Parents of Color, How diverse is your school? Is it going well for your child socially and academic

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Anonymous wrote:OP Here which girls school if you dont mind me asking?

Holton-Arms

That makes me very happy to read. The black girls from my DD's class have done very well for themselves (10 years out).

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I attended a catholic k-8 and was one of four poc in the school. It was hell, the white privilege was overwhelming. My parents transferred me the following year.

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Anonymous wrote:I do wonder what schools have the most diversity.

From top ones I’ve seen:
Gonzaga 24%
Visi 36%
SJC 36%
Stone Ridge 37%
GDS 40% POC
Landon 41%
Potomac 42%
STA 43%
NCS 46%
Maret 52%
Sidwell 57%

I’m pretty surprised at GDS’s low %. I don’t see why every school couldn’t be 50%

GDS has a lot of religious diversity which should also count especially because many schools used to restrict non Christians.

So GDS can get away with low # of minority kids because it’s popular with Jewish families? Nice try.

Diversity comes in all forms. DC is not even majority AA anymore. Latino families now make up a large portion of the diversity in DC. POC include Asian families as well as Indian. It should also include religious diversity especially if it is cultural such as Judiaism, Hindu, Muslim.

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Anonymous wrote:I do wonder what schools have the most diversity.

From top ones I’ve seen:
Gonzaga 24%
Visi 36%
SJC 36%
Stone Ridge 37%
GDS 40% POC
Landon 41%
Potomac 42%
STA 43%
NCS 46%
Maret 52%
Sidwell 57%

I’m pretty surprised at GDS’s low %. I don’t see why every school couldn’t be 50%

GDS has a lot of religious diversity which should also count especially because many schools used to restrict non Christians.

So GDS can get away with low # of minority kids because it’s popular with Jewish families? Nice try.

Diversity comes in all forms. DC is not even majority AA anymore. Latino families now make up a large portion of the diversity in DC. POC include Asian families as well as Indian. It should also include religious diversity especially if it is cultural such as Judiaism, Hindu, Muslim.

That is not the case with DC children under 18. It’s only 39% white yet 60% white at GDS- which is probably the most social justice and equity touting school. You don’t find that odd? Hmmm.

GDS lower school (per great schools) is 8% black at lower/middle school.
Niche reports their entire school as 15% black.

Yes, all diversity is important. But when you’re the #1 BLM school in the DMV it’s quite disappointing to see them not walking the walk. Greater DMV is 6% Jewish. I’m sure they meet the quota and then some. DMV Muslims are 2% and Hindu is 1%. Safe to say they meet that quota. The only glaring quota they’re not even coming close to is black students. That’s an issue. The school profile has a similar breakdown as Georgetown Prep. GDS has more white students than Landon. You think that lines up with their core values of …”Georgetown Day School was founded as the first integrated school in Washington, DC, and our School’s longstanding commitment to diversity, equity, and inclusion are grounded in that history.”

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To add, DC children under 18 is 55% black.

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Anonymous wrote:To add, DC children under 18 is 55% black.

Most of these schools are not located in the center of DC. McLean, VA is a lot closer to them than Anacostia.

Trying to shame them for not reflecting a community that is out of commuting distance by most people standards is absurd.

And who cares? In the scheme of things, these schools are small and unimportant. You want to educate kids of all colors? Focus on the public schools! They’ve already got the diversity, but they need more teaching staff.

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Are your numbers for DC or the DC area?

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Anonymous wrote:White parrot if a black daughter. She is only has 1 other black girl in her grade. She is doing well academically but is disappointed socially. Seems like most of the grade lives near each other in Chevy Chase. School is in DC and we live further north in MoCo.

Some black parents have not welcomed our family into the school community and specifically uninvited me from an event that was initially advertise for black students and their parents. DEI coordinator is inexperienced and overworked. It’s sad because the community could be really great. It’s a school that was founded to bring different kinds of students together.

So was your daughter invited and not you? This seems like it could be distressing to children in multi-racial families.

yeah. It would seem so, but you need to read up on "safe spaces". people really do not feel free to be open and speak of shared lived experiences while in presences of people without said experiences.

they know that 'gaslighting", discounting and ridicule of genuine experiences and concerns happen in "mixed company". it can make people feel less free and open to share.

think of how different it is for girls sometimes to shine in mixed gender classes while being more open in all girls. It's like that kinda.

wanted to add. the purpose is not to exclude or make those not invited feel bad. it's about the majority and their mental health and feelings.

I would hope those excluded would empathize and understand that history of being burned by people outside their community has been the result of thngs like "safe spaces" --- if everyone were nice and fair, these things wouldn't need to exist.

The problem, of course, with the situation as PP describes it, is that the school is (was?) creating a situation where a child is told they can attend an event only if they exclude their own parent just because their parent is not of a particular race. What kind of tension do you think that creates in that child’s mind? In that family?

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Anonymous wrote:In particular how racially diverse is your school. Black parents how has your child been doing at your private socially and academically.

The kids are fine, this is Washington DC not Iceland.

No, the kids are not fine. I’m assuming you’re a white parent. Would you be okay if your child was the only white student in his/her class? One of 2?

The fact that you say the kids are fine shows only your entitlement and no empathy.

In a class of 10 or 20 or 25?

Small classes of 50/50 male and female can be a social abyss for many children.

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Anonymous wrote:In particular how racially diverse is your school. Black parents how has your child been doing at your private socially and academically.

The kids are fine, this is Washington DC not Iceland.

No, the kids are not fine. I’m assuming you’re a white parent. Would you be okay if your child was the only white student in his/her class? One of 2?

The fact that you say the kids are fine shows only your entitlement and no empathy.

Am black, love the black community we have at church, school and sports and so do our various neighbors at their private schools. Washington Dac is a special place, we hope to not move away.

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Anonymous wrote:To add, DC children under 18 is 55% black.

Most of these schools are not located in the center of DC. McLean, VA is a lot closer to them than Anacostia.

Trying to shame them for not reflecting a community that is out of commuting distance by most people standards is absurd.

And who cares? In the scheme of things, these schools are small and unimportant. You want to educate kids of all colors? Focus on the public schools! They’ve already got the diversity, but they need more teaching staff.

Oh so now you think all the black kids live in Anacostia. Wow. Jackson Reed is around the corner and only 37% white. Hardy middle is 30% black and 40% white. These are schools that can’t hand select students. The point remains, GDS, the most liberal school in DC, is the whitest private school in DC and 2) many black families commute from EOTR to Georgetown to Upper NW so miss me with the “all black kids live in Anacostia. Even if that were true (which it’s not), there is nothing stopping the DEI of GDS from operating a bus from SE and NE. They have one to pick up in Crestwood.

There is no excuse for GDS to have the whitest population. Anyone trying to rationalize it doesn’t prioritize diversity and has no need on this thread. They should be called out.

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Anonymous wrote:Bullis is really diverse.

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Anonymous wrote:White parrot if a black daughter. She is only has 1 other black girl in her grade. She is doing well academically but is disappointed socially. Seems like most of the grade lives near each other in Chevy Chase. School is in DC and we live further north in MoCo.

Some black parents have not welcomed our family into the school community and specifically uninvited me from an event that was initially advertise for black students and their parents. DEI coordinator is inexperienced and overworked. It’s sad because the community could be really great. It’s a school that was founded to bring different kinds of students together.

So was your daughter invited and not you? This seems like it could be distressing to children in multi-racial families.

yeah. It would seem so, but you need to read up on "safe spaces". people really do not feel free to be open and speak of shared lived experiences while in presences of people without said experiences.

they know that 'gaslighting", discounting and ridicule of genuine experiences and concerns happen in "mixed company". it can make people feel less free and open to share.

think of how different it is for girls sometimes to shine in mixed gender classes while being more open in all girls. It's like that kinda.

But what about the message it sends to children in multi-racial families? Perhaps mom can attend but not dad, or in the case of adoption then neither parent can attend with the child. Children in multi-racial families navigate self identity questions and society categorizing them (often in a way that doesn’t represent them accurately)- I think excluding a parent or parents from events amplifies the often confusing world they navigate. And sure on the safe space/gaslighting argument in general, but with the multi-racial family groups, not as much.

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Anonymous wrote:In particular how racially diverse is your school. Black parents how has your child been doing at your private socially and academically.

The kids are fine, this is Washington DC not Iceland.

No, the kids are not fine. I’m assuming you’re a white parent. Would you be okay if your child was the only white student in his/her class? One of 2?

The fact that you say the kids are fine shows only your entitlement and no empathy.

In a class of 10 or 20 or 25?

Small classes of 50/50 male and female can be a social abyss for many children.

In a class of 10 children where you want representation of as many races, ethnicities and religions as possible ... everyone is going to be an "only" something.

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Anonymous wrote:To add, DC children under 18 is 55% black.

Most of these schools are not located in the center of DC. McLean, VA is a lot closer to them than Anacostia.

Trying to shame them for not reflecting a community that is out of commuting distance by most people standards is absurd.

And who cares? In the scheme of things, these schools are small and unimportant. You want to educate kids of all colors? Focus on the public schools! They’ve already got the diversity, but they need more teaching staff.

Oh so now you think all the black kids live in Anacostia. Wow. Jackson Reed is around the corner and only 37% white. Hardy middle is 30% black and 40% white. These are schools that can’t hand select students. The point remains, GDS, the most liberal school in DC, is the whitest private school in DC and 2) many black families commute from EOTR to Georgetown to Upper NW so miss me with the “all black kids live in Anacostia. Even if that were true (which it’s not), there is nothing stopping the DEI of GDS from operating a bus from SE and NE. They have one to pick up in Crestwood.

There is no excuse for GDS to have the whitest population. Anyone trying to rationalize it doesn’t prioritize diversity and has no need on this thread. They should be called out.

Jackson Reed most of its students come from outside of the boundary.

GDS was founded for students that were not allowed in other schools including Jewish students. I am not even a GDS parent yet find your posts annoying. No one owes you or anyone else anything. The sooner you realize that and teach your kids that the better off you will all be in life. Life is not fair. I can give countless examples of people just strolling through life with wealth and connections most will never have. Repeat life is not fair.