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Going through this now with a 5th grade DS. He called her his "girl friend" but all they ever did was text, and the texts were really sweet and innocent. She "broke up" with DS because her mom said she was too young, and DS was quite devastated. It seemed unnecessary for the mom to demand they "break up" when to them, having a bf or gf just meant a text or two a day and maybe bragging rights within their friend groups that they had someone? |
Hahahahahahahaha It doesn't exist if the nanny doesn't see it and report it! |
Perhaps find another label for the relationship rather than boyfriend? |
Pp is right though, early sexual activity IS linked to lower ses. This is something that has been studied and something I’ve certainly seen anecdotally. OP is not deluding herself in thinking her 5th grader isn’t engaging in sexual activity with a boy she has playdates with. Come on. |
Lady, you do know that it was more than what you read and saw, right? Odds are the mom made her break up with your kid because of something inappropriate but just labeling it as they are too young. |
NP but that’s unnecessarily paranoid (and belligerent). |
PP you’re responding to and I never said sex, but you’re fooling yourself if you don’t think middle schoolers are sneaking a kiss and doing some above the clothes action. |
+1 I mean, some people here are very naive. just because your child told you something doesn't mean it's the way it is. |
nerds have sex, too, you know? not saying your kid does, but this idea that they are a "wall flower" with no interest whatsoever in the physical aspect of a relationship is a bit delusional. you don't know this. you are not there. you only know what your child tells you, and if they are smart, as you are implying they are, they are not going to tell you everything. doesn't mean whatever they are doing is bad or age-inappropriate. but please stop with the oh no, my child would never ever .... don't you know, we are UMD? |
Hmmm. Have heard more than once of kids “breaking up” when turns out 1 of the kids not even aware the other was saying they were boyfriend/girlfriend. The “break-up” often comes when what thought was friend turns out to have been saying things not true in school or even just to their parents. Oh the drama can start early for some gossip girl junior kids. |
Bragging rights? |
I'm not fooling myself about anything. You are titillating yourself with talk of elementary school children doing things. OP, if these kids are in an elementary school that tops out at 5th, you don't really have much to worry about. Kids this age won't get certain ideas in their heads if they are not exposed to much older kids day to day. I'd be more vigilant if they kids were in the same school as 8th graders, who are more likely to be doing stuff. |
Thanks, PP. I can see there are various opinions and some I do agree with. My daughter is in the crush phase. The kids are in a parochial school with zero time to sneak off to do anything, let alone heavy pet. Some people on here are really the opposite of naive. Most of these kids hold their parents hand when they cross the street, not sneaking out at night to be with their boyfriend or girlfriend |
these are not mutually exclusive. kids are complicated. |