I’m an adult child who expects more from my parent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come on, DCUM…this is such an obvious troll.

If you think a poster is a troll, then report it and let Jeff look into it. He'll delete the thread if he determines it was started by a troll. But if you don't report it he'll never know. He doesn't read all threads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I guess what I’m asking is whether it’s wrong to wish my dad would help me and his only grandchildren financially? I’d never ask for assistance and it’s his money, but is it reasonable that it kind of hurts my feelings?

Yes, OP, your feelings are completely valid.

Most parents, if they are financially able, would like to help their kids, to give them a head start on a down payment, maybe paying tuition for grandchildren, etc. Of course, not all parents are financially able to do this. But I think that all good parents would at least consider it a nice thing to do, with the understanding that their kids will help the next generation, and so on.

I am 50, and my parents have been generous over the years - providing a down payment and tuition for the grandchildren. We are very blessed that we never asked for it - they just provided it. And I plan to do this for my kids.

If your dad refused to give you $3000 after the apartment fire, he sounds like a vindictive and selfish person. Maybe it's best to just try to make peace with it. Then if you can, try to give your own kids a head start with a down payment, etc, and urge them to pass it on.