People who can barely afford private should skip it.

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Private is totally worth it to us. Every hard earned penny. Whether that makes sense to you or not. It's really that simple.

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Anonymous wrote:Private is totally worth it to us. Every hard earned penny. Whether that makes sense to you or not. It's really that simple.

Agree. Why people just want to decide what other people should do or should not do.

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Anonymous wrote:There is SO much teeth-gnashing on this board about if it’s “worth it.” It’s honestly only worth it if it isn’t a major sacrifice for you. If you’re entering the application process already stressed about what you’re going to get for the money, and especially if what you want to “get” is anything more than a solid education for your child, you’re going to end up disappointed.

I agree with this. The unspoken truth is that a lot of kids in these schools have private tutors to get an edge, have legacy to depend on for college admissions, etc. It's only worth it for truly wealthy families and scholarship kids who go on a full ride.

My personal advice for upper-middle class families that struggle for the tuition, is just to send your kid to public and pay for tutors in every subject. It will be much cheaper per year, and your kid will likely learn more from 1-on-1 tutoring vs private School. Bloom's two-sigma study shows that 1-on-1 tutoring is extremely effective.

Instead of paying $50k in tuition, you could spend half of that for an elite college admissions private consultant. They would make your kid 10x better applicant than anyone coming from a public school, and give you the inside track to a top college.

We have a seven figure income and can afford private. We just switched one kid to private and there are definite positives but I am not sure if it is worth the extra commute and all the complaining from my son about wearing a tie everyday. Tuition is a non factor for us.

We live in a well regarded public. I don’t think private would give my kid a college admissions boost. He isn’t ivy material and he should be able to get into the same colleges from public.

You are unusually self-aware for this forum! I have 3 in private. They are all straight A students and I actively discourage ivy schools for them. They can achieve their goals with a solid public state school. I think the pressure in the Ivies will do more harm than good for them. They are naturally tightly wound and a bit anxious. I'm definitely in the minority at Big 3..

I find this attitude puzzling. Large state schools have many of the same issues as the public schools you avoided. Massive class sizes, taught mainly by adjuncts, etc. Also, your private HS has many of the problems you are trying to avoid at an Ivy such as all the pressure and stress.

I mean…what am I missing here?

You are missing why we chose private in the first place - for very young developing children - the nurturing environment. When they leave in 12th grade, they are adults. They define themselves and need less parental intervention, nurturing, etc. We worked with the school to get them to this point. Public schools work to provide the education not develop a child. Large public universities are also providing an education - for adults. I'm sending them as adults and they are ready for the large class sizes, work load, distractions, etc.

I do believe public schools plus parenting could produce the same result. (I came from public school). I also believe that for me it's easier to parent with a robust community and the school was part of that.

Why can’t they handle the Ivy stress as adults by your measure?

Why put them in a high stress “Ivy-like” environment as children?

I don't wish that life for my child. Do it for yours. I want mine to be balanced well-rounded and successful at life - children/community/friends - the whole package. Grads from these places are by and large not balanced - I know because some of them work for me. Many end up working very long hours at equally competitive jobs - it never ends. No thanks!

Plus, we have a very high HHI and I went to a low-stress flagship Midwest state school.
Because I was able to be top of my class there - probably not possible at Ivy - I had tons of opportunities. I simply don't believe Ivies are the ticket to a better life. If you do, fine. My kids can choose that if they want, but I don't want it for them.

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Anonymous wrote:There is SO much teeth-gnashing on this board about if it’s “worth it.” It’s honestly only worth it if it isn’t a major sacrifice for you. If you’re entering the application process already stressed about what you’re going to get for the money, and especially if what you want to “get” is anything more than a solid education for your child, you’re going to end up disappointed.

I agree with this. The unspoken truth is that a lot of kids in these schools have private tutors to get an edge, have legacy to depend on for college admissions, etc. It's only worth it for truly wealthy families and scholarship kids who go on a full ride.

My personal advice for upper-middle class families that struggle for the tuition, is just to send your kid to public and pay for tutors in every subject. It will be much cheaper per year, and your kid will likely learn more from 1-on-1 tutoring vs private School. Bloom's two-sigma study shows that 1-on-1 tutoring is extremely effective.

Instead of paying $50k in tuition, you could spend half of that for an elite college admissions private consultant. They would make your kid 10x better applicant than anyone coming from a public school, and give you the inside track to a top college.

We have a seven figure income and can afford private. We just switched one kid to private and there are definite positives but I am not sure if it is worth the extra commute and all the complaining from my son about wearing a tie everyday. Tuition is a non factor for us.

We live in a well regarded public. I don’t think private would give my kid a college admissions boost. He isn’t ivy material and he should be able to get into the same colleges from public.

You are unusually self-aware for this forum! I have 3 in private. They are all straight A students and I actively discourage ivy schools for them. They can achieve their goals with a solid public state school. I think the pressure in the Ivies will do more harm than good for them. They are naturally tightly wound and a bit anxious. I'm definitely in the minority at Big 3..

I find this attitude puzzling. Large state schools have many of the same issues as the public schools you avoided. Massive class sizes, taught mainly by adjuncts, etc. Also, your private HS has many of the problems you are trying to avoid at an Ivy such as all the pressure and stress.

I mean…what am I missing here?

You are missing why we chose private in the first place - for very young developing children - the nurturing environment. When they leave in 12th grade, they are adults. They define themselves and need less parental intervention, nurturing, etc. We worked with the school to get them to this point. Public schools work to provide the education not develop a child. Large public universities are also providing an education - for adults. I'm sending them as adults and they are ready for the large class sizes, work load, distractions, etc.

I do believe public schools plus parenting could produce the same result. (I came from public school). I also believe that for me it's easier to parent with a robust community and the school was part of that.

Why can’t they handle the Ivy stress as adults by your measure?

Why put them in a high stress “Ivy-like” environment as children?

I don't wish that life for my child. Do it for yours. I want mine to be balanced well-rounded and successful at life - children/community/friends - the whole package. Grads from these places are by and large not balanced - I know because some of them work for me. Many end up working very long hours at equally competitive jobs - it never ends. No thanks!

Plus, we have a very high HHI and I went to a low-stress flagship Midwest state school.
Because I was able to be top of my class there - probably not possible at Ivy - I had tons of opportunities. I simply don't believe Ivies are the ticket to a better life. If you do, fine. My kids can choose that if they want, but I don't want it for them.

I was responding to a poster that said they were sending their kid to a Big3 private school, but State college. That does not sound like you, because you would not send your kid to a Big3 private school which unless everyone is lying on various other threads...are anxiety-inducing, stressful places.

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Anonymous wrote:Private is totally worth it to us. Every hard earned penny. Whether that makes sense to you or not. It's really that simple.

Agree. Why people just want to decide what other people should do or should not do.

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It is a very individual decision that doesn't need to be justified or crowd sourced or judged.

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Anonymous wrote:There is SO much teeth-gnashing on this board about if it’s “worth it.” It’s honestly only worth it if it isn’t a major sacrifice for you. If you’re entering the application process already stressed about what you’re going to get for the money, and especially if what you want to “get” is anything more than a solid education for your child, you’re going to end up disappointed.

I agree with this. The unspoken truth is that a lot of kids in these schools have private tutors to get an edge, have legacy to depend on for college admissions, etc. It's only worth it for truly wealthy families and scholarship kids who go on a full ride.

My personal advice for upper-middle class families that struggle for the tuition, is just to send your kid to public and pay for tutors in every subject. It will be much cheaper per year, and your kid will likely learn more from 1-on-1 tutoring vs private School. Bloom's two-sigma study shows that 1-on-1 tutoring is extremely effective.

Instead of paying $50k in tuition, you could spend half of that for an elite college admissions private consultant. They would make your kid 10x better applicant than anyone coming from a public school, and give you the inside track to a top college.

We have a seven figure income and can afford private. We just switched one kid to private and there are definite positives but I am not sure if it is worth the extra commute and all the complaining from my son about wearing a tie everyday. Tuition is a non factor for us.

We live in a well regarded public. I don’t think private would give my kid a college admissions boost. He isn’t ivy material and he should be able to get into the same colleges from public.

You are unusually self-aware for this forum! I have 3 in private. They are all straight A students and I actively discourage ivy schools for them. They can achieve their goals with a solid public state school. I think the pressure in the Ivies will do more harm than good for them. They are naturally tightly wound and a bit anxious. I'm definitely in the minority at Big 3..

I find this attitude puzzling. Large state schools have many of the same issues as the public schools you avoided. Massive class sizes, taught mainly by adjuncts, etc. Also, your private HS has many of the problems you are trying to avoid at an Ivy such as all the pressure and stress.

I mean…what am I missing here?

You are missing why we chose private in the first place - for very young developing children - the nurturing environment. When they leave in 12th grade, they are adults. They define themselves and need less parental intervention, nurturing, etc. We worked with the school to get them to this point. Public schools work to provide the education not develop a child. Large public universities are also providing an education - for adults. I'm sending them as adults and they are ready for the large class sizes, work load, distractions, etc.

I do believe public schools plus parenting could produce the same result. (I came from public school). I also believe that for me it's easier to parent with a robust community and the school was part of that.

Why can’t they handle the Ivy stress as adults by your measure?

Why put them in a high stress “Ivy-like” environment as children?

I don't wish that life for my child. Do it for yours. I want mine to be balanced well-rounded and successful at life - children/community/friends - the whole package. Grads from these places are by and large not balanced - I know because some of them work for me. Many end up working very long hours at equally competitive jobs - it never ends. No thanks!

Plus, we have a very high HHI and I went to a low-stress flagship Midwest state school.
Because I was able to be top of my class there - probably not possible at Ivy - I had tons of opportunities. I simply don't believe Ivies are the ticket to a better life. If you do, fine. My kids can choose that if they want, but I don't want it for them.

I was responding to a poster that said they were sending their kid to a Big3 private school, but State college. That does not sound like you, because you would not send your kid to a Big3 private school which unless everyone is lying on various other threads...are anxiety-inducing, stressful places.

That was me. Children thrive in smaller nurturing environments. They grow to be strong resilient adults, given the right environment. My kids would be fine at Ivies, but the stress of being there is not worth the reward. What is the reward - a stressful job? Big 3 is whole child nurturing. The stress doesn't come until HS, maybe a tiny bit in MS - my kids exit point from this is graduation, when they are fully developed adults who can handle anything.

It a personal decision, make a different one if that makes sense to you.

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Anonymous wrote:are anxiety-inducing, stressful places

...for some of the students. You would have us believe that it's like that for all or even most of them.

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I question the motive of someone who comes all the way to this forum to tell people how to spend their money.

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Anonymous wrote:are anxiety-inducing, stressful places

...for some of the students. You would have us believe that it's like that for all or even most of them.

Well, I know my kids; you know yours. I can't believe anything FOR you; you have to think for yourself. There is no one size fits all path through life or through education, which makes these discussions a bit moot.

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Anonymous wrote:I question the motive of someone who comes all the way to this forum to tell people how to spend their money.

Ha! Me too! Good point.

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Anonymous wrote:I question the motive of someone who comes all the way to this forum to tell people how to spend their money.

OP probably wants people to think about it, in case they're wondering about a change of school for their children.
This is what people use DCUM for - to seek different, or more honest, points of view than the ones in their real-life social circles, so they can make an informed decision.

I think it's a legitimate use of this forum.

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Anonymous wrote:There is SO much teeth-gnashing on this board about if it’s “worth it.” It’s honestly only worth it if it isn’t a major sacrifice for you. If you’re entering the application process already stressed about what you’re going to get for the money, and especially if what you want to “get” is anything more than a solid education for your child, you’re going to end up disappointed.

I agree with this. The unspoken truth is that a lot of kids in these schools have private tutors to get an edge, have legacy to depend on for college admissions, etc. It's only worth it for truly wealthy families and scholarship kids who go on a full ride.

My personal advice for upper-middle class families that struggle for the tuition, is just to send your kid to public and pay for tutors in every subject. It will be much cheaper per year, and your kid will likely learn more from 1-on-1 tutoring vs private School. Bloom's two-sigma study shows that 1-on-1 tutoring is extremely effective.

Instead of paying $50k in tuition, you could spend half of that for an elite college admissions private consultant. They would make your kid 10x better applicant than anyone coming from a public school, and give you the inside track to a top college.

We have a seven figure income and can afford private. We just switched one kid to private and there are definite positives but I am not sure if it is worth the extra commute and all the complaining from my son about wearing a tie everyday. Tuition is a non factor for us.

We live in a well regarded public. I don’t think private would give my kid a college admissions boost. He isn’t ivy material and he should be able to get into the same colleges from public.

You are unusually self-aware for this forum! I have 3 in private. They are all straight A students and I actively discourage ivy schools for them. They can achieve their goals with a solid public state school. I think the pressure in the Ivies will do more harm than good for them. They are naturally tightly wound and a bit anxious. I'm definitely in the minority at Big 3..

I find this attitude puzzling. Large state schools have many of the same issues as the public schools you avoided. Massive class sizes, taught mainly by adjuncts, etc. Also, your private HS has many of the problems you are trying to avoid at an Ivy such as all the pressure and stress.

I mean…what am I missing here?

You are missing why we chose private in the first place - for very young developing children - the nurturing environment. When they leave in 12th grade, they are adults. They define themselves and need less parental intervention, nurturing, etc. We worked with the school to get them to this point. Public schools work to provide the education not develop a child. Large public universities are also providing an education - for adults. I'm sending them as adults and they are ready for the large class sizes, work load, distractions, etc.

I do believe public schools plus parenting could produce the same result. (I came from public school). I also believe that for me it's easier to parent with a robust community and the school was part of that.

Why can’t they handle the Ivy stress as adults by your measure?

Why put them in a high stress “Ivy-like” environment as children?

I don't wish that life for my child. Do it for yours. I want mine to be balanced well-rounded and successful at life - children/community/friends - the whole package. Grads from these places are by and large not balanced - I know because some of them work for me. Many end up working very long hours at equally competitive jobs - it never ends. No thanks!

Plus, we have a very high HHI and I went to a low-stress flagship Midwest state school.
Because I was able to be top of my class there - probably not possible at Ivy - I had tons of opportunities. I simply don't believe Ivies are the ticket to a better life. If you do, fine. My kids can choose that if they want, but I don't want it for them.

I was responding to a poster that said they were sending their kid to a Big3 private school, but State college. That does not sound like you, because you would not send your kid to a Big3 private school which unless everyone is lying on various other threads...are anxiety-inducing, stressful places.

That was me. Children thrive in smaller nurturing environments. They grow to be strong resilient adults, given the right environment. My kids would be fine at Ivies, but the stress of being there is not worth the reward. What is the reward - a stressful job? Big 3 is whole child nurturing. The stress doesn't come until HS, maybe a tiny bit in MS - my kids exit point from this is graduation, when they are fully developed adults who can handle anything.

It a personal decision, make a different one if that makes sense to you.

You just perhaps are turning a blind eye to how stressful your kid's HS experience will be. I guess that is fine, but the Ivy school will be no different from the HS where you are literally sending your kid right now as we speak. So, again, I don't understand why you keep saying the Ivy school is so stressful, while ignoring the pressure-cooker school where your kids attend right now as we speak.

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Anonymous wrote:There is SO much teeth-gnashing on this board about if it’s “worth it.” It’s honestly only worth it if it isn’t a major sacrifice for you. If you’re entering the application process already stressed about what you’re going to get for the money, and especially if what you want to “get” is anything more than a solid education for your child, you’re going to end up disappointed.

I agree with this. The unspoken truth is that a lot of kids in these schools have private tutors to get an edge, have legacy to depend on for college admissions, etc. It's only worth it for truly wealthy families and scholarship kids who go on a full ride.

My personal advice for upper-middle class families that struggle for the tuition, is just to send your kid to public and pay for tutors in every subject. It will be much cheaper per year, and your kid will likely learn more from 1-on-1 tutoring vs private School. Bloom's two-sigma study shows that 1-on-1 tutoring is extremely effective.

Instead of paying $50k in tuition, you could spend half of that for an elite college admissions private consultant. They would make your kid 10x better applicant than anyone coming from a public school, and give you the inside track to a top college.

We have a seven figure income and can afford private. We just switched one kid to private and there are definite positives but I am not sure if it is worth the extra commute and all the complaining from my son about wearing a tie everyday. Tuition is a non factor for us.

We live in a well regarded public. I don’t think private would give my kid a college admissions boost. He isn’t ivy material and he should be able to get into the same colleges from public.

You are unusually self-aware for this forum! I have 3 in private. They are all straight A students and I actively discourage ivy schools for them. They can achieve their goals with a solid public state school. I think the pressure in the Ivies will do more harm than good for them. They are naturally tightly wound and a bit anxious. I'm definitely in the minority at Big 3..

I find this attitude puzzling. Large state schools have many of the same issues as the public schools you avoided. Massive class sizes, taught mainly by adjuncts, etc. Also, your private HS has many of the problems you are trying to avoid at an Ivy such as all the pressure and stress.

I mean…what am I missing here?

You are missing why we chose private in the first place - for very young developing children - the nurturing environment. When they leave in 12th grade, they are adults. They define themselves and need less parental intervention, nurturing, etc. We worked with the school to get them to this point. Public schools work to provide the education not develop a child. Large public universities are also providing an education - for adults. I'm sending them as adults and they are ready for the large class sizes, work load, distractions, etc.

I do believe public schools plus parenting could produce the same result. (I came from public school). I also believe that for me it's easier to parent with a robust community and the school was part of that.

Why can’t they handle the Ivy stress as adults by your measure?

Why put them in a high stress “Ivy-like” environment as children?

I don't wish that life for my child. Do it for yours. I want mine to be balanced well-rounded and successful at life - children/community/friends - the whole package. Grads from these places are by and large not balanced - I know because some of them work for me. Many end up working very long hours at equally competitive jobs - it never ends. No thanks!

Plus, we have a very high HHI and I went to a low-stress flagship Midwest state school.
Because I was able to be top of my class there - probably not possible at Ivy - I had tons of opportunities. I simply don't believe Ivies are the ticket to a better life. If you do, fine. My kids can choose that if they want, but I don't want it for them.

I was responding to a poster that said they were sending their kid to a Big3 private school, but State college. That does not sound like you, because you would not send your kid to a Big3 private school which unless everyone is lying on various other threads...are anxiety-inducing, stressful places.

That was me. Children thrive in smaller nurturing environments. They grow to be strong resilient adults, given the right environment. My kids would be fine at Ivies, but the stress of being there is not worth the reward. What is the reward - a stressful job? Big 3 is whole child nurturing. The stress doesn't come until HS, maybe a tiny bit in MS - my kids exit point from this is graduation, when they are fully developed adults who can handle anything.

It a personal decision, make a different one if that makes sense to you.

You just perhaps are turning a blind eye to how stressful your kid's HS experience will be. I guess that is fine, but the Ivy school will be no different from the HS where you are literally sending your kid right now as we speak. So, again, I don't understand why you keep saying the Ivy school is so stressful, while ignoring the pressure-cooker school where your kids attend right now as we speak.

Can you read? I get this fully, which is why I'm guiding my kids the way I am. I can state the reasons again to you, but I will never be able to understand it FOR you.

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Anonymous wrote:There is SO much teeth-gnashing on this board about if it’s “worth it.” It’s honestly only worth it if it isn’t a major sacrifice for you. If you’re entering the application process already stressed about what you’re going to get for the money, and especially if what you want to “get” is anything more than a solid education for your child, you’re going to end up disappointed.

I agree with this. The unspoken truth is that a lot of kids in these schools have private tutors to get an edge, have legacy to depend on for college admissions, etc. It's only worth it for truly wealthy families and scholarship kids who go on a full ride.

My personal advice for upper-middle class families that struggle for the tuition, is just to send your kid to public and pay for tutors in every subject. It will be much cheaper per year, and your kid will likely learn more from 1-on-1 tutoring vs private School. Bloom's two-sigma study shows that 1-on-1 tutoring is extremely effective.

Instead of paying $50k in tuition, you could spend half of that for an elite college admissions private consultant. They would make your kid 10x better applicant than anyone coming from a public school, and give you the inside track to a top college.

We have a seven figure income and can afford private. We just switched one kid to private and there are definite positives but I am not sure if it is worth the extra commute and all the complaining from my son about wearing a tie everyday. Tuition is a non factor for us.

We live in a well regarded public. I don’t think private would give my kid a college admissions boost. He isn’t ivy material and he should be able to get into the same colleges from public.

You are unusually self-aware for this forum! I have 3 in private. They are all straight A students and I actively discourage ivy schools for them. They can achieve their goals with a solid public state school. I think the pressure in the Ivies will do more harm than good for them. They are naturally tightly wound and a bit anxious. I'm definitely in the minority at Big 3..

I find this attitude puzzling. Large state schools have many of the same issues as the public schools you avoided. Massive class sizes, taught mainly by adjuncts, etc. Also, your private HS has many of the problems you are trying to avoid at an Ivy such as all the pressure and stress.

I mean…what am I missing here?

You are missing why we chose private in the first place - for very young developing children - the nurturing environment. When they leave in 12th grade, they are adults. They define themselves and need less parental intervention, nurturing, etc. We worked with the school to get them to this point. Public schools work to provide the education not develop a child. Large public universities are also providing an education - for adults. I'm sending them as adults and they are ready for the large class sizes, work load, distractions, etc.

I do believe public schools plus parenting could produce the same result. (I came from public school). I also believe that for me it's easier to parent with a robust community and the school was part of that.

Why can’t they handle the Ivy stress as adults by your measure?

Why put them in a high stress “Ivy-like” environment as children?

I don't wish that life for my child. Do it for yours. I want mine to be balanced well-rounded and successful at life - children/community/friends - the whole package. Grads from these places are by and large not balanced - I know because some of them work for me. Many end up working very long hours at equally competitive jobs - it never ends. No thanks!

Plus, we have a very high HHI and I went to a low-stress flagship Midwest state school.
Because I was able to be top of my class there - probably not possible at Ivy - I had tons of opportunities. I simply don't believe Ivies are the ticket to a better life. If you do, fine. My kids can choose that if they want, but I don't want it for them.

I was responding to a poster that said they were sending their kid to a Big3 private school, but State college. That does not sound like you, because you would not send your kid to a Big3 private school which unless everyone is lying on various other threads...are anxiety-inducing, stressful places.

That was me. Children thrive in smaller nurturing environments. They grow to be strong resilient adults, given the right environment. My kids would be fine at Ivies, but the stress of being there is not worth the reward. What is the reward - a stressful job? Big 3 is whole child nurturing. The stress doesn't come until HS, maybe a tiny bit in MS - my kids exit point from this is graduation, when they are fully developed adults who can handle anything.

It a personal decision, make a different one if that makes sense to you.

You just perhaps are turning a blind eye to how stressful your kid's HS experience will be. I guess that is fine, but the Ivy school will be no different from the HS where you are literally sending your kid right now as we speak. So, again, I don't understand why you keep saying the Ivy school is so stressful, while ignoring the pressure-cooker school where your kids attend right now as we speak.

Can you read? I get this fully, which is why I'm guiding my kids the way I am. I can state the reasons again to you, but I will never be able to understand it FOR you.

You keep describing your current school as this wonderful, nurturing environment...which unless everyone else is lying, is absolutely not how it will be once they hit HS. Big3 is not whole-child nurturing at HS.

It is odd that you are sending your kid to a school where HS will be every bit as stressful as an Ivy school...so they should be absolutely fully prepared to handle that environment. They Ivy school should not be stressful to them...your Big3 school is preparing them for that exact environment.

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Anonymous wrote:You keep describing your current school as this wonderful, nurturing environment...which unless everyone else is lying, is absolutely not how it will be once they hit HS. Big3 is not whole-child nurturing at HS.

It is odd that you are sending your kid to a school where HS will be every bit as stressful as an Ivy school...so they should be absolutely fully prepared to handle that environment. They Ivy school should not be stressful to them...your Big3 school is preparing them for that exact environment.

PP said: "The stress doesn't come until HS, maybe a tiny bit in MS." These schools are absolutely whole-child nuturing up in lower school, and to some extent in middle school too.