Concerning Incident at Daycare

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The diaper issue is unacceptable. My DC went to an in-home at age 2. There were 8 kids with a lead and assistant teacher. Diaper changes were done every 2 hours, except if a kid pooped it was changed immediately. The contract stated clearly that unless it was an emergency regular communications might have to wait till the teachers had a break.

+1. Your expectations around the daily updates seem a little high. But the diaper thing is a huge screaming red flag

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you have valid concerns about the daycare's ability to provide adequate care for your child.

In a group of 9 with two teachers I would not expect frequent updates or responses to text messages, but I get why you want them, which is the same reason why you should find another daycare. They may have one good teacher but clearly don't know how to train and manage other teachers which is so important in a daycare setting.

For 9 kids updates take 5 minutes 3-4/day...if that. Written may be easier but yes at 2 YO the parent needs to know- did they eat? did they poop? did they pee? did they nap? any issues.

Even my almost 5 year old isnt the best narrator of daily events.

Parent of teen here. PRE APPs we learned this information at pick up. Not throughout the day. How can the care givers be attentive to their kids if they are spending all this time updating parents in Apps?

And no, unless your kid is ill (then should be home), or having an eating or pooping issue, NO parent of a 2-year old needs to know ONE DEMAND THROUGHOUT THE DAY if they ate, pooped, or peed. That is nuts.

[Anonymous]

Some parents are nuts, crazy.

[Anonymous]

I prefer written reports. They write down every 2-3 hours. And I like the small notes of the best things or moments the kid did.

Full Reports for infants is fine. There's no need for a full report of a 2 years old.
Just a note of the best moments of the day.

I hate those daily online reports apps. I don't want the caregivers to be on the phone for evert f*king pee, poo. I don't need to know that during the day. I much prefer to see the written report at the end of the day.

I would be so anxious and PARANOID watching what my kid is doing every hour. Crazy.

[Anonymous]

Do you want your child to "get attention"


or do you want the Providers, Teachers give attention to their phones every 30 minutes, an hour?

[Anonymous]

It's so much preffered to change the child's diaper than being so anxious CRAZY updating the daily report online app every 30 minutes, 1 hour.

Give ATTENTION TO THE CHILDREN’S DIAPERS, NOT THE PHONES

[Anonymous]

As a parent of an average healthy child, why do you need to know how many times they pee?

[Anonymous]

I once picked my kid up early from daycare. He was preschool age. We had appreciated the detailed report on the day she always did (one for the whole room not for each child). That day I learned it was basically made up. There was all kinds of detail from activity that had not happened yet. Jack jumped really high on the playground! Sally got the whole class clapping during music time.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they every online report is made up too.

[Anonymous]

Maybe every online daily update is made up. Just rush, type anything and done. Send.

Haha I'm sure the online reports are made up too.

[Anonymous]

Checking and Changing diapers is more important than typing on the phone every 30 minute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just to understand, if you are messaging and calling your daycare, while they are working with nine other children, and expect an immediate response?

You did point out issues but it sounds to me like you’re used to having a nanny share and being the boss versus being a client at a group daycare.

I definitely don't expect immediate response, but do expect some level of communication throughout the day (e.g., log diaper changes and meals). When the head teacher isn't there, there is literally zero communication. This wasn't such a huge concern until my DD came home in the same diaper she had been wearing for 8+ hours.

Wait - you need them to tell you how many times they changed your TWO YEAR OLD'S diaper? Why is that necessary? I 100% agree that they need to change the diapers and coming home in a diaper she wore all day is unacceptable, but it's also insane for you to expect them to tell you how many times they changed your toddler's diaper. This isn't an infant, you're not concerned about dehydration!!

Also, are you sure your child isn't just a heavy pee-er who pees right before you pick her up? Did you try sharpie/labeling the diapers before you accused them of this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just to understand, if you are messaging and calling your daycare, while they are working with nine other children, and expect an immediate response?

You did point out issues but it sounds to me like you’re used to having a nanny share and being the boss versus being a client at a group daycare.

+1

[Anonymous]

Change diapers. Stop being glued on your phones

[Anonymous]

That’s disgusting and frankly, horrifically unsanitary. I nannied a child that age for only 2.5 hours a day and changed their wet diaper at least once. It is not good for their skin and it’s definitely not loving or attentive care to the child’s needs. Can you hire the nanny back?