Why is the OW less attractive?

Anonymous
I’m not. And he’s better looking than my DH too.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:This isn’t what I have observed. Happily married men don’t cheat with ugly women.


Happily married men don’t cheat.

My AP is content enough in his marriage. And I have no intention of leaving either. But I am more beautiful than his wife and he says I’m the best sex of his life.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Like a PP said, it's about availability and willingness. Gorgeous women are generally not available and willing to get the OW $h*tty-end-of-the-stick from a man. Unattractive women are willing to put up with a lot more BS because they are afraid they can't do better.


This. They are punching way above their weight. They can only do that with married men who are just looking for outside sex and not permanent relationships.



[Probably the OW is also only looking for sex and not a permanent relationship.



WRONG. Men like to believe this, but it’s at their peril.


Agree, they hope for a commitment.


So fascinated how these faithful wives know so much about the other women!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:The OW has issues, perhap based at least in part in her looks, that cause her to settle for being OW.

Most OW are already married and not looking to steal or land a guy or the common misconception that they want an exit plan. Sorry to destroy your narrative.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:They’re not; this is a myth that betrayed wives cling to in order to comfort themselves.

We've seen these women. They are less than in every way.


You’re not exactly an objective judge of any of this.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They’re not; this is a myth that betrayed wives cling to in order to comfort themselves.

We've seen these women. They are less than in every way.


You’re not exactly an objective judge of any of this.


If the other woman is single she’s usually really bottom barrel. If she’s married and doesn’t want to leave her husband she is a much better catch typically. In line with what others have mentioned….pretty women marry, unattractive women are more likely not to marry.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:It has been my experience from seeing friends and family members, that the “other woman” is less attractive than the man’s wife.

For example, my friend is tall, beautiful, accomplished, and her husband’s mistress is short, fat, and not as well educated. I saw it with my aunt and with my sister-in-law.

What gives? Why would a man go for something worse?


1) This isn’t consistently true. Especially in cultures where marriages are either arranged or otherwise not love matches.
2) Looks aren’t everything. I’ve heard men say that they craved kindness from women. There are also less beautiful women who are charismatic and very sexually adept. Cleopatra was not a beauty, but she had a magnetic personality.


This second point. It feels great after years of marriage to discover that someone finds you attractive.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Because the ugly woman will go to great lengths to make him feel validated.


It is this.
Anonymous
It all bout getting your nut who cares about looks
Anonymous
the difference is, the ugly woman does everything in bed the wife doesn't.
Anonymous
Disagree this is universally true. The OW tends to be prettier, fitter, more stylish, and better educated if the husband is auditioning for Wife #2. Especially if the husband and the first wife married young and then the husband became successful. These are the men looking for an "upgrade" to Wife #2. The last two CEOs i worked for fit into this mold.
Anonymous
It's about validation.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:In my case it was these factors:

She came on strong to him at work and although he resisted for awhile eventually he gave in.

She shared his desires to drink and occasionally get high which I totally didn't although I didn't give him crap about it either.

I think he actually preferred someone who was kind of slutty which I was not.

It wasn't that she was more willing to have sex, we had sex at least 4-5 times a week, I was always willing and thought we had a great sex life.

She was definitely less attractive, I wish I could show you a picture, but at this point I'm like, whatever, who can explain these things.



It is nuts to me that someone having this much sex needed more sex. I’m sorry op. Sounds like a ridic level of need for sex beyond any normal human (not you)
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:In my case it was these factors:

She came on strong to him at work and although he resisted for awhile eventually he gave in.

She shared his desires to drink and occasionally get high which I totally didn't although I didn't give him crap about it either.

I think he actually preferred someone who was kind of slutty which I was not.

It wasn't that she was more willing to have sex, we had sex at least 4-5 times a week, I was always willing and thought we had a great sex life.

She was definitely less attractive, I wish I could show you a picture, but at this point I'm like, whatever, who can explain these things.



It is nuts to me that someone having this much sex needed more sex. I’m sorry op. Sounds like a ridic level of need for sex beyond any normal human (not you)


*pp
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This isn’t what I have observed. Happily married men don’t cheat with ugly women.


Happily married men don’t cheat.

My AP is content enough in his marriage. And I have no intention of leaving either. But I am more beautiful than his wife and he says I’m the best sex of his life.

I bet he says this to all his APs.
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