Be honest. Would you marry a guy making $160K at 55?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one needs to marry at 55

If they have sexual desires like most normal people then Yes they do need to get married if they don’t want to live in sin

DP. So sex outside of marriage is sin, but Jesus is cool with judging people for their salaries. Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one needs to marry at 55

Agreed. But if Mr 160k wants to get married he can do so much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A guy who checks all the boxes but is only in the top 10% of earners?!? Kick him to the curb OP and make sure he knows that you’re a 1% gal.

Christ on a cracker you’re horrible

Well yes, I was married to a 1% guy and am top 5% myself. Most of my friends and family are 1%ers so I have a distorted perspective. I am proud to be with him. However, he will be the lowest earning of all my circle’s male spouses and I don’t want him or me to feel judged or out of place when we socialize. I guess we could find new friends who are less wealthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A guy who checks all the boxes but is only in the top 10% of earners?!? Kick him to the curb OP and make sure he knows that you’re a 1% gal.

Christ on a cracker you’re horrible

Well yes, I was married to a 1% guy and am top 5% myself. Most of my friends and family are 1%ers so I have a distorted perspective. I am proud to be with him. However, he will be the lowest earning of all my circle’s male spouses and I don’t want him or me to feel judged or out of place when we socialize. I guess we could find new friends who are less wealthy.

dp.. yes, your friends sound horribly judgemental and snobby if you think they will be judgy about his income.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A guy who checks all the boxes but is only in the top 10% of earners?!? Kick him to the curb OP and make sure he knows that you’re a 1% gal.

Christ on a cracker you’re horrible

Well yes, I was married to a 1% guy and am top 5% myself. Most of my friends and family are 1%ers so I have a distorted perspective. I am proud to be with him. However, he will be the lowest earning of all my circle’s male spouses and I don’t want him or me to feel judged or out of place when we socialize. I guess we could find new friends who are less wealthy.

Please let this man go. You are just insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Is he handy? Like, does he know how to fix things around the house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. DH is making about that much, at 59.

I make slightly more, and our HHI is $300K. We have a good life.

There is something wrong with you, op.

I hope for his sake, you won't marry him. My fiancé and I are in our fifties and he makes less than $160k as law enforcement. He is the kindest person that loves me to the moon and back. I make 4 times what he does and respect the hell out what he does to make where we live a better place.
What do YOU bring to the table?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A guy who checks all the boxes but is only in the top 10% of earners?!? Kick him to the curb OP and make sure he knows that you’re a 1% gal.

Christ on a cracker you’re horrible

Well yes, I was married to a 1% guy and am top 5% myself. Most of my friends and family are 1%ers so I have a distorted perspective. I am proud to be with him. However, he will be the lowest earning of all my circle’s male spouses and I don’t want him or me to feel judged or out of place when we socialize. I guess we could find new friends who are less wealthy.

Or you could stop evaluating people by their salaries. Find people with interesting conversation. People with values, a sense of humor, a passion for something other than expensive shit.

If that means finding new friends, wouldn’t you rather do that now than when circumstances change outside of your control? Have you learned nothing from reading this forum? Layoffs, health crises, market losses… do you think that can’t happen to you? Building your life and your personality around money is just so incredibly risky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A guy who checks all the boxes but is only in the top 10% of earners?!? Kick him to the curb OP and make sure he knows that you’re a 1% gal.

Christ on a cracker you’re horrible

Well yes, I was married to a 1% guy and am top 5% myself. Most of my friends and family are 1%ers so I have a distorted perspective. I am proud to be with him. However, he will be the lowest earning of all my circle’s male spouses and I don’t want him or me to feel judged or out of place when we socialize. I guess we could find new friends who are less wealthy.

Send him my number. I’ll treat him with the love and respect he deserves.

[Anonymous]

OP is income obsessed, but income alone isn't even relevant. How much has he saved for retirement? What are his expenses? Does he have debt? Is he paying for kids to go college? Is he a spender or saver? OP seems both shallow and stupid. Just keep digging for the gold, OP, and leave this guy alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he handy? Like, does he know how to fix things around the house?

Somewhat. He’s a white collar guy but does seem to know his way around those things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A guy who checks all the boxes but is only in the top 10% of earners?!? Kick him to the curb OP and make sure he knows that you’re a 1% gal.

Christ on a cracker you’re horrible

Well yes, I was married to a 1% guy and am top 5% myself. Most of my friends and family are 1%ers so I have a distorted perspective. I am proud to be with him. However, he will be the lowest earning of all my circle’s male spouses and I don’t want him or me to feel judged or out of place when we socialize. I guess we could find new friends who are less wealthy.

Or you could stop evaluating people by their salaries. Find people with interesting conversation. People with values, a sense of humor, a passion for something other than expensive shit.

If that means finding new friends, wouldn’t you rather do that now than when circumstances change outside of your control? Have you learned nothing from reading this forum? Layoffs, health crises, market losses… do you think that can’t happen to you? Building your life and your personality around money is just so incredibly risky.

Everyone I associate with is interesting and has built their lives around meaningful work that makes a positive difference in the world. They just earn a lot doing it. It’s a myth that wealthy people are somehow always superficial and fatuous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A guy who checks all the boxes but is only in the top 10% of earners?!? Kick him to the curb OP and make sure he knows that you’re a 1% gal.

Christ on a cracker you’re horrible

Well yes, I was married to a 1% guy and am top 5% myself. Most of my friends and family are 1%ers so I have a distorted perspective. I am proud to be with him. However, he will be the lowest earning of all my circle’s male spouses and I don’t want him or me to feel judged or out of place when we socialize. I guess we could find new friends who are less wealthy.

Pretty lame that you’re only top 5%. How much did your ex earn? Is his younger, pretty lover top 3%, or just the reason he’s able to smile and have sexual desire and fun these days?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is income obsessed, but income alone isn't even relevant. How much has he saved for retirement? What are his expenses? Does he have debt? Is he paying for kids to go college? Is he a spender or saver? OP seems both shallow and stupid. Just keep digging for the gold, OP, and leave this guy alone.

I think on an income of $160K at 55 and presumably divorced you can assume he won’t have millions in the bank.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A guy who checks all the boxes but is only in the top 10% of earners?!? Kick him to the curb OP and make sure he knows that you’re a 1% gal.

Christ on a cracker you’re horrible

Well yes, I was married to a 1% guy and am top 5% myself. Most of my friends and family are 1%ers so I have a distorted perspective. I am proud to be with him. However, he will be the lowest earning of all my circle’s male spouses and I don’t want him or me to feel judged or out of place when we socialize. I guess we could find new friends who are less wealthy.

Or you could stop evaluating people by their salaries. Find people with interesting conversation. People with values, a sense of humor, a passion for something other than expensive shit.

If that means finding new friends, wouldn’t you rather do that now than when circumstances change outside of your control? Have you learned nothing from reading this forum? Layoffs, health crises, market losses… do you think that can’t happen to you? Building your life and your personality around money is just so incredibly risky.

Everyone I associate with is interesting and has built their lives around meaningful work that makes a positive difference in the world. They just earn a lot doing it. It’s a myth that wealthy people are somehow always superficial and fatuous.

But you (assuming you’re OP) were worried about your friends judging him for his inferior income.