DD suddenly stops shaving

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a personal question and you kept pressing. Stop being critical.

She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.

+1. If nothing else it's poor hygiene and looks dirty. I put it in the same category of - you must shower, you must wash your hair, you must keep yourself clean and presentable looking.

I wouldn't push right off the bat, but I would start a conversation and let her know that this is something that, as an adult, she needs to take care of.

Does that include ALL body hair? Cause I would love to hear the polite & calm discussion where you tell your daughter she has to get a Brazilian or else she's gross.

Sadly, I believe there are plenty of effed up mothers who have that conversation.

[Anonymous]

It’s amazing. All these people who wish/ have aspirations that their daughters would change the world. Let that daughter buck against something like the norm of body hair *on their body*, and these same people are freaking the f out.

Good for her for opting out of a big business that does nothing but prey upon working against what is a normal, healthy body.

And as for the poster blathering on about resilience, it’s odd that a parent is so invested in a 15 year olds body. There s a difference between suggestion, and force, coercion. I’d really wonder why it’s so important to a parent to have their daughter shave - something which has nothing to do with health, safety, or hygiene.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a personal question and you kept pressing. Stop being critical.

She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.

+1. If nothing else it's poor hygiene and looks dirty. I put it in the same category of - you must shower, you must wash your hair, you must keep yourself clean and presentable looking.

I wouldn't push right off the bat, but I would start a conversation and let her know that this is something that, as an adult, she needs to take care of.

Why is it poor hygiene for girls but not boys? And if telling your daughter that she absolutely must shave made her upset or made her cry, would you continue to push? Do you think that’s healthy for your relationship?

If my 15 YO DD "cried" over the fact that she had to shave her legs or underarms, I would recognize that I had a far bigger problem on my hands than hygiene. Thankfully, my kids are a little more resilient than that. Do your's really crumble at this level of parental direction? What else would make you suggest such an outcome?

There is nothing wrong with crying at the idea that your mother would force you to do something like that. Especially for a 15-year old. If you think crying in response to something like that is a huge problem I do worry for your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a personal question and you kept pressing. Stop being critical.

She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.

+1. If nothing else it's poor hygiene and looks dirty. I put it in the same category of - you must shower, you must wash your hair, you must keep yourself clean and presentable looking.

I wouldn't push right off the bat, but I would start a conversation and let her know that this is something that, as an adult, she needs to take care of.

Why is it poor hygiene for girls but not boys? And if telling your daughter that she absolutely must shave made her upset or made her cry, would you continue to push? Do you think that’s healthy for your relationship?

If my 15 YO DD "cried" over the fact that she had to shave her legs or underarms, I would recognize that I had a far bigger problem on my hands than hygiene. Thankfully, my kids are a little more resilient than that. Do your's really crumble at this level of parental direction? What else would make you suggest such an outcome?

Capitulating to whatever your controlling mother says you should do does not equal resilience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a personal question and you kept pressing. Stop being critical.

She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.

+1. If nothing else it's poor hygiene and looks dirty. I put it in the same category of - you must shower, you must wash your hair, you must keep yourself clean and presentable looking.

I wouldn't push right off the bat, but I would start a conversation and let her know that this is something that, as an adult, she needs to take care of.

Does that include ALL body hair? Cause I would love to hear the polite & calm discussion where you tell your daughter she has to get a Brazilian or else she's gross.

Ok I am old but I would very much appreciate if I learned that there is an option to wax “down there” from my mother and not my first sex partner lol

[Anonymous]

I shave every day, pits and legs, because I cannot stand the feeling of hair in those places. I feel like it’s constantly getting snagged. DD does not shave for similar reasons: she doesn’t like the prickles that she feels the day after she shaves and the whole process is uncomfortable to her.

We both make our own choices and move on and focus on more important things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s amazing. All these people who wish/ have aspirations that their daughters would change the world. Let that daughter buck against something like the norm of body hair *on their body*, and these same people are freaking the f out.

Good for her for opting out of a big business that does nothing but prey upon working against what is a normal, healthy body.

And as for the poster blathering on about resilience, it’s odd that a parent is so invested in a 15 year olds body. There s a difference between suggestion, and force, coercion. I’d really wonder why it’s so important to a parent to have their daughter shave - something which has nothing to do with health, safety, or hygiene.

But, but, but... (whisper) it looks dirty

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a personal question and you kept pressing. Stop being critical.

She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.

+1. If nothing else it's poor hygiene and looks dirty. I put it in the same category of - you must shower, you must wash your hair, you must keep yourself clean and presentable looking.

I wouldn't push right off the bat, but I would start a conversation and let her know that this is something that, as an adult, she needs to take care of.

Does that include ALL body hair? Cause I would love to hear the polite & calm discussion where you tell your daughter she has to get a Brazilian or else she's gross.

Ok I am old but I would very much appreciate if I learned that there is an option to wax “down there” from my mother and not my first sex partner lol

Sorry for you, BTW porn makes boys think it should all be removed down there so if your DD is just getting a Brazilian, she may still have that special convo with her first.

[Anonymous]

What I would say:
Look, I can tell you that no matter what they say, and especially what other girls or women say, most boys and men prefer shaved. Now, I am not saying you should make sacrifices to be liked by boys better. All I am saying is that’s a well known fact, it’s just not ok to say it outright anymore because equality and all that. It is up to you how to deal with the knowledge I shared with you, I am not going to come back to this conversation unless you bring it up, and thank you for listening despite feeling uncomfortable!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a personal question and you kept pressing. Stop being critical.

She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.

+1. If nothing else it's poor hygiene and looks dirty. I put it in the same category of - you must shower, you must wash your hair, you must keep yourself clean and presentable looking.

I wouldn't push right off the bat, but I would start a conversation and let her know that this is something that, as an adult, she needs to take care of.

Does that include ALL body hair? Cause I would love to hear the polite & calm discussion where you tell your daughter she has to get a Brazilian or else she's gross.

Ok I am old but I would very much appreciate if I learned that there is an option to wax “down there” from my mother and not my first sex partner lol

Sorry for you, BTW porn makes boys think it should all be removed down there so if your DD is just getting a Brazilian, she may still have that special convo with her first.

Brazilian IS when everything is removed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a personal question and you kept pressing. Stop being critical.

She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.

+1. If nothing else it's poor hygiene and looks dirty. I put it in the same category of - you must shower, you must wash your hair, you must keep yourself clean and presentable looking.

I wouldn't push right off the bat, but I would start a conversation and let her know that this is something that, as an adult, she needs to take care of.

Does that include ALL body hair? Cause I would love to hear the polite & calm discussion where you tell your daughter she has to get a Brazilian or else she's gross.

Ok I am old but I would very much appreciate if I learned that there is an option to wax “down there” from my mother and not my first sex partner lol

Sorry for you, BTW porn makes boys think it should all be removed down there so if your DD is just getting a Brazilian, she may still have that special convo with her first.

Brazilian IS when everything is removed

Ah got ya, not that familiar with that level. Sounds like your DD is good to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a personal question and you kept pressing. Stop being critical.

She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.

+1. If nothing else it's poor hygiene and looks dirty. I put it in the same category of - you must shower, you must wash your hair, you must keep yourself clean and presentable looking.

I wouldn't push right off the bat, but I would start a conversation and let her know that this is something that, as an adult, she needs to take care of.

Does that include ALL body hair? Cause I would love to hear the polite & calm discussion where you tell your daughter she has to get a Brazilian or else she's gross.

Ok I am old but I would very much appreciate if I learned that there is an option to wax “down there” from my mother and not my first sex partner lol

Sorry for you, BTW porn makes boys think it should all be removed down there so if your DD is just getting a Brazilian, she may still have that special convo with her first.

No need to feel sorry for me; there are benefits to hair removal but let’s not get explicit here

[Anonymous]

Geez so many daughters of parents on this thread are going to need serious therapy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a personal question and you kept pressing. Stop being critical.

She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.

+1. If nothing else it's poor hygiene and looks dirty. I put it in the same category of - you must shower, you must wash your hair, you must keep yourself clean and presentable looking.

I wouldn't push right off the bat, but I would start a conversation and let her know that this is something that, as an adult, she needs to take care of.

Does that include ALL body hair? Cause I would love to hear the polite & calm discussion where you tell your daughter she has to get a Brazilian or else she's gross.

Ok I am old but I would very much appreciate if I learned that there is an option to wax “down there” from my mother and not my first sex partner lol

Sorry for you, BTW porn makes boys think it should all be removed down there so if your DD is just getting a Brazilian, she may still have that special convo with her first.

Brazilian IS when everything is removed

Ah got ya, not that familiar with that level. Sounds like your DD is good to go.

Oh boy. I wish I could say the same about yours

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a personal question and you kept pressing. Stop being critical.

She is your daughter & you have a right & a duty to be concerned.

Have a polite & calm discussion with your daughter.

+1. If nothing else it's poor hygiene and looks dirty. I put it in the same category of - you must shower, you must wash your hair, you must keep yourself clean and presentable looking.

I wouldn't push right off the bat, but I would start a conversation and let her know that this is something that, as an adult, she needs to take care of.

Does that include ALL body hair? Cause I would love to hear the polite & calm discussion where you tell your daughter she has to get a Brazilian or else she's gross.

Ok I am old but I would very much appreciate if I learned that there is an option to wax “down there” from my mother and not my first sex partner lol

Sorry for you, BTW porn makes boys think it should all be removed down there so if your DD is just getting a Brazilian, she may still have that special convo with her first.

Brazilian IS when everything is removed

Ah got ya, not that familiar with that level. Sounds like your DD is good to go.

Did PP say they had a daughter?

Also, love your level of confidence when you clearly have no clue what you’re even talking about.