Am I coddling my DD by allowing her to come home when she's going through a rough patch?

[Anonymous]

I would visit first.

[Anonymous]

If my child is in pain s/he is always welcome to come home for a week. My home will always always be a haven, much needed in this tough world.

[Anonymous]

Team husband

[Anonymous]

DH picked up DD at her request on day #4 of junior year due to her complaints a roommate who appeared to be abusive. This was when a lot of classes were still remote & hybrid, however, so no classes missed. When she returned to the room after 2 weeks, the roommate’s behavior escalated, and it took even longer for the room switch to happen than expected. It eventually did, a month into the school year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH picked up DD at her request on day #4 of junior year due to her complaints a roommate who appeared to be abusive. This was when a lot of classes were still remote & hybrid, however, so no classes missed. When she returned to the room after 2 weeks, the roommate’s behavior escalated, and it took even longer for the room switch to happen than expected. It eventually did, a month into the school year.

This is completely different. OP's kid is not in danger.

[Anonymous]

If she really feels the need to come home, she will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team husband

NP. Why?

[Anonymous]

It is perfect that when she is struggling, she tells you. And when she needs some TLC, , she looks to her family.

This is a big deal in her young life, and she is coping in a healthy fashion by reaching out to you.

(Your husband sounds sort of macho. Trust your instincts,)

[Anonymous]

Would absolutely have her home for the week. Is therapy or medication in the works to help her manage her anxiety long term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s great she’s wants to come home for a week. Home is her safe and loving place. Don’t make her change her mind (tell that to her father).

+1 absolutely

[Anonymous]

Haven’t read relies but let her come home. Last thing you need is getting back with a loser bechase she’s not strong enough.

[Anonymous]

Of course!

[Anonymous]

Your husband is wrong

OF COURSE you welcome your child home! I can’t imagine being turned away from my family when I need love and stability the most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course!

not

[Anonymous]

I would let her come home for the weekend but not a week and miss school. However, with free flights I'd fly up there and spend a few days with her as a compromise.