What to expect sexually from 40 year old man?

[Anonymous]

Spinoff from the libido thread. What is normal in the 35 and older man range? Can most guys still go multiple rounds? How long can they last? How much sex do they want? I know there is no one size fits all answer but just am curious because I am coming out of a long relationship and am wondering what to expect.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, there is going to be a huge range. I've dated a 35-year-old who had trouble performing and a 55-year-old who could go multiple rounds right in a row.

[Anonymous]

OP, what would satisfy you? That's what you should expect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spinoff from the libido thread. What is normal in the 35 and older man range? Can most guys still go multiple rounds? How long can they last? How much sex do they want? I know there is no one size fits all answer but just am curious because I am coming out of a long relationship and am wondering what to expect.

It’s the ‘20s. Men’s libidos in the 2020s have drastically reduced much faster than ever.

Many experts states this has to do with gratification from pornography and wild scenarios seen in pornography.

Also many drugs, such as Propecia, finasteride, antidepressants, etc. allegedly may have libido destroying elements.

I’d say it’s possibly more typical firm in his 40s to become asexual than not.

[Anonymous]

35/40 is still pretty young.

I’d say these are men who should have had enough education to not only think about themselves. They should have enough bandwidth to be concerned about what YOU want, and should know that more for you means more for them. They should at least have on their radar that PIV isn’t the be all and end all for pleasure.

[Anonymous]

My husband could never go multiple rounds, even in his late 20s. He needs several hours to recover. Interestingly in his early 40s there have been a couple of times when he has somehow finished twice, but usually it is some special case where he is super turned on or we haven’t done it for awhile.

[Anonymous]

I'm 46 and "multiple rounds" means once at night and again in the morning. In terms of how long I last...that really depends on how long it's been since the previous time.

[Anonymous]

Dh is late 30s and still up for multiple rounds and would probably like to do it every other day.

[Anonymous]

Everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 46 and "multiple rounds" means once at night and again in the morning. In terms of how long I last...that really depends on how long it's been since the previous time.

This is me too at 50. Could I go multiple times? Maybe but neither of us have a strong desire for that.

[Anonymous]

Multiple rounds? Meaning they finish and then can keep it up without a break? I don't think many men in their 20s can do this.

[Anonymous]

At that age, there should be little difference from when they were younger, OP, so it will depend on the individual and his particular make-up.

However.

Being overweight and/or in poor cardiovascular health (high blood pressure, high cholesterol/triglycerides, etc) is directly associated with erectile dysfunction.

So you want to pick people who have a certain degree of fitness.

[Anonymous]

I can't help but notice that this thread does not consider how the woman's skills/open-mindedness play into things. A lot of highly educated UMC women are very vanilla and conservative in bed and do not give the impression that suggestions for spicing things up would be favorably received. Whenever I read this forum, I always wonder how many cases of "ED," "low drive," and "long refractory period" are actually cases of a man who's bored out of his mind. I'm not saying it's all on the woman, but you need to ask yourself whether you're putting in enough effort to make it fun. Of course you shouldn't do something that you find utterly disgusting and degrading, but you'd be surprised: a lot of men aren't into that stuff either. This forum gets carried away sometimes with the idea that male desire is inevitably gross.

And men need to get their own act together! Getting in shape, quitting porn, and even experimenting with s*men retention (i.e. man doesn't finish every time) are all great ways to bring a "low drive" man back from the dead. The ball is in his court with those, and you have a right to expect your man to put in more effort, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Multiple rounds? Meaning they finish and then can keep it up without a break? I don't think many men in their 20s can do this.

I think multiple rounds mean with a relatively short break

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't help but notice that this thread does not consider how the woman's skills/open-mindedness play into things. A lot of highly educated UMC women are very vanilla and conservative in bed and do not give the impression that suggestions for spicing things up would be favorably received. Whenever I read this forum, I always wonder how many cases of "ED," "low drive," and "long refractory period" are actually cases of a man who's bored out of his mind. I'm not saying it's all on the woman, but you need to ask yourself whether you're putting in enough effort to make it fun. Of course you shouldn't do something that you find utterly disgusting and degrading, but you'd be surprised: a lot of men aren't into that stuff either. This forum gets carried away sometimes with the idea that male desire is inevitably gross.

And men need to get their own act together! Getting in shape, quitting porn, and even experimenting with s*men retention (i.e. man doesn't finish every time) are all great ways to bring a "low drive" man back from the dead. The ball is in his court with those, and you have a right to expect your man to put in more effort, too.

Ha! Stop projecting. I’m a DW with a low libido husband and every attempt at a new position or activity has been my idea for the entirety of our 15 year marriage. DH just isn’t into sex as much as I am and likes doing the same thing a lot. Just because the women you see out in the world seem vanilla and conservative doesn’t mean they are like that in the bedroom! No one who knows me would guess.