Left family weekend early-Wdyt?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A visit that starts on a Weds is not a "weekend visit". Weds-Saturday is PLENTY of time.

Next time, don't plan to go for so long.

It absolutely is!
And if OP had **planned** for a Wed-Sat trip, I suspect everything would have been just fine.
But nothing changed - weather is always unpredictable, summer travel is always overbooked, work trip was already planned. **NOTHING** changed, and yet OP decided at the last minute to change her flight.

It's not the length of the trip that upset the inlaws, it's the fact that they obviously just wanted to leave early. I'd definitely have been upset if one of my sisters did that.

But would you have mistakenly accused them of lying about flight? Bc that’s pretty weird.

[Anonymous]

I'd have let them know before the trip even started "We'll only be able to stay until Friday - we really need to be home that weekend but are excited to at least have a couple of days together!" So in that sense, you were wrong to spring leaving early on them. But there's nothing wrong with only being able to stay a shorter amount of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:although we were happy to leave I probably would have risked another flight nightmare/delayed work trip if I had known they were going to be so mad. And we definitely wouldn’t have left early just bc we felt like it. it just didn’t even occur to me they would be more than mildly bummed (and definitely not that they’d say anything, snoop around about flights

No freaking way, OP. This is how they manipulate you into changing your behavior. If you had a terrible experience on Sunday with cancelled flights or whatever, do you think they’d be any more considerate of your schedule next time? Not a chance! Protect your peace.

[Anonymous]

How come my guests never leave early?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How come my guests never leave early?

You're just too good of a host.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We recently left a family get together at my parents house a day early snd would love to get an opinion.

For context, one sibling lives in town, two live within three hours, and we live a 2.5 hr flight away, this was a very inconvenient weekend for us but we agreed to it bc one sib is a schedule prima donna. We were originally flying home Sunday morning (arrived weds night) but decided on Friday to move flight to Saturday morning (out of town subs we’re driving home that evening.)

Our reasons were: flight was overbooked and there were no other direct flights Sunday, severe storms predicted, and one spouse had very important work trip departing early Monday am. (We recently had an epic flight cancellation saga so that probably made us more nervous than we would have been otherwise.) the other reason (unspoken, obv) was that we just honestly felt like getting home, felt like we had visited plenty and wanted a break before a busy week.) So although there was concern about flight we were also delighted to be home sooner.

In my family, the response would have been “oh that’s too bad’, we will miss you Saturday!” and that’s literally it. In-laws we’re genuinely mad though. Are wta?

Stop with your excuses and be honest. You don't like them and didn't want to be there in the first place. In future, if it is inconvenient, say so and stay home and then you didn't need to lie--which everyone can see through and now they think of you as liar.

[Anonymous]

I opened the thread expecting to think you were going to be the problem but upon reading your post - I agree with you and think the other people who are annoyed are the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We recently left a family get together at my parents house a day early snd would love to get an opinion.

For context, one sibling lives in town, two live within three hours, and we live a 2.5 hr flight away, this was a very inconvenient weekend for us but we agreed to it bc one sib is a schedule prima donna. We were originally flying home Sunday morning (arrived weds night) but decided on Friday to move flight to Saturday morning (out of town subs we’re driving home that evening.)

Our reasons were: flight was overbooked and there were no other direct flights Sunday, severe storms predicted, and one spouse had very important work trip departing early Monday am. (We recently had an epic flight cancellation saga so that probably made us more nervous than we would have been otherwise.) the other reason (unspoken, obv) was that we just honestly felt like getting home, felt like we had visited plenty and wanted a break before a busy week.) So although there was concern about flight we were also delighted to be home sooner.

In my family, the response would have been “oh that’s too bad’, we will miss you Saturday!” and that’s literally it. In-laws we’re genuinely mad though. Are wta?

Stop with your excuses and be honest. You don't like them and didn't want to be there in the first place. In future, if it is inconvenient, say so and stay home and then you didn't need to lie--which everyone can see through and now they think of you as liar.

Normal people don't think like this. Sorry for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How come my guests never leave early?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How come my guests never leave early?

Oops - meant this to be a laughing emoji!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A visit that starts on a Weds is not a "weekend visit". Weds-Saturday is PLENTY of time.

Next time, don't plan to go for so long.

It absolutely is!
And if OP had **planned** for a Wed-Sat trip, I suspect everything would have been just fine.
But nothing changed - weather is always unpredictable, summer travel is always overbooked, work trip was already planned. **NOTHING** changed, and yet OP decided at the last minute to change her flight.

It's not the length of the trip that upset the inlaws, it's the fact that they obviously just wanted to leave early. I'd definitely have been upset if one of my sisters did that.

But would you have mistakenly accused them of lying about flight? Bc that’s pretty weird.

It’s not weird for the in laws to suspect that given the vibe tbat OP sends them. Not at all. She’s not fooling them

[Anonymous]

Your reasons for leaving early are totally valid and I probably would have done the same thing. But I also can see why it would piss your ILs off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agreed with PPs that OP has flatly admitted that it was personal. She’s mad the in-laws wouldn’t play along with the pretense that they “needed” to leave early when actually they were just sick of the in-laws.

I'm guessing OP has learned never again to confess any actual feelings on DCUM because you and other PPs keep bludgeoning her with "It was personal! You just dislike them!" Read her posts, don't just attackhr. She admitted they were glad to leave but also has said they would have stayed if not for the following which are 100 percent valid reasons to depart:

Our reasons were: flight was overbooked and there were no other direct flights Sunday, severe storms predicted, and one spouse had very important work trip departing early Monday am. (We recently had an epic flight cancellation saga so that probably made us more nervous than we would have been otherwise.)

I'm betting that those of you so quick to bash OP have not dealt with truly bad scenarios of flight cancellations that wreck days of your life, or the stress of watching the weather and hoping you don't make a choice, too late, to change plans, only to find you're stranded somewhere. And you or your your spouse has a work trip that now is going to be delayed or cancelled. And there will be trouble at work over this, etc.

OP was being frank with by ADDING that they were glad to leave early. But the actual logistical reasons are completely legit, even if OP and her DH had been profoundly crushed at leaving early! Weather is getting worse, and if you PPs all missed the past year full of news about flight cancellations and the domino effect of bad weather plus cancelled/delayed flights-- well, being ignorant of those issues is on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your reasons for leaving early are totally valid and I probably would have done the same thing. But I also can see why it would piss your ILs off.

No, there's no good reason for the ILs to be pissed. And OP says not all were.

If storms were coming, flights overbooked and limited, and a work trip on the schedule (all of which were OP's situation), my ILs would be the FIRST to say, "Yes, you should get home ahead of the storm and not take a chance on flights being grounded or on being bumped from an overbooked flight. You can't miss a trip where your coworkers are depending on you to be there." They would be thinking about our safety and our work schedules and our commitments to necessary work travel. OPs ILs who are mad are being incredibly self-centered.

OP and her family missed, what, one afternoon and one evening of stuff, after having been there several days already? It's petty of the mad ILs to be so childish about it. I hope some of them end up stranded in an airport sometime soon, and get a taste of what that's like. Maybe then they'll understand why OP and DH left a bit early.

[Anonymous]

OP is a drama queen and a gossip