You have so little grasp of anything.

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You shouldn’t be with this man if you’re contemplating (have discussed?) marriage and you’re putting that here, under the wimptastic pretext of concern over how HE’D feel socially.

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Anonymous wrote:Assume he’s attractive and normal.

If you are looking at a 55 year old, you are either past your "shelf life" or "restocked" so have realistic expectations.

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Yes, I’ve been married to this guy since he was 27.