What to expect sexually from 40 year old man?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Also, my wife’s perspective on what she has to bring to the table in the bedroom is probably a direct result of her young single days. Like I said, she’s got a pretty ridiculous body and guys were falling all over her. So her perspective “why are you complaining when there’s a line of guys who would bend over backwards just to be with me”"

I think this "you're lucky to have me" attitude among women is really problematic and it leads to things like this DH resorting to porn for satisfaction. It's lazy and it's disrespectful to one's partner even when you're young. And it's ridiculous when you're older and no longer that hot young thing. In other threads people often scoff at "older" women who say that their sex partners find them just as appealing as a younger woman. But I could easily see that this is true given that younger women who are still able to get away with being lazy in bed pale in comparison to women who have sex with enthusiasm and who behave as though they really want to be there, wrinkles and all. In an ideal world for most men, a woman would have a great figure (in his eyes), she'd know her own body and how to enjoy it and take what she wants from her partner, and she'd be really excited about having sex with him. Women who take a lazy in bed approach do so at their own peril.

She probably wasn’t like that with her previous partners. The things women want for sex and the things women want for a stable marriage are often not the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Disappointment.

[Anonymous]

I have a 55 year old friend, he divorced his wife and his current girlfriend is in her late 40’s, he suffered from erectile dysfunction while he was married however that is no longer the case.
Familiarity breeds contempt as well as it destroys erections.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:44 year old female who had a a lot of 'practice' in college. A lot. I have never once met a man who was able to go twice in a row.

As a younger man, I think I was both capable and interested in going twice in a row exactly twice in my life. Otherwise, I needed at least a 20 minute break. (At 50, a two day break is more like it.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:44 year old female who had a a lot of 'practice' in college. A lot. I have never once met a man who was able to go twice in a row.

As a younger man, I think I was both capable and interested in going twice in a row exactly twice in my life. Otherwise, I needed at least a 20 minute break. (At 50, a two day break is more like it.)

So weird: I'm a 45 yo F who had only 2 partners before my exH. He was definitely able to go twice in one evening and then once in the morning throughout 16 years long marriage. He stopping being able to around at 52. Both other partners also could. One of men I dated after divorce also could. So out of 5 men 4 could do it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:44 year old female who had a a lot of 'practice' in college. A lot. I have never once met a man who was able to go twice in a row.

As a younger man, I think I was both capable and interested in going twice in a row exactly twice in my life. Otherwise, I needed at least a 20 minute break. (At 50, a two day break is more like it.)

So weird: I'm a 45 yo F who had only 2 partners before my exH. He was definitely able to go twice in one evening and then once in the morning throughout 16 years long marriage. He stopping being able to around at 52. Both other partners also could. One of men I dated after divorce also could. So out of 5 men 4 could do it

I've been married for about a quarter century now, so I guess I couldn't say what new relationship energy might do for my abilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Disappointment.

Hence the pills for the "spontaneous" hour long session.

[Anonymous]

If you can perform sexually by yourself with a video and a soft cloth, but not your grandmother or your wife, it's not really "libido" that is holding you back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you can perform sexually by yourself with a video and a soft cloth, but not your grandmother or your wife, it's not really "libido" that is holding you back.

Wait, what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:44 year old female who had a a lot of 'practice' in college. A lot. I have never once met a man who was able to go twice in a row.

As a younger man, I think I was both capable and interested in going twice in a row exactly twice in my life. Otherwise, I needed at least a 20 minute break. (At 50, a two day break is more like it.)

So weird: I'm a 45 yo F who had only 2 partners before my exH. He was definitely able to go twice in one evening and then once in the morning throughout 16 years long marriage. He stopping being able to around at 52. Both other partners also could. One of men I dated after divorce also could. So out of 5 men 4 could do it

Going again in the morning is nothing. It's the two times in a row thing that is hard. Or not hard, if you get what I mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:44 year old female who had a a lot of 'practice' in college. A lot. I have never once met a man who was able to go twice in a row.

As a younger man, I think I was both capable and interested in going twice in a row exactly twice in my life. Otherwise, I needed at least a 20 minute break. (At 50, a two day break is more like it.)

So weird: I'm a 45 yo F who had only 2 partners before my exH. He was definitely able to go twice in one evening and then once in the morning throughout 16 years long marriage. He stopping being able to around at 52. Both other partners also could. One of men I dated after divorce also could. So out of 5 men 4 could do it

It can also depend on time between those multi-sessions.

Night-night-morning once a week is different from night-nighth-morning 5 times a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you can perform sexually by yourself with a video and a soft cloth, but not your grandmother or your wife, it's not really "libido" that is holding you back.

Wait, what?

Yes, that's the point. Which character is your wife more similar to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you can perform sexually by yourself with a video and a soft cloth, but not your grandmother or your wife, it's not really "libido" that is holding you back.

Wait, what?

Yes, that's the point. Which character is your wife more similar to?

I'm lost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you can perform sexually by yourself with a video and a soft cloth, but not your grandmother or your wife, it's not really "libido" that is holding you back.

Wait, what?

That .... escalated.

[Anonymous]

I am 52 and don’t need Viagra. I do, however, struggle to finish sometimes.

I do associate that more often with alcohol consumption so generally don’t drink when I anticipate I might get lucky.

I can usually take care of myself pretty quickly but if I do that, it also makes it harder to finish when having partnered sex, so I have laid off the self abuse.