I want my thread removed after your write up

[Anonymous]

I really dislike Jeff's summaries. I've been on this website since 2006 (when it was a listserve!) but the summaries make me not really want to post much of anything here.

I also think the summaries are often inaccurate and/or designed to rake up more controversy. As one small example, in the summary the other day of the MCPS bathroom policy change, he stated "Other posters are not convinced that armed police officers raiding school bathrooms is the solution." But that's not really what anyone suggested, and it's a pretty belittling way to frame the discussion (which is complicated and doesn't really have easy solutions). People are already inclined to over-simplify and disparage viewpoints -- do we really need these summaries to further inflame the situation?

I don't know if Jeff is doing this because he's bored, or to drive more clicks to the website, but I'm not a fan.

Just my two cents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doxing is when you post on an anonymous forum and the forum owner gets his rocks off taking your anonymous posts and using them in his Perez Hilton write-ups to smear you as a liar, troll, and/or racist.

Oh! That would explain some confusion. That is not what doxing is. Hope that helps

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

Dear OP:

Dox: search for and publish private or identifying information about (a particular individual) on the internet, typically with malicious intent.

That was definitely not done.


What does your faith have to do with anything? Nothing. Nobody called you a troll or a liar that I could see.

I want my thread removed out of fear of [more] doxing. The website has a precedent for deleting threads upon request. I've now politely requested my thread be deleted five times. It bolsters the point the webmaster is being malicious and gets off on ridiculing, mocking and cyberbullying innocent parties. Breaking precedent to really stick it to me. How virtuous. And of course the miserable vultures lap it up.

OP--what does "doxing" mean? Please define it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really dislike Jeff's summaries. I've been on this website since 2006 (when it was a listserve!) but the summaries make me not really want to post much of anything here.

I also think the summaries are often inaccurate and/or designed to rake up more controversy. As one small example, in the summary the other day of the MCPS bathroom policy change, he stated "Other posters are not convinced that armed police officers raiding school bathrooms is the solution." But that's not really what anyone suggested, and it's a pretty belittling way to frame the discussion (which is complicated and doesn't really have easy solutions). People are already inclined to over-simplify and disparage viewpoints -- do we really need these summaries to further inflame the situation?

I don't know if Jeff is doing this because he's bored, or to drive more clicks to the website, but I'm not a fan.

Just my two cents.

He's doing it for SEO. Writing a blog helps with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really dislike Jeff's summaries. I've been on this website since 2006 (when it was a listserve!) but the summaries make me not really want to post much of anything here.

I also think the summaries are often inaccurate and/or designed to rake up more controversy. As one small example, in the summary the other day of the MCPS bathroom policy change, he stated "Other posters are not convinced that armed police officers raiding school bathrooms is the solution." But that's not really what anyone suggested, and it's a pretty belittling way to frame the discussion (which is complicated and doesn't really have easy solutions). People are already inclined to over-simplify and disparage viewpoints -- do we really need these summaries to further inflame the situation?

I don't know if Jeff is doing this because he's bored, or to drive more clicks to the website, but I'm not a fan.

Just my two cents.

Then don't read them. I haven't read a single one and remain unbothered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really dislike Jeff's summaries. I've been on this website since 2006 (when it was a listserve!) but the summaries make me not really want to post much of anything here.

I also think the summaries are often inaccurate and/or designed to rake up more controversy. As one small example, in the summary the other day of the MCPS bathroom policy change, he stated "Other posters are not convinced that armed police officers raiding school bathrooms is the solution." But that's not really what anyone suggested, and it's a pretty belittling way to frame the discussion (which is complicated and doesn't really have easy solutions). People are already inclined to over-simplify and disparage viewpoints -- do we really need these summaries to further inflame the situation?

I don't know if Jeff is doing this because he's bored, or to drive more clicks to the website, but I'm not a fan.

Just my two cents.

+1. And then play coy and act like he's not being a cyberbully and exploiting his insights into our posting history (read casually doxing innocent parties for his own selfish entertainment). I will never post anything personal on here again.

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:I really dislike Jeff's summaries. I've been on this website since 2006 (when it was a listserve!) but the summaries make me not really want to post much of anything here.

I also think the summaries are often inaccurate and/or designed to rake up more controversy. As one small example, in the summary the other day of the MCPS bathroom policy change, he stated "Other posters are not convinced that armed police officers raiding school bathrooms is the solution." But that's not really what anyone suggested, and it's a pretty belittling way to frame the discussion (which is complicated and doesn't really have easy solutions). People are already inclined to over-simplify and disparage viewpoints -- do we really need these summaries to further inflame the situation?

I don't know if Jeff is doing this because he's bored, or to drive more clicks to the website, but I'm not a fan.

Just my two cents.

That was basically taken directly from a post:

"You want armed police officers for routine patrols of high school bathrooms?"

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/1112711.page#24348957

and the response:

"Yes. The security guards aren't doing anything, and even if they catch the kids, there are no consequences. So, if you want real "teeth" as a PP stated, then you need SROs to sweep the bathrooms." (bolding added)

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/1112711.page#24349102

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doxing is when you post on an anonymous forum and the forum owner gets his rocks off taking your anonymous posts and using them in his Perez Hilton write-ups to smear you as a liar, troll, and/or racist.

Oh! That would explain some confusion. That is not what doxing is. Hope that helps

Doxing is two-fold. One, you have a webmaster casually abusing his trust and authority, exploiting unknowing victims (anonymous posters on an anonymous forum) to attach their anonymous threads to their other anonymous posts, then revealing this publicly on his front page snarky blogs. Two, you have an OP worried about the fact they revealed too much personal information in a thread, which could dox them. The latter concern becomes more elevated because the webmaster is now showing himself to be a casual doxer, if it gets him an extra few clicks and laughs from his sycophantic toadies. OP asks for their thread to be removed, per well-established precedent, and the totally-not-at-all-mean-spirited webmaster refuses because he's getting his rocks off ridiculing, mocking, and cyberbullying the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very mean-spirited behavior from you. I will never share something so personal on here.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1113050.page

I'm sorry that you are upset but I don't think my summary of the thread was mean-spirited in any way. I was certainly not bullying you.

Now you're gaslighting. I don't care to get into a back and forth with someone mocking me. I'd like my thread deleted. This is the third request. Thank you and goodbye.

No, I am not going to remove the thread. At least not now. I just took the time and effort to read enough of it to write a summary which I just posted. That might lead others to want to read it and I don't want my efforts to be for nothing. I haven't mocked you and I am not gaslighting you. The fact that you are making such allegations is further justification for leaving the thread so that readers can judge my summary for themselves.

Again, I want my thread removed. I've now asked four times. I have revealed too much and I don't want it on here, especially when you lock it and dox my posts, to ridicule and mock me, and smear me as a troll (read liar). If I was a lying troll, as you weaponize your authority to erroneously claim, I wouldn't care. I am not a troll, I am not a liar. I am a woman of faith and you're deeply offending me right now. Delete the thread, delete the write-up, delete this thread. Delete it all, I don't care. I don't want this attention. I don't want my family subjected to this cyberbullying and mocking and doxing.

And now you're gaslighting me and refusing to delete the thread upon request, breaking all established precedent. Egging on your malicious sycophants to cyberbully and mock me some more. I'll never post another thread here.

Definitely getting a troll vibe now...

Yeah, I didn't think the original post was trollish at all and assumed the OP was well-meaning if a bit clueless. This thread is definitely making me reconsider my impression of her, and not in a positive way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doxing is when you post on an anonymous forum and the forum owner gets his rocks off taking your anonymous posts and using them in his Perez Hilton write-ups to smear you as a liar, troll, and/or racist.

Oh! That would explain some confusion. That is not what doxing is. Hope that helps

Doxing is two-fold. One, you have a webmaster casually abusing his trust and authority, exploiting unknowing victims (anonymous posters on an anonymous forum) to attach their anonymous threads to their other anonymous posts, then revealing this publicly on his front page snarky blogs. Two, you have an OP worried about the fact they revealed too much personal information in a thread, which could dox them. The latter concern becomes more elevated because the webmaster is now showing himself to be a casual doxer, if it gets him an extra few clicks and laughs from his sycophantic toadies. OP asks for their thread to be removed, per well-established precedent, and the totally-not-at-all-mean-spirited webmaster refuses because he's getting his rocks off ridiculing, mocking, and cyberbullying the OP.

Nobody has been doxxed lmaoooooo you're making my day. i'm screenshotting this all for reddit

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doxing is when you post on an anonymous forum and the forum owner gets his rocks off taking your anonymous posts and using them in his Perez Hilton write-ups to smear you as a liar, troll, and/or racist.

Oh! That would explain some confusion. That is not what doxing is. Hope that helps

Doxing is two-fold. One, you have a webmaster casually abusing his trust and authority, exploiting unknowing victims (anonymous posters on an anonymous forum) to attach their anonymous threads to their other anonymous posts, then revealing this publicly on his front page snarky blogs. Two, you have an OP worried about the fact they revealed too much personal information in a thread, which could dox them. The latter concern becomes more elevated because the webmaster is now showing himself to be a casual doxer, if it gets him an extra few clicks and laughs from his sycophantic toadies. OP asks for their thread to be removed, per well-established precedent, and the totally-not-at-all-mean-spirited webmaster refuses because he's getting his rocks off ridiculing, mocking, and cyberbullying the OP.

The webmaster is wondering why the OP is talking about herself in the third person. The webmaster finds this to be trollish and sock puppety.

[Anonymous]

It's slow at work today. I'm going to lunch and I can't wait to read the updates when I return.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:The way things are going, this might be one of the most active threads that I have to summarize tomorrow.

A real mask-slip moment for you. You're showing your unprofessional true colors, eroding any trust we had in you. Others are reading this and will now think twice before posting anything here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Doxing is when you post on an anonymous forum and the forum owner gets his rocks off taking your anonymous posts and using them in his Perez Hilton write-ups to smear you as a liar, troll, and/or racist.

Oh! That would explain some confusion. That is not what doxing is. Hope that helps

Doxing is two-fold. One, you have a webmaster casually abusing his trust and authority, exploiting unknowing victims (anonymous posters on an anonymous forum) to attach their anonymous threads to their other anonymous posts, then revealing this publicly on his front page snarky blogs. Two, you have an OP worried about the fact they revealed too much personal information in a thread, which could dox them. The latter concern becomes more elevated because the webmaster is now showing himself to be a casual doxer, if it gets him an extra few clicks and laughs from his sycophantic toadies. OP asks for their thread to be removed, per well-established precedent, and the totally-not-at-all-mean-spirited webmaster refuses because he's getting his rocks off ridiculing, mocking, and cyberbullying the OP.

Where did Jeff link your OP to any other posts/responses? All he did was say that he wasn't sure your story was legit because of your harping on your son's eye color.

All we know about you is that you're a Catholic (presumably) woman married to a lapsed Jewish man which a son dating an Indian woman. That doesn't seem terribly identifying to me?

Since doing the write-ups, Jeff has a precedent of not deleting thread listed there upon request to avoid broken links.

[Anonymous]

Even if Jeff decides to delete the OP’s post, wouldn’t the wayback machine already have archived the post?