24-yo Sofia Richie ties the knot in France. Marrying in your early 20s is trendy!

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Anonymous wrote:I say this on all these threads about how women should marry younger but: women are not the reason couples are getting married later and later. I know it gets blamed on women having more choices and pursuing careers. But of course women are pursuing careers, it's idiotic not to. I don't really know many women who actually put off marriage until later. The issue is that men do not want to get married in their 20s and the most desirable male partners view it as their opportunity to play the field and "be free." Most men still see marriage as the end of their fun times and a prison they'll never escape from. Men in their 20s are incredibly immature, often refusing to engage in basic financial responsibility and personal hygiene, and very unwilling to engage commitment.

Pretty much all of my friends, and I, would have happily married in our 20s. I had 4 friends who got married before they turned 30. I met my husband when I was 29 and felt fortunate. Most of us married early to mid 30s, a couple late 30s, a few not at all. But with few exceptions, if you'd asked us right out of college if we'd be willing to get married at 25/26 to the right person, we would have said yes. The men we dated were not interested in marriage. At all.

Interesting. So the lack of early marriages was entirely the fault of immature young adult men and had nothing to do with the glorification of and young women buying into hookup culture, binge drinking, clubbing, traveling (read drunken hookup culture abroad with random foreigners), playing the field to 'learn what you like', the pill, abortion, lean in, girl boss, independent women, boozy weekend brunches (read drunkenly wasting weekends away instead of using weekends to find a spouse), and the big lie that marriage and children in your 20s was boring, holds you back professionally and was low class?

"Sex and the City" and Carrie Bradshaw debuted June 6, 1998. Carrie was supposed to be age 32 or 33 when the show premiered. Carrie didn't marry until age 40 or 41.

Beyonce's song "Independent Women" was released on August 29, 2000.

Just two examples of media brainwashing Generation X and Millennial women that marrying young was trashy and low class. Sophisticated smart girl boss women wait until their 30s because there's always a rich hot guy around the corner eager to swoop you up.

So what?

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Anonymous wrote:I say this on all these threads about how women should marry younger but: women are not the reason couples are getting married later and later. I know it gets blamed on women having more choices and pursuing careers. But of course women are pursuing careers, it's idiotic not to. I don't really know many women who actually put off marriage until later. The issue is that men do not want to get married in their 20s and the most desirable male partners view it as their opportunity to play the field and "be free." Most men still see marriage as the end of their fun times and a prison they'll never escape from. Men in their 20s are incredibly immature, often refusing to engage in basic financial responsibility and personal hygiene, and very unwilling to engage commitment.

Pretty much all of my friends, and I, would have happily married in our 20s. I had 4 friends who got married before they turned 30. I met my husband when I was 29 and felt fortunate. Most of us married early to mid 30s, a couple late 30s, a few not at all. But with few exceptions, if you'd asked us right out of college if we'd be willing to get married at 25/26 to the right person, we would have said yes. The men we dated were not interested in marriage. At all.

Interesting. So the lack of early marriages was entirely the fault of immature young adult men and had nothing to do with the glorification of and young women buying into hookup culture, binge drinking, clubbing, traveling (read drunken hookup culture abroad with random foreigners), playing the field to 'learn what you like', the pill, abortion, lean in, girl boss, independent women, boozy weekend brunches (read drunkenly wasting weekends away instead of using weekends to find a spouse), and the big lie that marriage and children in your 20s was boring, holds you back professionally and was low class?

Oh yeah, let’s blame the women. Like men aren’t propagating the hookup culture, aren’t binge drinking, aren’t traveling, etc?

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Her new face is looking pretty

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My DD is 22 and marriage is not on her radar in any way.

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Anonymous wrote:I say this on all these threads about how women should marry younger but: women are not the reason couples are getting married later and later. I know it gets blamed on women having more choices and pursuing careers. But of course women are pursuing careers, it's idiotic not to. I don't really know many women who actually put off marriage until later. The issue is that men do not want to get married in their 20s and the most desirable male partners view it as their opportunity to play the field and "be free." Most men still see marriage as the end of their fun times and a prison they'll never escape from. Men in their 20s are incredibly immature, often refusing to engage in basic financial responsibility and personal hygiene, and very unwilling to engage commitment.

Pretty much all of my friends, and I, would have happily married in our 20s. I had 4 friends who got married before they turned 30. I met my husband when I was 29 and felt fortunate. Most of us married early to mid 30s, a couple late 30s, a few not at all. But with few exceptions, if you'd asked us right out of college if we'd be willing to get married at 25/26 to the right person, we would have said yes. The men we dated were not interested in marriage. At all.

Interesting. So the lack of early marriages was entirely the fault of immature young adult men and had nothing to do with the glorification of and young women buying into hookup culture, binge drinking, clubbing, traveling (read drunken hookup culture abroad with random foreigners), playing the field to 'learn what you like', the pill, abortion, lean in, girl boss, independent women, boozy weekend brunches (read drunkenly wasting weekends away instead of using weekends to find a spouse), and the big lie that marriage and children in your 20s was boring, holds you back professionally and was low class?

Welcome to the thread Brunch Granny! Can’t discuss women and marriage without your misogynistic self appearing!

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Anonymous wrote:I say this on all these threads about how women should marry younger but: women are not the reason couples are getting married later and later. I know it gets blamed on women having more choices and pursuing careers. But of course women are pursuing careers, it's idiotic not to. I don't really know many women who actually put off marriage until later. The issue is that men do not want to get married in their 20s and the most desirable male partners view it as their opportunity to play the field and "be free." Most men still see marriage as the end of their fun times and a prison they'll never escape from. Men in their 20s are incredibly immature, often refusing to engage in basic financial responsibility and personal hygiene, and very unwilling to engage commitment.

Pretty much all of my friends, and I, would have happily married in our 20s. I had 4 friends who got married before they turned 30. I met my husband when I was 29 and felt fortunate. Most of us married early to mid 30s, a couple late 30s, a few not at all. But with few exceptions, if you'd asked us right out of college if we'd be willing to get married at 25/26 to the right person, we would have said yes. The men we dated were not interested in marriage. At all.

Interesting. So the lack of early marriages was entirely the fault of immature young adult men and had nothing to do with the glorification of and young women buying into hookup culture, binge drinking, clubbing, traveling (read drunken hookup culture abroad with random foreigners), playing the field to 'learn what you like', the pill, abortion, lean in, girl boss, independent women, boozy weekend brunches (read drunkenly wasting weekends away instead of using weekends to find a spouse), and the big lie that marriage and children in your 20s was boring, holds you back professionally and was low class?

why do you care? do you realize how creepy you are?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say this on all these threads about how women should marry younger but: women are not the reason couples are getting married later and later. I know it gets blamed on women having more choices and pursuing careers. But of course women are pursuing careers, it's idiotic not to. I don't really know many women who actually put off marriage until later. The issue is that men do not want to get married in their 20s and the most desirable male partners view it as their opportunity to play the field and "be free." Most men still see marriage as the end of their fun times and a prison they'll never escape from. Men in their 20s are incredibly immature, often refusing to engage in basic financial responsibility and personal hygiene, and very unwilling to engage commitment.

Pretty much all of my friends, and I, would have happily married in our 20s. I had 4 friends who got married before they turned 30. I met my husband when I was 29 and felt fortunate. Most of us married early to mid 30s, a couple late 30s, a few not at all. But with few exceptions, if you'd asked us right out of college if we'd be willing to get married at 25/26 to the right person, we would have said yes. The men we dated were not interested in marriage. At all.

Interesting. So the lack of early marriages was entirely the fault of immature young adult men and had nothing to do with the glorification of and young women buying into hookup culture, binge drinking, clubbing, traveling (read drunken hookup culture abroad with random foreigners), playing the field to 'learn what you like', the pill, abortion, lean in, girl boss, independent women, boozy weekend brunches (read drunkenly wasting weekends away instead of using weekends to find a spouse), and the big lie that marriage and children in your 20s was boring, holds you back professionally and was low class?

"Sex and the City" and Carrie Bradshaw debuted June 6, 1998. Carrie was supposed to be age 32 or 33 when the show premiered. Carrie didn't marry until age 40 or 41.

Beyonce's song "Independent Women" was released on August 29, 2000.

Just two examples of media brainwashing Generation X and Millennial women that marrying young was trashy and low class. Sophisticated smart girl boss women wait until their 30s because there's always a rich hot guy around the corner eager to swoop you up.

NP. Watched Sex and the City religiously in college, rocked out to that *Destiny’s Child* song, and married my college boyfriend at 25. Never felt that it was trashy or low class, and most of my college-educated friends married before 30. So.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say this on all these threads about how women should marry younger but: women are not the reason couples are getting married later and later. I know it gets blamed on women having more choices and pursuing careers. But of course women are pursuing careers, it's idiotic not to. I don't really know many women who actually put off marriage until later. The issue is that men do not want to get married in their 20s and the most desirable male partners view it as their opportunity to play the field and "be free." Most men still see marriage as the end of their fun times and a prison they'll never escape from. Men in their 20s are incredibly immature, often refusing to engage in basic financial responsibility and personal hygiene, and very unwilling to engage commitment.

Pretty much all of my friends, and I, would have happily married in our 20s. I had 4 friends who got married before they turned 30. I met my husband when I was 29 and felt fortunate. Most of us married early to mid 30s, a couple late 30s, a few not at all. But with few exceptions, if you'd asked us right out of college if we'd be willing to get married at 25/26 to the right person, we would have said yes. The men we dated were not interested in marriage. At all.

Interesting. So the lack of early marriages was entirely the fault of immature young adult men and had nothing to do with the glorification of and young women buying into hookup culture, binge drinking, clubbing, traveling (read drunken hookup culture abroad with random foreigners), playing the field to 'learn what you like', the pill, abortion, lean in, girl boss, independent women, boozy weekend brunches (read drunkenly wasting weekends away instead of using weekends to find a spouse), and the big lie that marriage and children in your 20s was boring, holds you back professionally and was low class?

"Sex and the City" and Carrie Bradshaw debuted June 6, 1998. Carrie was supposed to be age 32 or 33 when the show premiered. Carrie didn't marry until age 40 or 41.

Beyonce's song "Independent Women" was released on August 29, 2000.

Just two examples of media brainwashing Generation X and Millennial women that marrying young was trashy and low class. Sophisticated smart girl boss women wait until their 30s because there's always a rich hot guy around the corner eager to swoop you up.

NP. Watched Sex and the City religiously in college, rocked out to that *Destiny’s Child* song, and married my college boyfriend at 25. Never felt that it was trashy or low class, and most of my college-educated friends married before 30. So.

It's not trashy or low class but I'd immediately think you're extremely fortunate to be college educated and finding love before 30. That means you had good fortune or were born with good luck from a young age.

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Lovely flowers.

Look positively virginal in that white dress.

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The people I know from childhood who married in their early 20s & had kids soon after never moved out of our hometown. They seem happy but it’s a different lifestyle. Grandparents doing a lot of childcare is common.

If you’re a career-oriented HCOL dweller, you will not be able to give your kids an adequate lifestyle and will be held back from making strategic career moves if you do that.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD is 22 and marriage is not on her radar in any way.

It should be. College/grad school is the best time to meet someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD is 22 and marriage is not on her radar in any way.

It should be. College/grad school is the best time to meet someone.

Not everyone wants to “meet someone.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say this on all these threads about how women should marry younger but: women are not the reason couples are getting married later and later. I know it gets blamed on women having more choices and pursuing careers. But of course women are pursuing careers, it's idiotic not to. I don't really know many women who actually put off marriage until later. The issue is that men do not want to get married in their 20s and the most desirable male partners view it as their opportunity to play the field and "be free." Most men still see marriage as the end of their fun times and a prison they'll never escape from. Men in their 20s are incredibly immature, often refusing to engage in basic financial responsibility and personal hygiene, and very unwilling to engage commitment.

Pretty much all of my friends, and I, would have happily married in our 20s. I had 4 friends who got married before they turned 30. I met my husband when I was 29 and felt fortunate. Most of us married early to mid 30s, a couple late 30s, a few not at all. But with few exceptions, if you'd asked us right out of college if we'd be willing to get married at 25/26 to the right person, we would have said yes. The men we dated were not interested in marriage. At all.

Interesting. So the lack of early marriages was entirely the fault of immature young adult men and had nothing to do with the glorification of and young women buying into hookup culture, binge drinking, clubbing, traveling (read drunken hookup culture abroad with random foreigners), playing the field to 'learn what you like', the pill, abortion, lean in, girl boss, independent women, boozy weekend brunches (read drunkenly wasting weekends away instead of using weekends to find a spouse), and the big lie that marriage and children in your 20s was boring, holds you back professionally and was low class?

"Sex and the City" and Carrie Bradshaw debuted June 6, 1998. Carrie was supposed to be age 32 or 33 when the show premiered. Carrie didn't marry until age 40 or 41.

Beyonce's song "Independent Women" was released on August 29, 2000.

Just two examples of media brainwashing Generation X and Millennial women that marrying young was trashy and low class. Sophisticated smart girl boss women wait until their 30s because there's always a rich hot guy around the corner eager to swoop you up.

NP. Watched Sex and the City religiously in college, rocked out to that *Destiny’s Child* song, and married my college boyfriend at 25. Never felt that it was trashy or low class, and most of my college-educated friends married before 30. So.

It's not trashy or low class but I'd immediately think you're extremely fortunate to be college educated and finding love before 30. That means you had good fortune or were born with good luck from a young age.

I met dh after college while I was in grad school, age 22. We married at 25 & 29 and have been married for 15 years. I guess I have good luck too.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD is 22 and marriage is not on her radar in any way.

It should be. College/grad school is the best time to meet someone.

Not everyone wants to “meet someone.”

That's fine, but PP didn't say that her daughter isn't interested in marriage eventually. Just warning her it's a horrible time on those dating apps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The people I know from childhood who married in their early 20s & had kids soon after never moved out of our hometown. They seem happy but it’s a different lifestyle. Grandparents doing a lot of childcare is common.

If you’re a career-oriented HCOL dweller, you will not be able to give your kids an adequate lifestyle and will be held back from making strategic career moves if you do that.

There it is. The old trope that only losers stuck in their hometowns marry young. Trends are a changing. First it’s the young rich and young celebs like a Sofia, next it’ll be all the regular UMC kids you know. There’s going to be an American baby boom because of this. IVF doctors might have to scale back from two to just one vacation home.