Uninvited from Super Bowl party

[Anonymous]

Let me preface this by saying I don't care about the Super Bowl, but I'm very isolated and lonely and take social interactions where I can get them.

That being said, DH's unit has a pretty fantastic party every year, and I look forward to going. This year, the host ended up being assigned to work, so DH offered to take his shift so he could host (he reports directly to DH). A day later, DH got an email uninviting me and our kids, for the sole reason that it was a family party, and since DH wasn't going, we weren't welcome.

Part of me gets it, but most of me...DH isn't going so the host can host! I was crushed, but DH thinks I'm overreacting and should just watch the game at home. I know he's right, but again, I don't care about the game. I wanted to see other human beings.

Just needed to vent. I know there's no solution.

[Anonymous]

Wow, what a jerk! I hope your husband never does a favor for him again. (Also, kind of on your husband to tell his coworker he’s not being cool.)

[Anonymous]

Have you seen this email? This sounds odd to me

[Anonymous]

Sounds like there was some miscommunication about the reason your husband took this shift, and that the host failed to understand that you still wanted to go.

I assume this was not an intentional slight, so let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you seen this email? This sounds odd to me

Yes, I was copied on it.

[Anonymous]

This can’t be real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like there was some miscommunication about the reason your husband took this shift, and that the host failed to understand that you still wanted to go.

I assume this was not an intentional slight, so let it go.

This actually makes sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This can’t be real.

+1
It is unbelievably rude and uncouth of the host. The only reason they can host is because of your husband!

[Anonymous]

Can’t you just write back and say hey I was really looking forward to this and I’d like to still come? That returns the awkward to sender—they will either have to double down on being hideously rude, or be gracious and do the right thing. Also, how are you not a family without your husband?! Are single parents not welcome at this house?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like your DH is the boss. Not many people want the bosses wife around. If people want to whine or gossip about work then no one wants you there. It’s more relaxing without you.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP, that was rude of them but it' sounds like it's better if you don't go.

[Anonymous]

Show up anyhow and report back!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, that was rude of them but it' sounds like it's better if you don't go.

Obviously I won't. But it was going to be a breath of fresh air after a long while of loneliness, and I was looking forward to it.

[Anonymous]

I think you are justified in feeling slighted, especially considering your husband was kind enough to offer to cover his shift so he can host. This is not the company you want to keep, OP. The host seems very narrow-minded with a very uninspired perception of “family”.

[Anonymous]

That's pretty ballsy to do your boss.