Uninvited from Super Bowl party

[Anonymous]

This would deeply deeply hurt my feelings and maybe ruin my week.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:what did the email ACTUALLY say? did it say "since bob is working the shift now, sally and the kids are no longer invited either"?

+1 I need to know the text of this email!

"Unfortunately, for capacity reasons, we've made the difficult decision to cut back on the attendees of the 2023 [Unit] Super Bowl party. I appreciate your willingness to [slang] for [person] in order for him to host, but because of the space limitations, it would be best if you conveyed our disappointment to Mrs. Smith that we won't be able to host her and kids this time around."

Maybe it truly was a space thing. But it seemed like such odd timing.

this is so incredibly hostile that I would wonder if something else is going on with your DH’s work and he’s going to be fired or involved in some kind of dispute. didn’t your DH have anything to say?

Just reminded me not to say anything to anyone about it out of concern for my own reputation - which I wouldn't dare!

Your husband sounds like a spineless wimp, honestly. My guess is he isn't respected among his unit and allowing his family to be so blatantly insulted should be a sign to you, OP.

Why are military posters like this gentle rose ^ so damned rude? OP’s husband has been there for 3 weeks, and is in an elevated position above the idiot who was insanely rude. There is nothing admirable, strong, or powerful in that behavior and you’re gross, and someone to avoid at all costs, PP.

OP, try to join some book or exercise clubs, and a church group if appropriate. You and your family did nothing wrong. I won’t go further into it but there is damned good reason that civilians with education, perspective and options don’t mix well with those attracted by the military.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:what did the email ACTUALLY say? did it say "since bob is working the shift now, sally and the kids are no longer invited either"?

+1 I need to know the text of this email!

"Unfortunately, for capacity reasons, we've made the difficult decision to cut back on the attendees of the 2023 [Unit] Super Bowl party. I appreciate your willingness to [slang] for [person] in order for him to host, but because of the space limitations, it would be best if you conveyed our disappointment to Mrs. Smith that we won't be able to host her and kids this time around."

Maybe it truly was a space thing. But it seemed like such odd timing.

this is so incredibly hostile that I would wonder if something else is going on with your DH’s work and he’s going to be fired or involved in some kind of dispute. didn’t your DH have anything to say?

Just reminded me not to say anything to anyone about it out of concern for my own reputation - which I wouldn't dare!

Your husband sounds like a spineless wimp, honestly. My guess is he isn't respected among his unit and allowing his family to be so blatantly insulted should be a sign to you, OP.

Why are military posters like this gentle rose ^ so damned rude? OP’s husband has been there for 3 weeks, and is in an elevated position above the idiot who was insanely rude. There is nothing admirable, strong, or powerful in that behavior and you’re gross, and someone to avoid at all costs, PP.

OP, try to join some book or exercise clubs, and a church group if appropriate. You and your family did nothing wrong. I won’t go further into it but there is damned good reason that civilians with education, perspective and options don’t mix well with those attracted by the military.

Not everyone in the military acts like these awful people. Most are kind to the other families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I don't care about the Super Bowl, but I'm very isolated and lonely and take social interactions where I can get them.

That being said, DH's unit has a pretty fantastic party every year, and I look forward to going. This year, the host ended up being assigned to work, so DH offered to take his shift so he could host (he reports directly to DH). A day later, DH got an email uninviting me and our kids, for the sole reason that it was a family party, and since DH wasn't going, we weren't welcome.

Part of me gets it, but most of me...DH isn't going so the host can host! I was crushed, but DH thinks I'm overreacting and should just watch the game at home. I know he's right, but again, I don't care about the game. I wanted to see other human beings.

Just needed to vent. I know there's no solution.

This is probably one of the rudest things I have ever heard of. It is rude and no there is no excuse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I don't care about the Super Bowl, but I'm very isolated and lonely and take social interactions where I can get them.

That being said, DH's unit has a pretty fantastic party every year, and I look forward to going. This year, the host ended up being assigned to work, so DH offered to take his shift so he could host (he reports directly to DH). A day later, DH got an email uninviting me and our kids, for the sole reason that it was a family party, and since DH wasn't going, we weren't welcome.

Part of me gets it, but most of me...DH isn't going so the host can host! I was crushed, but DH thinks I'm overreacting and should just watch the game at home. I know he's right, but again, I don't care about the game. I wanted to see other human beings.

Just needed to vent. I know there's no solution.

This is probably one of the rudest things I have ever heard of. It is rude and no there is no excuse.

Also your husband is rude to offer to work and ditch you. The whole thing wreaks of being low class.

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Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I don't care about the Super Bowl, but I'm very isolated and lonely and take social interactions where I can get them.

That being said, DH's unit has a pretty fantastic party every year, and I look forward to going. This year, the host ended up being assigned to work, so DH offered to take his shift so he could host (he reports directly to DH). A day later, DH got an email uninviting me and our kids, for the sole reason that it was a family party, and since DH wasn't going, we weren't welcome.

Part of me gets it, but most of me...DH isn't going so the host can host! I was crushed, but DH thinks I'm overreacting and should just watch the game at home. I know he's right, but again, I don't care about the game. I wanted to see other human beings.

Just needed to vent. I know there's no solution.

This is probably one of the rudest things I have ever heard of. It is rude and no there is no excuse.

Also your husband is rude to offer to work and ditch you. The whole thing wreaks of being low class.

No, he's taking care of his people. But you knew that. You just wanted to get in a dig about the military.