Team dad critical of your kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you call him out in front of everyone? Something like "Hey Bob, why are picking on my son Larlo again? It's rude and we're sick of it."

Yup. Say it loud enough for everyone to hear, just like this a-hole dad does.

OP - are you from the Northeast? I'm surprised you have to ask, and didn't end this before the guy stopped talking the first time.

[Anonymous]

How have you lived to the age that you have a 14 year old and never had to politely confront someone behaving inappropriately. "Jim, you comments about my son during the game were inappropriate, rude, and immature. It's against our club's policy for parents to make those kinds of comments. If you do it again, I'm going to discus with the club."

[Anonymous]

How have you lived to the age that you have a 14 year old and never had to politely confront someone behaving inappropriately. "Jim, you comments about my son during the game were inappropriate, rude, and immature. It's against our club's policy for parents to make those kinds of comments. If you do it again, I'm going to discus with the club."

Also, just adding, but I am not sure what relevance your relationships with the other parents or your son's past status of playing with kids on this team have to do with it. This is not a popularity context. It's a guy behaving inappropriately, and I assume, contrary to what the club allows. Even if you were socially awkward with the other parents and your kid had no connections to anyone, that's irrelevant. Just tell him to stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle the dad that makes a comment out loud anytime your kid touches the ball? The kid is not a bad player. In fact, one of the better ones but new to the team. Any time my kid touches the ball he’ll make some dumb@ssy comment or critique. It’s completely rude. I played the sport D1. This short dumpy dad did not play the sport.

I just ignore it so far, but I’m Irish-Italian and I know it’s getting so close to me saying something incredibly nasty to him.

My son played with all the other boys when he was young and I get along really well with the other parents.

It doesn't matter all that much, but what exactly is he saying? There is a difference between "Pass it off quickly now!" and "Ugghh, why is Larlo even in the game, he is so slow!?"
Does he make the comments *only* about your kid, or is it a running commentary on all the players?

[Anonymous]

How do you handle the dad that makes a comment out loud anytime your kid touches the ball? The kid is not a bad player. In fact, one of the better ones but new to the team. Any time my kid touches the ball he’ll make some dumb@ssy comment or critique. It’s completely rude. I played the sport D1. This short dumpy dad did not play the sport.

Actually, maybe the two of you will wind up being best friends in the end since you both seem like obnoxious bros.

Him for making comments about your kid during a game. You for making childish comments about someone's height and physique. Are you suggesting that if he were a tall fit guy who had played a bunch of sports, that gives him a pass to make whatever mean comments he wants aloud about a kid during a sports game? If not, then what's the relevance?

Also, congrats on having played sports in the past, I guess?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Handout lollipops.

+1 We have a friend who does this.

Does this actually work? What adult wants the lollipop. I get it's supposed to stop people from speaking.

People who are self aware will bring their own lollipop. But for the person who lacks self awareness it is a subtle way of letting them know they need to shut up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Say something? DH is hypercritical of all the kids on the team during games. He's too competitive and he comes from a few generations deep of playing D1 level in a different sport. One of my friends said something to me. I 'make' him watch games by himself now away from all the other parents. He knows it's a problem.

Wow, you married a real loser. Yuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

How do you handle the dad that makes a comment out loud anytime your kid touches the ball? The kid is not a bad player. In fact, one of the better ones but new to the team. Any time my kid touches the ball he’ll make some dumb@ssy comment or critique. It’s completely rude. I played the sport D1. This short dumpy dad did not play the sport.

Actually, maybe the two of you will wind up being best friends in the end since you both seem like obnoxious bros.

Him for making comments about your kid during a game. You for making childish comments about someone's height and physique. Are you suggesting that if he were a tall fit guy who had played a bunch of sports, that gives him a pass to make whatever mean comments he wants aloud about a kid during a sports game? If not, then what's the relevance?

Also, congrats on having played sports in the past, I guess?

The point is it’s extra embarrassing to see men who likely had no success in sports in their life and are out of shape screaming at children playing sports.

It’s weird how 9 times out of 10 it’s “that guy”. Misplaced energy from their youth or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

How do you handle the dad that makes a comment out loud anytime your kid touches the ball? The kid is not a bad player. In fact, one of the better ones but new to the team. Any time my kid touches the ball he’ll make some dumb@ssy comment or critique. It’s completely rude. I played the sport D1. This short dumpy dad did not play the sport.

Actually, maybe the two of you will wind up being best friends in the end since you both seem like obnoxious bros.

Him for making comments about your kid during a game. You for making childish comments about someone's height and physique. Are you suggesting that if he were a tall fit guy who had played a bunch of sports, that gives him a pass to make whatever mean comments he wants aloud about a kid during a sports game? If not, then what's the relevance?

Also, congrats on having played sports in the past, I guess?

OP is a woman. A bro and lady bro?

[Anonymous]

Ignore him and tell your kid to ignore that. I have been in similar situations. I tell my son to disregard all side comments and play the hand the way he was trained and if he doesn’t, then I will stop letting him play.

[Anonymous]

One kid on the team was giving instructions to other players, that were frequently wrong. Eventually my kid told him to shut up and that he was the worst player on the team.

[Anonymous]

Actually, maybe the two of you will wind up being best friends in the end since you both seem like obnoxious bros.

Him for making comments about your kid during a game. You for making childish comments about someone's height and physique. Are you suggesting that if he were a tall fit guy who had played a bunch of sports, that gives him a pass to make whatever mean comments he wants aloud about a kid during a sports game? If not, then what's the relevance?

Also, congrats on having played sports in the past, I guess?


The point is it’s extra embarrassing to see men who likely had no success in sports in their life and are out of shape screaming at children playing sports.

It’s weird how 9 times out of 10 it’s “that guy”. Misplaced energy from their youth or something.

I assumed that was what the person was getting at. However, I disagree that it makes it appropriate to knock on someone's height (which they have zero control over), or weight (which they may or may not have any control over). I also disagree that it is relevant how athletic this guy was, or what his appearance is like. If Alphonso Davies' had a kid on my 13 year old kid's team, and he was making overt disparaging remarks about my kid during a game, it's still inappropriate, rude, and against the club rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Say something? DH is hypercritical of all the kids on the team during games. He's too competitive and he comes from a few generations deep of playing D1 level in a different sport. One of my friends said something to me. I 'make' him watch games by himself now away from all the other parents. He knows it's a problem.

Wow, you married a real loser. Yuck.

Not really. He's self-aware and stands by himself now at games. Not an issue in any other context.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, you should surreptitiously audio record him (no video) at one game. Then you’ll have examples in case he denies it.

Check if you are in a one party or two party consent state before recording anyone

Sigh. You are talking about wiretap statutes. This is not that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Actually, maybe the two of you will wind up being best friends in the end since you both seem like obnoxious bros.

Him for making comments about your kid during a game. You for making childish comments about someone's height and physique. Are you suggesting that if he were a tall fit guy who had played a bunch of sports, that gives him a pass to make whatever mean comments he wants aloud about a kid during a sports game? If not, then what's the relevance?

Also, congrats on having played sports in the past, I guess?


The point is it’s extra embarrassing to see men who likely had no success in sports in their life and are out of shape screaming at children playing sports.

It’s weird how 9 times out of 10 it’s “that guy”. Misplaced energy from their youth or something.

I assumed that was what the person was getting at. However, I disagree that it makes it appropriate to knock on someone's height (which they have zero control over), or weight (which they may or may not have any control over). I also disagree that it is relevant how athletic this guy was, or what his appearance is like. If Alphonso Davies' had a kid on my 13 year old kid's team, and he was making overt disparaging remarks about my kid during a game, it's still inappropriate, rude, and against the club rules.

I see your point and also boo hoo for the anonymous short dumpy guy. I guess don't yell at children and people won't make unkind comments about you. OP was frustrated and made an unkind comment. It happens. I assume (and hope!) she wouldn't say this in front of her kids.