having a "boyfriend" 5th grade

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you’re being a bit naive. I’m 5th grade I was kissing my “boyfriend” at my locker and by 6th grade we were sneaking into the locker room to make out and then some after school. And I was not the only one. In middle school these relationships come with physical exploration.

This is something OP should be aware of, but it all depends on the child's temperament and home life, and dare I say it, social class. UMC 5th graders don't have sex.

PP you’re responding to and I never said sex, but you’re fooling yourself if you don’t think middle schoolers are sneaking a kiss and doing some above the clothes action.

I'm not fooling myself about anything. You are titillating yourself with talk of elementary school children doing things. OP, if these kids are in an elementary school that tops out at 5th, you don't really have much to worry about. Kids this age won't get certain ideas in their heads if they are not exposed to much older kids day to day. I'd be more vigilant if they kids were in the same school as 8th graders, who are more likely to be doing stuff.

Thanks, PP. I can see there are various opinions and some I do agree with. My daughter is in the crush phase. The kids are in a parochial school with zero time to sneak off to do anything, let alone heavy pet. Some people on here are really the opposite of naive. Most of these kids hold their parents hand when they cross the street, not sneaking out at night to be with their boyfriend or girlfriend

these are not mutually exclusive. kids are complicated.

Fair enough. I agree with you there

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you’re being a bit naive. I’m 5th grade I was kissing my “boyfriend” at my locker and by 6th grade we were sneaking into the locker room to make out and then some after school. And I was not the only one. In middle school these relationships come with physical exploration.

This is something OP should be aware of, but it all depends on the child's temperament and home life, and dare I say it, social class. UMC 5th graders don't have sex.

PP you’re responding to and I never said sex, but you’re fooling yourself if you don’t think middle schoolers are sneaking a kiss and doing some above the clothes action.

I'm not fooling myself about anything. You are titillating yourself with talk of elementary school children doing things. OP, if these kids are in an elementary school that tops out at 5th, you don't really have much to worry about. Kids this age won't get certain ideas in their heads if they are not exposed to much older kids day to day. I'd be more vigilant if they kids were in the same school as 8th graders, who are more likely to be doing stuff.

5th graders of today are looking at PornHub and a whole host of inappropriate and very sexual content. It's like how it used to be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you’re being a bit naive. I’m 5th grade I was kissing my “boyfriend” at my locker and by 6th grade we were sneaking into the locker room to make out and then some after school. And I was not the only one. In middle school these relationships come with physical exploration.

This is something OP should be aware of, but it all depends on the child's temperament and home life, and dare I say it, social class. UMC 5th graders don't have sex.

PP you’re responding to and I never said sex, but you’re fooling yourself if you don’t think middle schoolers are sneaking a kiss and doing some above the clothes action.

I'm not fooling myself about anything. You are titillating yourself with talk of elementary school children doing things. OP, if these kids are in an elementary school that tops out at 5th, you don't really have much to worry about. Kids this age won't get certain ideas in their heads if they are not exposed to much older kids day to day. I'd be more vigilant if they kids were in the same school as 8th graders, who are more likely to be doing stuff.

5th graders of today are looking at PornHub and a whole host of inappropriate and very sexual content. It's like how it used to be.

Yes - if daughter has a phone with camera and texting abilities you need to talk to her about not sending pics and letting you know right away if inappropriate pics are requested. Former MS teacher there. This is sooo much more common than you know. Even if the kids directly dating are sweet and innocent, older friends or brothers can get involved and things can escalate quickly.

[Anonymous]

It's crazy to think 5th graders are doing this. Another reason they don't belong in MS.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you’re being a bit naive. I’m 5th grade I was kissing my “boyfriend” at my locker and by 6th grade we were sneaking into the locker room to make out and then some after school. And I was not the only one. In middle school these relationships come with physical exploration.

This is something OP should be aware of, but it all depends on the child's temperament and home life, and dare I say it, social class. UMC 5th graders don't have sex.

PP you’re responding to and I never said sex, but you’re fooling yourself if you don’t think middle schoolers are sneaking a kiss and doing some above the clothes action.

I'm not fooling myself about anything. You are titillating yourself with talk of elementary school children doing things. OP, if these kids are in an elementary school that tops out at 5th, you don't really have much to worry about. Kids this age won't get certain ideas in their heads if they are not exposed to much older kids day to day. I'd be more vigilant if they kids were in the same school as 8th graders, who are more likely to be doing stuff.

5th graders of today are looking at PornHub and a whole host of inappropriate and very sexual content. It's like how it used to be.

Edited: "It's NOT like how it used to be."

Wish these anonymous posts had an edit button!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you’re being a bit naive. I’m 5th grade I was kissing my “boyfriend” at my locker and by 6th grade we were sneaking into the locker room to make out and then some after school. And I was not the only one. In middle school these relationships come with physical exploration.

This is something OP should be aware of, but it all depends on the child's temperament and home life, and dare I say it, social class. UMC 5th graders don't have sex.

PP you’re responding to and I never said sex, but you’re fooling yourself if you don’t think middle schoolers are sneaking a kiss and doing some above the clothes action.

I'm not fooling myself about anything. You are titillating yourself with talk of elementary school children doing things. OP, if these kids are in an elementary school that tops out at 5th, you don't really have much to worry about. Kids this age won't get certain ideas in their heads if they are not exposed to much older kids day to day. I'd be more vigilant if they kids were in the same school as 8th graders, who are more likely to be doing stuff.

5th graders of today are looking at PornHub and a whole host of inappropriate and very sexual content. It's like how it used to be.

Yes - if daughter has a phone with camera and texting abilities you need to talk to her about not sending pics and letting you know right away if inappropriate pics are requested. Former MS teacher there. This is sooo much more common than you know. Even if the kids directly dating are sweet and innocent, older friends or brothers can get involved and things can escalate quickly.

Yes. I learned this the hard way. I thought I had till middle school to deal with sexual stuff with my DS. But as a high schooler, he confessed that other boys who had phones had shown him and looked up PornHub videos and images when they used to ride the bus together back in 5th grade. I was stunned.

So even preventing your kid from having a phone doesn't prevent other kids who do have phones from showing them inappropriate stuff. Innocence in kids is almost damn near impossible to maintain with the kind of technology access we have available to kids today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you’re being a bit naive. I’m 5th grade I was kissing my “boyfriend” at my locker and by 6th grade we were sneaking into the locker room to make out and then some after school. And I was not the only one. In middle school these relationships come with physical exploration.

This is something OP should be aware of, but it all depends on the child's temperament and home life, and dare I say it, social class. UMC 5th graders don't have sex.

PP you’re responding to and I never said sex, but you’re fooling yourself if you don’t think middle schoolers are sneaking a kiss and doing some above the clothes action.

I'm not fooling myself about anything. You are titillating yourself with talk of elementary school children doing things. OP, if these kids are in an elementary school that tops out at 5th, you don't really have much to worry about. Kids this age won't get certain ideas in their heads if they are not exposed to much older kids day to day. I'd be more vigilant if they kids were in the same school as 8th graders, who are more likely to be doing stuff.

5th graders of today are looking at PornHub and a whole host of inappropriate and very sexual content. It's like how it used to be.

Yes - if daughter has a phone with camera and texting abilities you need to talk to her about not sending pics and letting you know right away if inappropriate pics are requested. Former MS teacher there. This is sooo much more common than you know. Even if the kids directly dating are sweet and innocent, older friends or brothers can get involved and things can escalate quickly.

Yes. I learned this the hard way. I thought I had till middle school to deal with sexual stuff with my DS. But as a high schooler, he confessed that other boys who had phones had shown him and looked up PornHub videos and images when they used to ride the bus together back in 5th grade. I was stunned.

So even preventing your kid from having a phone doesn't prevent other kids who do have phones from showing them inappropriate stuff. Innocence in kids is almost damn near impossible to maintain with the kind of technology access we have available to kids today.

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When my DD entered the fifth grade in a new school, on the first day a boy told her "look at this little baby, she doesn't know what a d**k is". She actually didn't know and asked me what it was. The fifth boys were posting images alluding to anal sex in the classroom homework group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you’re being a bit naive. I’m 5th grade I was kissing my “boyfriend” at my locker and by 6th grade we were sneaking into the locker room to make out and then some after school. And I was not the only one. In middle school these relationships come with physical exploration.

This is something OP should be aware of, but it all depends on the child's temperament and home life, and dare I say it, social class. UMC 5th graders don't have sex.

PP you’re responding to and I never said sex, but you’re fooling yourself if you don’t think middle schoolers are sneaking a kiss and doing some above the clothes action.

I'm not fooling myself about anything. You are titillating yourself with talk of elementary school children doing things. OP, if these kids are in an elementary school that tops out at 5th, you don't really have much to worry about. Kids this age won't get certain ideas in their heads if they are not exposed to much older kids day to day. I'd be more vigilant if they kids were in the same school as 8th graders, who are more likely to be doing stuff.

5th graders of today are looking at PornHub and a whole host of inappropriate and very sexual content. It's like how it used to be.

Yes - if daughter has a phone with camera and texting abilities you need to talk to her about not sending pics and letting you know right away if inappropriate pics are requested. Former MS teacher there. This is sooo much more common than you know. Even if the kids directly dating are sweet and innocent, older friends or brothers can get involved and things can escalate quickly.

Yes. I learned this the hard way. I thought I had till middle school to deal with sexual stuff with my DS. But as a high schooler, he confessed that other boys who had phones had shown him and looked up PornHub videos and images when they used to ride the bus together back in 5th grade. I was stunned.

So even preventing your kid from having a phone doesn't prevent other kids who do have phones from showing them inappropriate stuff. Innocence in kids is almost damn near impossible to maintain with the kind of technology access we have available to kids today.

+1
When my DD entered the fifth grade in a new school, on the first day a boy told her "look at this little baby, she doesn't know what a d**k is". She actually didn't know and asked me what it was. The fifth boys were posting images alluding to anal sex in the classroom homework group.

I am sorry that happened to your daughter. I’d like to think this is the exception, not the rule. But I will certainly keep an eye out for this kind of stuff.

[Anonymous]

I think it's actually a good experience for kids and parents to have "relationships" while kids are young and still under parent supervision.

My DS had a "girlfriend" in 6th grade too -it was pretty cute, they went for ice cream (I dropped them off and picked them up 45 minutes later), texted etc. Since they couldn't drive themselves, I could kind of supervise - discuss what is appropriate gift, appropriate boundries, make rules about not allowing them in his room, etc.

Now DS is 18 and has a more serious girlfriend and I feel like the earlier one was good practice and allowed me to really give my opinion and have him listen in a way that he won't do now, of course.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you’re being a bit naive. I’m 5th grade I was kissing my “boyfriend” at my locker and by 6th grade we were sneaking into the locker room to make out and then some after school. And I was not the only one. In middle school these relationships come with physical exploration.

This is something OP should be aware of, but it all depends on the child's temperament and home life, and dare I say it, social class. UMC 5th graders don't have sex.

PP you’re responding to and I never said sex, but you’re fooling yourself if you don’t think middle schoolers are sneaking a kiss and doing some above the clothes action.

I'm not fooling myself about anything. You are titillating yourself with talk of elementary school children doing things. OP, if these kids are in an elementary school that tops out at 5th, you don't really have much to worry about. Kids this age won't get certain ideas in their heads if they are not exposed to much older kids day to day. I'd be more vigilant if they kids were in the same school as 8th graders, who are more likely to be doing stuff.

5th graders of today are looking at PornHub and a whole host of inappropriate and very sexual content. It's like how it used to be.

Yes - if daughter has a phone with camera and texting abilities you need to talk to her about not sending pics and letting you know right away if inappropriate pics are requested. Former MS teacher there. This is sooo much more common than you know. Even if the kids directly dating are sweet and innocent, older friends or brothers can get involved and things can escalate quickly.

Yes. I learned this the hard way. I thought I had till middle school to deal with sexual stuff with my DS. But as a high schooler, he confessed that other boys who had phones had shown him and looked up PornHub videos and images when they used to ride the bus together back in 5th grade. I was stunned.

So even preventing your kid from having a phone doesn't prevent other kids who do have phones from showing them inappropriate stuff. Innocence in kids is almost damn near impossible to maintain with the kind of technology access we have available to kids today.

+1
When my DD entered the fifth grade in a new school, on the first day a boy told her "look at this little baby, she doesn't know what a d**k is". She actually didn't know and asked me what it was. The fifth boys were posting images alluding to anal sex in the classroom homework group.

On the first day?? Wow, that is nuts. How did this pervert boy know your DD didn't have a baby brother or something? That kind of behavior was almost certainly modeled by that boy's older brother. It's always the kids with older siblings who initiate the nasty talk at school.

[Anonymous]

I was a total dork as a kid and had a “boyfriend” in 4th grade.

I also learned all about blowjobs in 5th grade from a friend, and me and my friends would watch soft core porn at sleepovers on scrambled 1am showtime cable tv stations.

Some things really don’t change we just forget about them and assume that it’s all phones and social media making now different etc but it really isn’t that different.

Anyway, 5th grade “dating” will likely last the better part of a couple weeks at most, so i wouldn’t overly stress, just keep it reigned in and maybe check text message content

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a total dork as a kid and had a “boyfriend” in 4th grade.

I also learned all about blowjobs in 5th grade from a friend, and me and my friends would watch soft core porn at sleepovers on scrambled 1am showtime cable tv stations.

Some things really don’t change we just forget about them and assume that it’s all phones and social media making now different etc but it really isn’t that different.

Anyway, 5th grade “dating” will likely last the better part of a couple weeks at most, so i wouldn’t overly stress, just keep it reigned in and maybe check text message content

The softcore porn is nothing compared to the hardcore stuff accessible to kids today.

Yes, being exposed to adult content as a kid is not new, but I would not diminish the scale and severity of the kind of pornographic imagery kids are consuming these days and how much earlier they're being exposed to this stuff compared to the past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was a total dork as a kid and had a “boyfriend” in 4th grade.

I also learned all about blowjobs in 5th grade from a friend, and me and my friends would watch soft core porn at sleepovers on scrambled 1am showtime cable tv stations.

Some things really don’t change we just forget about them and assume that it’s all phones and social media making now different etc but it really isn’t that different.

Anyway, 5th grade “dating” will likely last the better part of a couple weeks at most, so i wouldn’t overly stress, just keep it reigned in and maybe check text message content

The softcore porn is nothing compared to the hardcore stuff accessible to kids today.

Yes, being exposed to adult content as a kid is not new, but I would not diminish the scale and severity of the kind of pornographic imagery kids are consuming these days and how much earlier they're being exposed to this stuff compared to the past.

OP here. Yes to all of this. One rising 8th grade student- his mom told me they have nude anime on their phones. I don’t understand that and I think a lot of parents don’t realize what is on their kids phones

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you’re being a bit naive. I’m 5th grade I was kissing my “boyfriend” at my locker and by 6th grade we were sneaking into the locker room to make out and then some after school. And I was not the only one. In middle school these relationships come with physical exploration.

This is something OP should be aware of, but it all depends on the child's temperament and home life, and dare I say it, social class. UMC 5th graders don't have sex.

PP you’re responding to and I never said sex, but you’re fooling yourself if you don’t think middle schoolers are sneaking a kiss and doing some above the clothes action.

I'm not fooling myself about anything. You are titillating yourself with talk of elementary school children doing things. OP, if these kids are in an elementary school that tops out at 5th, you don't really have much to worry about. Kids this age won't get certain ideas in their heads if they are not exposed to much older kids day to day. I'd be more vigilant if they kids were in the same school as 8th graders, who are more likely to be doing stuff.

Sigh, kids have older siblings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you’re being a bit naive. I’m 5th grade I was kissing my “boyfriend” at my locker and by 6th grade we were sneaking into the locker room to make out and then some after school. And I was not the only one. In middle school these relationships come with physical exploration.

This is something OP should be aware of, but it all depends on the child's temperament and home life, and dare I say it, social class. UMC 5th graders don't have sex.

That is hilariously naive. Please talk to any NBMS teacher and report back. Then talk to Pyle teachers...