Team dad critical of your kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly is he saying? I don’t quite understand. The kid is 14 and can handle himself but then again, you said he can’t hear him. Just let it go. If not, have your husband, a man, talk to him.

Why does a man need to talk to him?

+1. What a weird comment.

Why does "a man" need to talk to him?
Why do you assume there is a husband involved?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The next time he says something, I would say "Stop embarrassing yourself. I've played the sport before and you don't know what you're talking about."

This.

What I love about my kids' teams is that the only critical comments you hear are from parents about their own kids.

OP. Oh no- he only sings praise about his own kid who is tall but on the ground constantly.

These are 14 year olds which is why I don’t say anything. My kid can’t hear from the field. I try not to sit near him. But, I know I will say something because I know myself too well.

This happened a few years ago (not directed at my son that time), but just a complete jerk dad who yelled at other kids and openly criticized. All of the parents couldn’t stand him. I lost it one game and just yelled “shut the F@k up”. I was the only woman on the sidelines. It ended it from there on out. I think he was quite humiliated and all the dads got a chuckle and thanked me later.

I would never advise that you do this again, but honestly if I had been there, I would have found this hugely satisfying and awesome.

[Anonymous]

I just ignore it so far, but I’m Irish-Italian and I know it’s getting so close to me saying something incredibly nasty to him.

Why would you either ignore it or say something incredibly nasty. Be a grown adult. Approach him and say firmly, "it's inappropriate to make loud negative comments about kids' playing. I need you to stop. If you don't, I will have to take the issue up with the coach and club."

[Anonymous]

We had this with the clueless mom of a kid on my kid’s first travel basketball team. It was indicative of some really team culture problems. My kid changed teams, which was a great decision. The parents on every other team my kid played on were very supportive, which was a welcome change.

[Anonymous]

*really significant team culture problems

[Anonymous]

The easiest thing to do, is just not sit/stand anywhere near this dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The easiest thing to do, is just not sit/stand anywhere near this dad.

DP. Hard to do on sidelines today that are crammed and you can only be on spectator side on team’s half of the field. Everyone is jammed in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly is he saying? I don’t quite understand. The kid is 14 and can handle himself but then again, you said he can’t hear him. Just let it go. If not, have your husband, a man, talk to him.

Why does a man need to talk to him?

+1. What a weird comment.

Why does "a man" need to talk to him?
Why do you assume there is a husband involved?

Because women are too damn emotional to stand up for themselves. Men stick to the point. I assume it takes a man and a woman to make a child? Whomever the man is, husband or not, it’s a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly is he saying? I don’t quite understand. The kid is 14 and can handle himself but then again, you said he can’t hear him. Just let it go. If not, have your husband, a man, talk to him.

Why does a man need to talk to him?

+1. What a weird comment.

Why does "a man" need to talk to him?
Why do you assume there is a husband involved?

Because women are too damn emotional to stand up for themselves. Men stick to the point. I assume it takes a man and a woman to make a child? Whomever the man is, husband or not, it’s a man.

You seem emotional about this. Maybe go for a walk?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What exactly is he saying? I don’t quite understand. The kid is 14 and can handle himself but then again, you said he can’t hear him. Just let it go. If not, have your husband, a man, talk to him.

Why does a man need to talk to him?

+1. What a weird comment.

Why does "a man" need to talk to him?
Why do you assume there is a husband involved?

Because women are too damn emotional to stand up for themselves. Men stick to the point. I assume it takes a man and a woman to make a child? Whomever the man is, husband or not, it’s a man.

The dads screaming at the refs and throwing baby tantrum fits on the sidelines aren't emotional? Got it. Some are so fricking embarrassing at "kiddie soccer" when none of these kids are going to be playing in the World Cup

[Anonymous]

“It’s not necessary for you to vocalize your critical thoughts about my son’s playing. You are not the coach. These are 14-year-olds. And you seem to have a weird focus on my kid. Please stop. Just…stop .”

These self-appointed half-broadcaster, half-wannabe-coach types are so annoying.

[Anonymous]

Also, you should surreptitiously audio record him (no video) at one game. Then you’ll have examples in case he denies it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, you should surreptitiously audio record him (no video) at one game. Then you’ll have examples in case he denies it.

Check if you are in a one party or two party consent state before recording anyone

[Anonymous]

DP. My husband is the appointed videographer for the games. We have it all on tape…and then some. He always edits out noise/voices, but I’m waiting for the most egregious ones to drop.

And he’s recording a game which is not against the law, btw.

[Anonymous]

If it is bothering you, tell him it is inappropriate and ask him to stop.
He sounds like a jerk, but you also come across as overly tied up in your child's sports and how what some rando says to him compares to what you perceive as the reality of the situation.