Roomie wants to discuss decorating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The issue is not what op’s dd is willing to spend on decoration, she can spend nothing. It’s op’s open hostility towards the new roommate who only asked for a conversation, a conversation which is totally appropriate when one is sharing a room with a stranger.

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The OP sounds like a very difficult person in general. What a bizarre thing to take offense to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to college in 1994 and my roommate and I coordinated. Not to the degree some girls do today, but we did talk about it before we purchased things. RIP Linens N Things

I went to college in 1994 and attempted to get my roommate to coordinate with me. She hated me because of it. We switched by Halloween. We were not well suited but I also should have cooled it with the room decorating discussion.

Want a cookie, PP?

[Anonymous]

What a stupid thread.

[Anonymous]

WTF? Your daughter can handle college and roommate dynamics without you. THAT IS THE POINT OF COLLEGE, learning how to live and learn and work alongside other people. FFS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF? Your daughter can handle college and roommate dynamics without you. THAT IS THE POINT OF COLLEGE, learning how to live and learn and work alongside other people. FFS.

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Let your kid deal with it. It isn’t so deep. My daughter and her roommate just talked about basic color coordination (one did blue and one did pink). These kids are excited about moving to school and decorating their new living space. Just chill, Mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, there are a million threads here complaining about how DC can’t break into friend groups at college. Your DD’s roommate is giving her a golden opportunity to bond before the year even starts. And if she’s wealthy, that may mean connections from your DD. That’s what you should be focusing on, not the $80 it costs to buy a headboard.

$80 is a lot of money to some people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, the headboard is a thing. There is a company that will deliver all of this stuff to the school.

Well unless it will be used for years, it is going to end up in a landfill. Suit yourself but it is reasonable to try not to be generating a lot of landfill garbage. Particularly for this generation....they are kinda pissed off about what their parents and grandparents did to the environment.

[Anonymous]

I am amazed at how many posters think it is ok to just go out and buy junk that will be trashed at the end of the year .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, there are a million threads here complaining about how DC can’t break into friend groups at college. Your DD’s roommate is giving her a golden opportunity to bond before the year even starts. And if she’s wealthy, that may mean connections from your DD. That’s what you should be focusing on, not the $80 it costs to buy a headboard.

$80 is a lot of money to some people.

Then... don't buy one? It's really pretty simple and does not deserve the drama and angst this thread has produced.
DP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am amazed at how many posters think it is ok to just go out and buy junk that will be trashed at the end of the year .

TBH, I am so relieved that my DD did not go for this. Most of her friends did, but most of them matched up with folks before the start of school so they spent the summer coordinating their stuff. DD attends a non-match school, so that may have played into it. She met her room mate briefly prior to start of school - while they were friendly and cooperative, they rarely hung out save a little partying before they headed off in their friend groups on the weekends. Her room mate also on financial aid so all the better that DD wasn't on a matching head board and linens kick. They came up with a short list of practical items they wanted for the room and split them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, there are a million threads here complaining about how DC can’t break into friend groups at college. Your DD’s roommate is giving her a golden opportunity to bond before the year even starts. And if she’s wealthy, that may mean connections from your DD. That’s what you should be focusing on, not the $80 it costs to buy a headboard.

Never change, DCUM, never change. I needed this laugh today.

[Anonymous]

My roommate and I did this ~15 years ago, but to us "coordinating" was matching comforter/sheet/pillow sets. Which we were already going to buy for our dorm regardless. It was pretty common but mostly among girls who already knew each other, not random roommates.

I agree with whoever said set a budget and let the girls handle it from there.

[Anonymous]

I gotta be honest here - at 17 it never would have occurred to me to talk this out with my parents in any way that indicated I needed their advice. I would have just announced "Maddie and I are both getting grey and light pink bedding to coordinate our room decor." I'd have had no problem saying "I'm not getting a headboard, but you can if you want."

OP, does your DD actually need your help beyond purchasing stuff for her room? I went to Bed Bath & Beyond with my mom, but mostly just for her to pay and because she'd never gone away to college so wanted the experience.