Big 3 Nightmare

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Anonymous wrote:Are there a lot going ED2 to Chicago or similar schools again this year?

Not a lot in ED2

How do you know? Are you a college counselor at a Big 3?

Dcs have announced ED2 decisions to each other

[Anonymous]

How much did college admissions weigh in your original decision to send your child to a Big 3? Many start far before high school, so the reasons for attending the school were not mostly about a great college, were they?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much did college admissions weigh in your original decision to send your child to a Big 3? Many start far before high school, so the reasons for attending the school were not mostly about a great college, were they?

The strivers start in high school. The secure wealthy folks start in K.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much did college admissions weigh in your original decision to send your child to a Big 3? Many start far before high school, so the reasons for attending the school were not mostly about a great college, were they?

Was not thinking about college admissions. However, if it restricts their college choices relative to other school options, many would consider pulling kids.

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Anonymous wrote:How much did college admissions weigh in your original decision to send your child to a Big 3? Many start far before high school, so the reasons for attending the school were not mostly about a great college, were they?

The strivers start in high school. The secure wealthy folks start in K.

This is comical because most of us know that the top academic folks did not enter in K.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a parent of a kid in a Big 3 ish school in another city. Your kid is getting a great education and great preparation for college. From where your (and my) kid is coming, they will be fine no matter where they go. They have tremendous privilege and advantages. It will be ok. Really.

I have 2 kids: one at a LAC and one going to a school ranked 75-100. Neither is Ivy and I’m totally fine with that.

I’m sorry but why in the world are you on a thread about the Big 3 if you don’t even live in the DMV? And who are you to comment on the high school education that kids in private schools that you have no experience with are getting?

I see time again posters who don’t live in the DMV but commenting on the college admissions forum saying that, hey, this is a national forum and college admissions is a national issue - fine, I guess, but this thread sure isn’t.

You are obsessed.

I'm not the PP, but our DCs attended a Big 3, then we moved to a very similar school in a similar competitive metro area. Nothing that PP said is antithetical to what happens in the DMV, even a handful of schools within blocks, if not a few miles of each other.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much did college admissions weigh in your original decision to send your child to a Big 3? Many start far before high school, so the reasons for attending the school were not mostly about a great college, were they?

The strivers start in high school. The secure wealthy folks start in K.

This is comical because most of us know that the top academic folks did not enter in K.

“Top academics” mean little in college admissions.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much did college admissions weigh in your original decision to send your child to a Big 3? Many start far before high school, so the reasons for attending the school were not mostly about a great college, were they?

Was not thinking about college admissions. However, if it restricts their college choices relative to other school options, many would consider pulling kids.

You could always send your kid to public school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much did college admissions weigh in your original decision to send your child to a Big 3? Many start far before high school, so the reasons for attending the school were not mostly about a great college, were they?

The strivers start in high school. The secure wealthy folks start in K.

This is comical because most of us know that the top academic folks did not enter in K.

Big 3 Parent here. I would say it is an even mix. Approximately half (or a bit higher - say 60 percent) of of the top 20 percent (or even top ten percent) of the class began in MS/LS. Another half began in HS.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much did college admissions weigh in your original decision to send your child to a Big 3? Many start far before high school, so the reasons for attending the school were not mostly about a great college, were they?

Was not thinking about college admissions. However, if it restricts their college choices relative to other school options, many would consider pulling kids.

Given the effort/grind, my DC would have been better off in a public school. A student who isn't working quite hard will end up with a B+ or lower in most courses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much did college admissions weigh in your original decision to send your child to a Big 3? Many start far before high school, so the reasons for attending the school were not mostly about a great college, were they?

Umm. They sort of were.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much did college admissions weigh in your original decision to send your child to a Big 3? Many start far before high school, so the reasons for attending the school were not mostly about a great college, were they?

The strivers start in high school. The secure wealthy folks start in K.

This is comical because most of us know that the top academic folks did not enter in K.

This isn't a slam dunk comment and I've seen this across a few classes. There tends to be a mix in HS. Yes, some of the lifers probably wouldn't have gotten in at 9th. But many of the top students were admitted PreK/K. It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much did college admissions weigh in your original decision to send your child to a Big 3? Many start far before high school, so the reasons for attending the school were not mostly about a great college, were they?

The strivers start in high school. The secure wealthy folks start in K.

My kid is at a basic public where we have no connections.

But I see this word "striver" all the time on here. What do you care if people are striving for the top echelon of eduction or work or whatever? Why does this bother you so much? I find it distasteful in a society where we are supped to -or at least told we do- value hard work and that hard work will pay off in increased education/money/standing, that people come in here bit---g that people are trying to do just that.

Don't worry about what other people are reaching for. Reaching high is a good thing. Being so judgmental about them doing so, is not so much. Grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:PP here. I also have to add that your kids are ALREADY IN COLLEGE!

One is in college and the other is a senior headed to a 75-100 school.

You do not belong on this thread. Period. And yes you are obsessed. Very, very odd behavior for you to be here.

NP. I know you are accustomed to being able to buy your way into private clubs, but this is not the "I'm upset my Big 3 child isn't going to an Ivy" private group. Not only can anyone post here, PP's comments were very relevant.

+1.

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Anonymous wrote:I think any parent considering a Big 3 (especially at the K level) needs to ask themselves...will I be OK or furious when my little Jimmy ends up at the University of Maryland.

If they are OK, then go ahead and spend the $$$s....if furious, they need to take a step back and realize that UMD (or the equivalent) is their more likely outcome...especially if you are not legacy at a top school and don't think your kid will be some great athlete.

Obviously, if you are rich and the tuition is just a rounding error..then who cares either way.

OP here. Agree with the above. More or less. EA/Ed round was essentially URM/Athlete and big donors. RD (which proved to be redemptive last year) has been weak (at best) this year. Lots of heartbreak.

Where are top kids ending up? I'm a Big3 parent. I know that 95% of the ED admits at our school were URM or athletes. But where are the strong students who are getting less than ideal options ending up?

Most apply EA to UVA/Umich/UMD and get in. That will be a choice option for some and a fall back for many.
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Post 2020, there is no "most get in" for places like UVA and UMich (I cannot speak to UMD) - times have changed.