I secretly hate my spouse’s eye color (brown)
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Anonymous
Dp Because what is the point except telling us how shallow the op is. If they didn't like brown eyes why did you marry someone with brown eyes? So, it is your problem op |
Anonymous
Why racist? People of all different races have brown eyes. |
Anonymous
It's a stupid post because: 1. HE WAS BORN THIS WAY AND YOU KNEW WHAT HIS EYE COLOR WAS WHEN YOU MARRIED HIM 2. other than wearing contacts, HE CAN'T CHANGE A DAMN THING ABOUT IT 3. Who goes around "hating" the eye color of their spouse? This is definitely a new one for DCUM 4. The vast majority of people in this world have brown eyes. So, get used to it. -dp |
Anonymous
I get it. You're just venting anonymously. Expect a ton of hate and snark here, though. I get what you're saying, but maybe reframe away from "I hate spouse's eye color" to "I like blue eyes." See the difference? It's not about wishing your spouse were different, it's about acknowledging there's something else you find attractive and owning that in your head. Then: Consider that your spouse's brown eyes are the ones you get to look into when you need support, affection, when you have a kid, when there's a milestone. It's OK to have things you find attractive, period, which your spouse simply doesn't possess. It becomes a problem only if you think of it as "I hate this about spouse" instead of "Isn't X objectively attractive on people!" Just balance things in your head with what your spouse does bring to the table. There's an actor I follow who has eyes which are not the same color as DH's; I just enjoy those stunning eyes on actor guy, but it doesn't make me wish DH's were the same. (I'm sure DH could say the same about me, as I know he likes blonde hair and I'm brunette! But he tells me he loves my hair and I know it's because its my hair, not because he objectively prefers brunettes.) . |
Anonymous
| I've been married for 14 years and confess I don't even know what my spouse's eye color is. All I know is that it's not brown, so I guess I'm luckier than OP. |
Anonymous
+1 "Racist" here is insane. Just, no. Ignore that, OP. |
Anonymous
| My DH always says his eyes are green but they don't look green at all to me. We've just agreed to disagree. |
Anonymous
Racism against brown eyed people is the hidden racism. You all just don't want to believe it. Only 15% (1 out of 6) of caucasian have blue eyes, but just about every famous white actor has blue eyes. And look up your chain of command at work. Is it 1 in 6 or more more among your bosses? |
Anonymous
Unfortunately your spouse isn't as lucky. Pay him/her a bit more attention. |
Anonymous
If that's for real and not an exaggeration for effect...That's genuinely sad, to me. You never, ever look each other in the eye? Or when you do, your brain never registers what you're seeing? Did you not even notice it when you were dating? |
Anonymous
| I get it OP. Everyone in my family has blue eyes and DH’s are dark dark brown. Our kids’ eyes are all hazel but it would be nice if one of them had my eye color. |
Anonymous
| Were you brought up by Jane Elliott? |
Anonymous
DP. I'm not going to do a list because you can Google for yourself, but look up "actors with brown eyes." Plenty of "famous actors" including white ones (and FYI, Hispanics are Caucasian, PP) who have brown eyes. Plenty of non-actor celebrity-famous people too. Give it up. You're trying to derail OP's thread. |
Anonymous
NP. You have to do some deeper thinking here. We associate blue eyes with white people, and thinking that a trait that is associated with white people is superior can be kinda racist. But I wouldn't say it automatically is. All I can say for sure is that OP is ridiculous and this is a pretty dumb post. |
Anonymous
Now do green eyes. |