I secretly hate my spouse’s eye color (brown)

[Anonymous]

Do you not have any real problems op?

[Anonymous]

Divorce is the only sensible solution here, OP. Don’t wait! Lawyer up and file today!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound insane, so yeah I'd say that's bad.

+1

[Anonymous]

We all have brown eyes in the family, due to Asian genes.

I'm half-Asian, and as an infant, I had PURPLE eyes. Then they turned brown and my green-eyed Caucasian mother was so disappointed! I hear this can happen in Caucasian babies. Usually 100% Asian babies always have dark brown eyes.

So I understand. In the same vein, I wish I had curly hair. But both my parents have straight hair, so... no hope of that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is the stupidest thing on DCUM today and I'm sure you know what a feat that is.

You’re not the first PP to respond with this, but why do you think it’s stupid? I can see shallow and racist, but why stupid?

Dp Because what is the point except telling us how shallow the op is. If they didn't like brown eyes why did you marry someone with brown eyes? So, it is your problem op

I’m OP. I married him because I love him. I just wish his eyes were blue. It’s not the end of the world that they’re not. It’s just a personal preference.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH always says his eyes are green but they don't look green at all to me. We've just agreed to disagree.

This is true of everyone who says they have green eyes. I have never seen anyone who has objectively green eyes. But people love to say they have green eyes because they think it makes them “special.”

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Anonymous wrote:You sound insane, so yeah I'd say that's bad.

I love brown eyes and my current partner’s are hazel. My exDH also had hazel eyes. I DGAF. Omg OP who cares?! If you don’t love looking into the eyes of the person you love there’s something seriously wrong with you.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH always says his eyes are green but they don't look green at all to me. We've just agreed to disagree.

This is true of everyone who says they have green eyes. I have never seen anyone who has objectively green eyes. But people love to say they have green eyes because they think it makes them “special.”

DP. I have no idea what the scientific stats are on green versus "hazel" but, as someone with hazel eyes married to someone with hazel eyes, I think that a lot of people whose eyes are hazel tend to describe their own eyes as green (though I say hazel). Hazel is technically a green-brown combination, often with brown in a ring around the iris and green surrounding that, so the predominant color is very often much more green than brown. I don't think people claim green because "it makes them 'special.'" I think they just see mostly green. It's a bit petty-minded to assume that people who call their own eye color green are doing so just out of vanity. A lot of people don't even really know what "hazel" means in eye color or why it's differentiated from green, so it's probably easier to say, or put onto forms, "green eyes."

[Anonymous]

PSA: Yes, preference for blue eyes is racist because it's inherently preferring a trait that by and large only white people have and that is genetically determined. Sorry if that shocks or offends anyone who never put two and two together and thought it was innocuous all their lives. I only realized it myself when I was in my 30s.

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Anonymous wrote:PSA: Yes, preference for blue eyes is racist because it's inherently preferring a trait that by and large only white people have and that is genetically determined. Sorry if that shocks or offends anyone who never put two and two together and thought it was innocuous all their lives. I only realized it myself when I was in my 30s.

ETA: I would soften the use of "racist" to say "biased," i.e., strong preference for/praise of blue eyes evinces unconscious bias, and the social preference for blue eyes is likely linked to bias.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorce is the only sensible solution here, OP. Don’t wait! Lawyer up and file today!

A case of irreconcilable differences if I've ever heard one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH always says his eyes are green but they don't look green at all to me. We've just agreed to disagree.

This is true of everyone who says they have green eyes. I have never seen anyone who has objectively green eyes. But people love to say they have green eyes because they think it makes them “special.”

DP. I have no idea what the scientific stats are on green versus "hazel" but, as someone with hazel eyes married to someone with hazel eyes, I think that a lot of people whose eyes are hazel tend to describe their own eyes as green (though I say hazel). Hazel is technically a green-brown combination, often with brown in a ring around the iris and green surrounding that, so the predominant color is very often much more green than brown. I don't think people claim green because "it makes them 'special.'" I think they just see mostly green. It's a bit petty-minded to assume that people who call their own eye color green are doing so just out of vanity. A lot of people don't even really know what "hazel" means in eye color or why it's differentiated from green, so it's probably easier to say, or put onto forms, "green eyes."

You’re right that the word “hazel” is confusing. My SIL told me that light brown eyes are hazel and that only dark brown eyes are actually “brown.” I’ve never heard before that hazel can have a greenish component to it.

I think the “green” you’re talking about here is more of an olive-y brownish green, that reads to most people as brown. We all look at our own eyes in the mirror while brushing our teeth or putting on makeup, so we might see those little flecks of “green” that no one else would notice. Most people just see a light brown color. I do think that most people who say their eyes are green just think it sounds more special than brown, for whatever reason.

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Anonymous wrote:I've been married for 14 years and confess I don't even know what my spouse's eye color is. All I know is that it's not brown, so I guess I'm luckier than OP.

What’s wrong with brown eyes and why would that make you luckier??

[Anonymous]

That’s pretty rude. They came with that eye color, they had no choice in the matter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH always says his eyes are green but they don't look green at all to me. We've just agreed to disagree.

This is true of everyone who says they have green eyes. I have never seen anyone who has objectively green eyes. But people love to say they have green eyes because they think it makes them “special.”

Whenever I think about green eyes I think about the Nat Geo Afghan Girl:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Afghan_Girl