Roomie wants to discuss decorating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I could not believe the dumpsters after I picked up my freshman after year one. Absolutely full of all this room decor garbage. It was a pretty ugly sight.

Keep it simple and don't get a lot of crap that ends up in a landfill.

I am the OP. Even the university has a page on conserving and recycling and not to bring too much. IN fact, they have an entire Living Learning Community of kids who are interested in the environment and conservation. Just really not interested in filling the landfill.

They even said "Less is more" I found this to be excellent advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pp and reading more of thread -- OP is the one creating drama. It's funny that you're calling the roommate a "control freak," when you're acting like a control freak yourself.

Handle it however you want, without drama.

I agree with this. OP is trying to control the conversations between the girls.
Let her handle it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I could not believe the dumpsters after I picked up my freshman after year one. Absolutely full of all this room decor garbage. It was a pretty ugly sight.

Keep it simple and don't get a lot of crap that ends up in a landfill.

This makes me sad. I do not understand the headboard thing. What else would you do at the end of the year but trash it? What a waste.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could not believe the dumpsters after I picked up my freshman after year one. Absolutely full of all this room decor garbage. It was a pretty ugly sight.

Keep it simple and don't get a lot of crap that ends up in a landfill.

I am the OP. Even the university has a page on conserving and recycling and not to bring too much. IN fact, they have an entire Living Learning Community of kids who are interested in the environment and conservation. Just really not interested in filling the landfill.

They even said "Less is more" I found this to be excellent advice.

I’m gonna give you the benefit of the doubt that this is stressing you out with your child leaving. You’re creating a mountain from a molehill.
If your dd isn’t interested, she can reply with I already have this and am not interested. Otherwise she can be a normal person and perhaps buy the same color comforter from Target and coordinate shared items. You see OP that if they only brought one of each item that could be shared it could actually save on landfill?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could not believe the dumpsters after I picked up my freshman after year one. Absolutely full of all this room decor garbage. It was a pretty ugly sight.

Keep it simple and don't get a lot of crap that ends up in a landfill.

This makes me sad. I do not understand the headboard thing. What else would you do at the end of the year but trash it? What a waste.

Most universities have closets that resell and people resell it on Facebook. Is that really a stretch to imagine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the roommate from the south? I am, and judging from my Facebook feed, some southern moms and their daughters get very into having a coordinated room decor. It’s seems over the top to me personally but to each her own.

Has your daughter already shopped for her things?

It’s fine not to get a headboard. I would be pleasant and coordinate a but by let roommate know you are only planning on bringing x, y, and a. Maybe let the roommate take the lead on deciding colors if your daughter doesn’t care and doesn’t have her stuff yet.

Well all of the DMV is in the South..., but it is not just a southern thing. I've had one at UMD and one at Boston College. Both coordinated decorations. All of these dorm room decorations and furniture (like headboards) are super cheap now. It is not like when we were in school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It can cost up to 50K! Some people are crazy.

Lots of girls in shared rooms will decorate. They will use the stuff for a year before they are on to an apartment.

The rooms look great once they are set up. They never look that way again for the rest of the year.

GMAFB. You’re pulling out ridiculous extremes. Maybe millionaires are spending $50k but to bring that into this discussion isn’t really relevant.

[Anonymous]

Just tell her to set a budget, hold firm and be polite. It’ll be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could not believe the dumpsters after I picked up my freshman after year one. Absolutely full of all this room decor garbage. It was a pretty ugly sight.

Keep it simple and don't get a lot of crap that ends up in a landfill.

This makes me sad. I do not understand the headboard thing. What else would you do at the end of the year but trash it? What a waste.

Why wouldn't you use it again the following year?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could not believe the dumpsters after I picked up my freshman after year one. Absolutely full of all this room decor garbage. It was a pretty ugly sight.

Keep it simple and don't get a lot of crap that ends up in a landfill.

This makes me sad. I do not understand the headboard thing. What else would you do at the end of the year but trash it? What a waste.

Why wouldn't you use it again the following year?

Maybe a few do but many do not. So much stuff ends up in the trash. The kids are busy, trying to finah exams work, they have to vacate by a certain date and time. There is ridiculous amount of waste. These lights...ugggg. everyone leaves and leaves it for the last one to deal with them strung all over and they end up in the trash. stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is the roommate from the south? I am, and judging from my Facebook feed, some southern moms and their daughters get very into having a coordinated room decor. It’s seems over the top to me personally but to each her own.

Has your daughter already shopped for her things?

It’s fine not to get a headboard. I would be pleasant and coordinate a but by let roommate know you are only planning on bringing x, y, and a. Maybe let the roommate take the lead on deciding colors if your daughter doesn’t care and doesn’t have her stuff yet.

Well all of the DMV is in the South..., but it is not just a southern thing. I've had one at UMD and one at Boston College. Both coordinated decorations. All of these dorm room decorations and furniture (like headboards) are super cheap now. It is not like when we were in school.

----and they wind up as garbage thrown out in dumpsters.

[Anonymous]

My rising college sophomore is texting her apartment roommate right now about how to decorate their new place. Yes, it is a thing. I don't know why this is a problem for you, OP. Feeling a loss of control? Let your daughter dream and look forward to things!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's been a thing for many, many years. Just googled dorm decorating and you'll see features.

There's a whole website for it called Dormify.

https://www.dormify.com/

...and it's ridiculous.

I think the roomie is spending too much time on the net!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could not believe the dumpsters after I picked up my freshman after year one. Absolutely full of all this room decor garbage. It was a pretty ugly sight.

Keep it simple and don't get a lot of crap that ends up in a landfill.

This makes me sad. I do not understand the headboard thing. What else would you do at the end of the year but trash it? What a waste.

Why wouldn't you use it again the following year?

Because you'd look like a freshman.

[Anonymous]

It’s gonna be a long year for OP if this gets her riled up!