My wife is furious with me for not standing up for her when my brother told her off.

[Anonymous]

Assuming for the moment this is real, I'm team brother. But I also would have added that if she wants her kids to travel, she needs to pay for it herself and not depend on her husband or his family to pay for her baggage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife isn’t entitled to have her children taken on trips by your brother.

But you’re truly naive to think that one child in a household being raised as the princess is going to go without comment by the other children/adults in the home. Your wife’s daughters are going to expect to be taken on trips— on your wife/your dime— that their stepsister is excluded from. I hope you have budgeted accordingly. I hope you are ready to answer to your daughter as to why she’s not welcome to go on your next family vacation.

You should have waited a few years until all of these children were in college before marrying.

Kids are only entitled to room , board, tuition expense for 4 yrs in in state public college. That is all. They are not entitled to anything that their parents do not want to give them.

A trip is a reward. Neither the mother, nor the kids are deserving of a reward.

It doesn’t sound like his daughter is getting this because she’s “deserving”.

Kids are people. Raising three daughters as less-than their stepsister without taking steps to make sure they get similar if not equivalent experiences is setting up a lifetime of resentment, and the mother is probably aware of this. Hope OPs daughter is planning to take care of her dad and step mother in their old age because I foresee a lot of missed holidays and visits from the daughters being left behind.

Nope. We are talking an adult (18). Not kids.

She doesn’t have to play “sister” to them.

[Anonymous]

Did you copy this from Reddit?

[Anonymous]

OP, maybe you should show this thread to your wife

Also, maybe you could share your brother’s contact info - sounds like we all want to hang out with him.

[Anonymous]

I like your brother.

[Anonymous]

You're brother is awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife isn’t entitled to have her children taken on trips by your brother.

But you’re truly naive to think that one child in a household being raised as the princess is going to go without comment by the other children/adults in the home. Your wife’s daughters are going to expect to be taken on trips— on your wife/your dime— that their stepsister is excluded from. I hope you have budgeted accordingly. I hope you are ready to answer to your daughter as to why she’s not welcome to go on your next family vacation.

You should have waited a few years until all of these children were in college before marrying.

Kids are only entitled to room , board, tuition expense for 4 yrs in in state public college. That is all. They are not entitled to anything that their parents do not want to give them.

A trip is a reward. Neither the mother, nor the kids are deserving of a reward.

It doesn’t sound like his daughter is getting this because she’s “deserving”.

Kids are people. Raising three daughters as less-than their stepsister without taking steps to make sure they get similar if not equivalent experiences is setting up a lifetime of resentment, and the mother is probably aware of this. Hope OPs daughter is planning to take care of her dad and step mother in their old age because I foresee a lot of missed holidays and visits from the daughters being left behind.

Nope. We are talking an adult (18). Not kids.

She doesn’t have to play “sister” to them.

Of course she doesn’t. But OPs wife was foolish to have her kids raised as the poor relations. When they got married and the youngest was 7 and the princess was 9 this probably didn’t seem like a big deal and the parents thought oh this is cute, so now the disparity is going to show and the stepdaughters are going to resent it.

[Anonymous]

They've only been married 6 months, together 7 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife isn’t entitled to have her children taken on trips by your brother.

But you’re truly naive to think that one child in a household being raised as the princess is going to go without comment by the other children/adults in the home. Your wife’s daughters are going to expect to be taken on trips— on your wife/your dime— that their stepsister is excluded from. I hope you have budgeted accordingly. I hope you are ready to answer to your daughter as to why she’s not welcome to go on your next family vacation.

You should have waited a few years until all of these children were in college before marrying.

Kids are only entitled to room , board, tuition expense for 4 yrs in in state public college. That is all. They are not entitled to anything that their parents do not want to give them.

A trip is a reward. Neither the mother, nor the kids are deserving of a reward.

It doesn’t sound like his daughter is getting this because she’s “deserving”.

Kids are people. Raising three daughters as less-than their stepsister without taking steps to make sure they get similar if not equivalent experiences is setting up a lifetime of resentment, and the mother is probably aware of this. Hope OPs daughter is planning to take care of her dad and step mother in their old age because I foresee a lot of missed holidays and visits from the daughters being left behind.

Nope. We are talking an adult (18). Not kids.

She doesn’t have to play “sister” to them.

Of course she doesn’t. But OPs wife was foolish to have her kids raised as the poor relations. When they got married and the youngest was 7 and the princess was 9 this probably didn’t seem like a big deal and the parents thought oh this is cute, so now the disparity is going to show and the stepdaughters are going to resent it.

They've been married for 6 MONTHS. Entitled brat was not 9.

Some people don't like hearing the truth. Not everyone has to like everyone else. It's ok to say that too.

Some of you need some thicker skin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is beyond unreasonable. Your brother is definitely a straight shooter, but I think his response was hysterical - though definitely rude. IMO, your wife was rude first so she should not be surprised.

You are right in standing your ground on this, because your wife was WAY out of line. How can she demand that your brother take her three kids, who he barely knows, on international trips, just because he generously does that for his niece he has known for 17 years? Crazy.

+1

This may be a troll, but I had a good chuckle with your brother's response.

Why on earth did you marry this woman? She sounds toxic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife isn’t entitled to have her children taken on trips by your brother.

But you’re truly naive to think that one child in a household being raised as the princess is going to go without comment by the other children/adults in the home. Your wife’s daughters are going to expect to be taken on trips— on your wife/your dime— that their stepsister is excluded from. I hope you have budgeted accordingly. I hope you are ready to answer to your daughter as to why she’s not welcome to go on your next family vacation.

You should have waited a few years until all of these children were in college before marrying.

Kids are only entitled to room , board, tuition expense for 4 yrs in in state public college. That is all. They are not entitled to anything that their parents do not want to give them.

A trip is a reward. Neither the mother, nor the kids are deserving of a reward.

It doesn’t sound like his daughter is getting this because she’s “deserving”.

Kids are people. Raising three daughters as less-than their stepsister without taking steps to make sure they get similar if not equivalent experiences is setting up a lifetime of resentment, and the mother is probably aware of this. Hope OPs daughter is planning to take care of her dad and step mother in their old age because I foresee a lot of missed holidays and visits from the daughters being left behind.

Nope. We are talking an adult (18). Not kids.

She doesn’t have to play “sister” to them.

Of course she doesn’t. But OPs wife was foolish to have her kids raised as the poor relations. When they got married and the youngest was 7 and the princess was 9 this probably didn’t seem like a big deal and the parents thought oh this is cute, so now the disparity is going to show and the stepdaughters are going to resent it.

They've been married for 6 MONTHS. Entitled brat was not 9.

Some people don't like hearing the truth. Not everyone has to like everyone else. It's ok to say that too.

Some of you need some thicker skin.

I missed the six months and saw the seven years.

I still think the wife was a bad mother to let her kids be raised like this. She could have waited four more years and her kids would have gotten financial aid. Now they’re screwed, and expected to watch their stepsister live a completely different life from them. Divorce would benefit the kids.

[Anonymous]

It sounds, up until this incident, the brother has held his tongue with the new wife. Then, when the new wife stated her demands, all hell broke loose.

Entertaining, to say the least.

[Anonymous]

Your wife needs to explain to her kids that your brother is not their family. He is not their uncle. He is their step dad’s brother. That’s it. All the stuff about your brother not liking kids or whatever is immaterial. He could absolutely love children and be under no obligation to treat your wife’s daughter as de facto nieces, and your daughter’s relationship with her uncle should not be jeopardized because of this. Your wife is so wildly out of line (gee wonder where her daughters got their sense of entitlement from?) that I have a hard time seeing this marriage lasting. What good did you see in your wife? There must have been something?

[Anonymous]

This is hilarious. If only it were true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife isn’t entitled to have her children taken on trips by your brother.

But you’re truly naive to think that one child in a household being raised as the princess is going to go without comment by the other children/adults in the home. Your wife’s daughters are going to expect to be taken on trips— on your wife/your dime— that their stepsister is excluded from. I hope you have budgeted accordingly. I hope you are ready to answer to your daughter as to why she’s not welcome to go on your next family vacation.

You should have waited a few years until all of these children were in college before marrying.

Kids are only entitled to room , board, tuition expense for 4 yrs in in state public college. That is all. They are not entitled to anything that their parents do not want to give them.

A trip is a reward. Neither the mother, nor the kids are deserving of a reward.

It doesn’t sound like his daughter is getting this because she’s “deserving”.

Kids are people. Raising three daughters as less-than their stepsister without taking steps to make sure they get similar if not equivalent experiences is setting up a lifetime of resentment, and the mother is probably aware of this. Hope OPs daughter is planning to take care of her dad and step mother in their old age because I foresee a lot of missed holidays and visits from the daughters being left behind.

With their entitled attitudes that's not a bad thing. These are not toddlers we're taking about. Not everything in life is fair and throwing a temper tantrum is never the answer. Unless you're 2.