Coach doesn’t like my child

[Anonymous]

Based on response or non response my guess is you don't get your kids to all trainings and are grumpy your kid is given less play time. T or F. Are you at 90 percent of sessions?

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all of the advice. We will move when we are able to. I’m disappointed that I wasted time and money in a program that doesn’t provide any feedback.

I think you are just upset because he doesn't notice your special child.

Are you always such a dick?

No one is the villain in their own story, especially a story about their kid. I find it pretty had to believe the OPs kid has never recieved any feedback from the HC. Maybe it isn't to the level OP wants because it does seem fro.hiw OPs posts are OP is looking for constant validation.

Or maybe OPs kid doesn't listen to the feedback given and the coach is done trying to provide it.

I’m sorry for whoever hurt you.

I really hate this fking stupid statement. WTF does that mean anyway? PP has a valid point and that’s your response?

-np

It doesn't mean anything. It is equivalent of sticking ones fingers in their ears and saying "LALALALALALALALA" because they don't want to accept an answer that might hurt someone's feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have years of experience with sports teams and coaches and parents and kids and I can tell you that it is possible it's not your kid the coach doesn't like, it's you. That is actually a much more common scenario. He shouldn't take it out on the kid but maybe he's just adopted a total hands off approach. It's very likely other parents and coaches will not tell you this truth either. Look at yourself and see if that might be the problem.

This could absolutely be an issue. Coaching on numerous teams as a HC and AC, parents actions play a role in what goes on with respect to your kid. I've been on teams where the HC has basically said, "that kid could play on the A team but that kids mom emails me almost every day about X and Y or some excuse as to why her kid isn't at practice or some other issue. I'll let the B coach deal with that Mom nonsense."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look for a new team. If others are noticing, it’s a problem.

100%

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Based on response or non response my guess is you don't get your kids to all trainings and are grumpy your kid is given less play time. T or F. Are you at 90 percent of sessions?

OP here. FTR, my kid hasn’t missed a single practice and is never late. I respond to all emails in a timely manner. DC steps up and plays for other teams when players are needed. The only time I received any feedback was when I was writing out a check for the program. DD receives feedback in practices from assistant coaches but not the HC. I have never emailed or talked to the coach about it. That was the point of my post. Why do some posters in this forum always assume that it’s the players or the parents and the not the coach?

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all of the advice. We will move when we are able to. I’m disappointed that I wasted time and money in a program that doesn’t provide any feedback.

I think you are just upset because he doesn't notice your special child.

Are you always such a dick?

No one is the villain in their own story, especially a story about their kid. I find it pretty had to believe the OPs kid has never recieved any feedback from the HC. Maybe it isn't to the level OP wants because it does seem fro.hiw OPs posts are OP is looking for constant validation.

Or maybe OPs kid doesn't listen to the feedback given and the coach is done trying to provide it.

I’m sorry for whoever hurt you.

I really hate this fking stupid statement. WTF does that mean anyway? PP has a valid point and that’s your response?

-np

It doesn't mean anything. It is equivalent of sticking ones fingers in their ears and saying "LALALALALALALALA" because they don't want to accept an answer that might hurt someone's feelings.

Nope it means the poster is butt hurt about something and is taking it out on a stranger on the internet.

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Anonymous wrote:Based on response or non response my guess is you don't get your kids to all trainings and are grumpy your kid is given less play time. T or F. Are you at 90 percent of sessions?

OP here. FTR, my kid hasn’t missed a single practice and is never late. I respond to all emails in a timely manner. DC steps up and plays for other teams when players are needed. The only time I received any feedback was when I was writing out a check for the program. DD receives feedback in practices from assistant coaches but not the HC. I have never emailed or talked to the coach about it. That was the point of my post. Why do some posters in this forum always assume that it’s the players or the parents and the not the coach?

Just ignore the haters.

People generally hate athletes, they hate they get so much attention and go to great colleges.

If the coach sucks either learn skills to deal with it (who hasn't had a terrible boss) or leave and find a better coach.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all of the advice. We will move when we are able to. I’m disappointed that I wasted time and money in a program that doesn’t provide any feedback.

I think you are just upset because he doesn't notice your special child.

Are you always such a dick?

No one is the villain in their own story, especially a story about their kid. I find it pretty had to believe the OPs kid has never recieved any feedback from the HC. Maybe it isn't to the level OP wants because it does seem fro.hiw OPs posts are OP is looking for constant validation.

Or maybe OPs kid doesn't listen to the feedback given and the coach is done trying to provide it.

So, yes, then. You are always such a dick. Got it.

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all of the advice. We will move when we are able to. I’m disappointed that I wasted time and money in a program that doesn’t provide any feedback.

I think you are just upset because he doesn't notice your special child.

Are you always such a dick?

No one is the villain in their own story, especially a story about their kid. I find it pretty had to believe the OPs kid has never recieved any feedback from the HC. Maybe it isn't to the level OP wants because it does seem fro.hiw OPs posts are OP is looking for constant validation.

Or maybe OPs kid doesn't listen to the feedback given and the coach is done trying to provide it.

So, yes, then. You are always such a dick. Got it.

It’s pathetic that she lacks so much self awareness.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Based on response or non response my guess is you don't get your kids to all trainings and are grumpy your kid is given less play time. T or F. Are you at 90 percent of sessions?

OP here. FTR, my kid hasn’t missed a single practice and is never late. I respond to all emails in a timely manner. DC steps up and plays for other teams when players are needed. The only time I received any feedback was when I was writing out a check for the program. DD receives feedback in practices from assistant coaches but not the HC. I have never emailed or talked to the coach about it. That was the point of my post. Why do some posters in this forum always assume that it’s the players or the parents and the not the coach?

IDK OP. If it's the coach, I'd think there would be a lot more parents complaining. Why do you think this grown man (?) is picking a fight with your little kid?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Based on response or non response my guess is you don't get your kids to all trainings and are grumpy your kid is given less play time. T or F. Are you at 90 percent of sessions?

OP here. FTR, my kid hasn’t missed a single practice and is never late. I respond to all emails in a timely manner. DC steps up and plays for other teams when players are needed. The only time I received any feedback was when I was writing out a check for the program. DD receives feedback in practices from assistant coaches but not the HC. I have never emailed or talked to the coach about it. That was the point of my post. Why do some posters in this forum always assume that it’s the players or the parents and the not the coach?

IDK OP. If it's the coach, I'd think there would be a lot more parents complaining. Why do you think this grown man (?) is picking a fight with your little kid?

LOL, you clearly do not have kids who are athletes. One does not simply complain to a coach. Not unless you want to make things immeasurably worse for your kids.

There are a lot of sh----y coaches who have no business coaching. And, yes, that is a fair thing to say. It's not always the parents, the kids fault. In fact, in a lot of instances it is not.

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Anonymous wrote:Based on response or non response my guess is you don't get your kids to all trainings and are grumpy your kid is given less play time. T or F. Are you at 90 percent of sessions?

OP here. FTR, my kid hasn’t missed a single practice and is never late. I respond to all emails in a timely manner. DC steps up and plays for other teams when players are needed. The only time I received any feedback was when I was writing out a check for the program. DD receives feedback in practices from assistant coaches but not the HC. I have never emailed or talked to the coach about it. That was the point of my post. Why do some posters in this forum always assume that it’s the players or the parents and the not the coach?

IDK OP. If it's the coach, I'd think there would be a lot more parents complaining. Why do you think this grown man (?) is picking a fight with your little kid?

LOL, you clearly do not have kids who are athletes. One does not simply complain to a coach. Not unless you want to make things immeasurably worse for your kids.

There are a lot of sh----y coaches who have no business coaching. And, yes, that is a fair thing to say. It's not always the parents, the kids fault. In fact, in a lot of instances it is not.

+1

Absolutely some coaches are awful. It isn’t always parents. In that situation best thing to do is keep mouth shut, and then thank the coach and move to a new team after the season ends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Based on response or non response my guess is you don't get your kids to all trainings and are grumpy your kid is given less play time. T or F. Are you at 90 percent of sessions?

OP here. FTR, my kid hasn’t missed a single practice and is never late. I respond to all emails in a timely manner. DC steps up and plays for other teams when players are needed. The only time I received any feedback was when I was writing out a check for the program. DD receives feedback in practices from assistant coaches but not the HC. I have never emailed or talked to the coach about it. That was the point of my post. Why do some posters in this forum always assume that it’s the players or the parents and the not the coach?

IDK OP. If it's the coach, I'd think there would be a lot more parents complaining. Why do you think this grown man (?) is picking a fight with your little kid?

LOL, you clearly do not have kids who are athletes. One does not simply complain to a coach. Not unless you want to make things immeasurably worse for your kids.

There are a lot of sh----y coaches who have no business coaching. And, yes, that is a fair thing to say. It's not always the parents, the kids fault. In fact, in a lot of instances it is not.

+1

Absolutely some coaches are awful. It isn’t always parents. In that situation best thing to do is keep mouth shut, and then thank the coach and move to a new team after the season ends.

Boneheads. YOU put your child there. Pull them out and stop bit*hing about coaches!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Based on response or non response my guess is you don't get your kids to all trainings and are grumpy your kid is given less play time. T or F. Are you at 90 percent of sessions?

OP here. FTR, my kid hasn’t missed a single practice and is never late. I respond to all emails in a timely manner. DC steps up and plays for other teams when players are needed. The only time I received any feedback was when I was writing out a check for the program. DD receives feedback in practices from assistant coaches but not the HC. I have never emailed or talked to the coach about it. That was the point of my post. Why do some posters in this forum always assume that it’s the players or the parents and the not the coach?

IDK OP. If it's the coach, I'd think there would be a lot more parents complaining. Why do you think this grown man (?) is picking a fight with your little kid?

LOL, you clearly do not have kids who are athletes. One does not simply complain to a coach. Not unless you want to make things immeasurably worse for your kids.

There are a lot of sh----y coaches who have no business coaching. And, yes, that is a fair thing to say. It's not always the parents, the kids fault. In fact, in a lot of instances it is not.

+1

Absolutely some coaches are awful. It isn’t always parents. In that situation best thing to do is keep mouth shut, and then thank the coach and move to a new team after the season ends.

Boneheads. YOU put your child there. Pull them out and stop bit*hing about coaches!!

Are you always this dumb? You don't know the coach is a bad one until you're on the team. And that is entirely the point of the PP - NOT TO COMPLAIN to them, because they don't care, but to move your kid. And as for talking about them to other after the fact . . . you reap what you sow. Don't want the rep? Be better.

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Anonymous wrote:Based on response or non response my guess is you don't get your kids to all trainings and are grumpy your kid is given less play time. T or F. Are you at 90 percent of sessions?

OP here. FTR, my kid hasn’t missed a single practice and is never late. I respond to all emails in a timely manner. DC steps up and plays for other teams when players are needed. The only time I received any feedback was when I was writing out a check for the program. DD receives feedback in practices from assistant coaches but not the HC. I have never emailed or talked to the coach about it. That was the point of my post. Why do some posters in this forum always assume that it’s the players or the parents and the not the coach?

IDK OP. If it's the coach, I'd think there would be a lot more parents complaining. Why do you think this grown man (?) is picking a fight with your little kid?

LOL, you clearly do not have kids who are athletes. One does not simply complain to a coach. Not unless you want to make things immeasurably worse for your kids.

There are a lot of sh----y coaches who have no business coaching. And, yes, that is a fair thing to say. It's not always the parents, the kids fault. In fact, in a lot of instances it is not.

+1

Absolutely some coaches are awful. It isn’t always parents. In that situation best thing to do is keep mouth shut, and then thank the coach and move to a new team after the season ends.

OP, I’m in this situation and this is how I’m dealing with it. I am a quiet person and it’s hard for me to see how I caused this. DC is a really hard worker, and skilled, but the coach just doesn’t like him or his playing style. We don’t push back or ask questions of the coach. We don’t criticize the coach in front of DC. We tell DC to keep working hard and good things will happen. The season is over half way over and we plan to move on. It’s not a fit and I’m tired of trying to understand why.