Uninvited from Super Bowl party

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the passive-aggressive poster (glad you like it ) but I honestly would do that despite not being a petty person because I think it is warranted here..."Oh sorry Larlo, DW has to watch alone now and I don't want her to have to do that, so I won't be able to cover for you"

Huh? The others at the party shouldn’t have been on deck to watch the OP’s kid whether or not DH was at the party.

NVM see what you were saying

[Anonymous]

I’m a “boss” and the bottom line is you have to get used to not being invited to anything. No one wants the boss there. And, no it’s not me, I remember this is how it went down when I wasn’t the boss and someone else was. People just want to cut loose. They want to gossip. It’s totally understandable. They probably somehow engineered the whole thing to get your husband to feel like he had to offer to take the shift so NONE of you could come. It’s just the way it is.

[Anonymous]

what did the email ACTUALLY say? did it say "since bob is working the shift now, sally and the kids are no longer invited either"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a “boss” and the bottom line is you have to get used to not being invited to anything. No one wants the boss there. And, no it’s not me, I remember this is how it went down when I wasn’t the boss and someone else was. People just want to cut loose. They want to gossip. It’s totally understandable. They probably somehow engineered the whole thing to get your husband to feel like he had to offer to take the shift so NONE of you could come. It’s just the way it is.

You're right. I guess I just wasn't expecting it, but you're right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what did the email ACTUALLY say? did it say "since bob is working the shift now, sally and the kids are no longer invited either"?

+1 I need to know the text of this email!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what did the email ACTUALLY say? did it say "since bob is working the shift now, sally and the kids are no longer invited either"?

I wonder too. It seems weird! But maybe it's somehow known the OP doesn't care about football or the Super Bowl (by her own admission) and the host just wants people who are there for the betting, the game specifics and so forth. It's like someone coming to an Academy Awards party who's not interested in movies and is just there to drink, eat, and talk loudly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems weird you would have gone without him.

they’re military. Supposed to be there for each other.

[Anonymous]

That's incredibly rude of the host. But then again, why would you want to hang out with someone who is that awful? Sounds like you need to make nicer friends that are not connected to his workplace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a “boss” and the bottom line is you have to get used to not being invited to anything. No one wants the boss there. And, no it’s not me, I remember this is how it went down when I wasn’t the boss and someone else was. People just want to cut loose. They want to gossip. It’s totally understandable. They probably somehow engineered the whole thing to get your husband to feel like he had to offer to take the shift so NONE of you could come. It’s just the way it is.

But it makes no sense that the boss was invited and now the employee is willing to piss off the boss by uninviting his wife and kids-it would be more understandable if this was going to be a a wild adults only night, but who is going to go to the trouble of uninviting a mom and kids to a family party.

[Anonymous]

It can be difficult being the boss's spouse. I imagine especially so in military life. Do you have ways to interact more in civilian circles?

[Anonymous]

Dang if I were you I’d be hoping my husband got a new job soon. You might be lonely, but who needs friends like those?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what did the email ACTUALLY say? did it say "since bob is working the shift now, sally and the kids are no longer invited either"?

+1 I need to know the text of this email!

"Unfortunately, for capacity reasons, we've made the difficult decision to cut back on the attendees of the 2023 [Unit] Super Bowl party. I appreciate your willingness to [slang] for [person] in order for him to host, but because of the space limitations, it would be best if you conveyed our disappointment to Mrs. Smith that we won't be able to host her and kids this time around."

Maybe it truly was a space thing. But it seemed like such odd timing.

[Anonymous]

This is the unfortunate part of military life. I did it, and things definitely got more lonely in the final stretch to retirement.

I’d start looking for opportunities to engage inside the civilian community. Book clubs, yoga classes, whatever. You need a network without a power dynamic.

[Anonymous]

Tell your DH to fire the effer.
Then work on your feelings of loneliness - hopefully this will give you the necessary angry energy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you seen this email? This sounds odd to me

+1. This sounds like your husband covering - HE said none of you would come and when he realized you still planned to go he made this up.