Team dad critical of your kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you handle the dad that makes a comment out loud anytime your kid touches the ball? The kid is not a bad player. In fact, one of the better ones but new to the team. Any time my kid touches the ball he’ll make some dumb@ssy comment or critique. It’s completely rude. I played the sport D1. This short dumpy dad did not play the sport.

I just ignore it so far, but I’m Irish-Italian and I know it’s getting so close to me saying something incredibly nasty to him.

My son played with all the other boys when he was young and I get along really well with the other parents.

It is always the short dumpy dads. Truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Handout lollipops.

+1 We have a friend who does this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Handout lollipops.

+1 We have a friend who does this.

Does this actually work? What adult wants the lollipop. I get it's supposed to stop people from speaking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The next time he says something, I would say "Stop embarrassing yourself. I've played the sport before and you don't know what you're talking about."

This.

What I love about my kids' teams is that the only critical comments you hear are from parents about their own kids.

[Anonymous]

If I heard a parent constantly criticizing a kid other than their own, I would notify the coach. No one wants to hear that type of negativity. I’m surprised another parent hasn’t already said something. It would be easier if another parent said something as a third party rather than yourself.

[Anonymous]

Talk to the coach and let them handle. We actually had a ref talk to our coach this season because multiple parents were criticizing their own team loudly. Who does that? I can't wait to be done with this team and it's November.

[Anonymous]

Say something? DH is hypercritical of all the kids on the team during games. He's too competitive and he comes from a few generations deep of playing D1 level in a different sport. One of my friends said something to me. I 'make' him watch games by himself now away from all the other parents. He knows it's a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The next time he says something, I would say "Stop embarrassing yourself. I've played the sport before and you don't know what you're talking about."

This.

What I love about my kids' teams is that the only critical comments you hear are from parents about their own kids.

Honestly, I hate this, too.

There’s a dad on my son’s team who constantly makes loud, critical comments about his 9yo. It’s horrible to listen to, and certainly not helpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh so sorry.

I have similar experiences.


Neighborhood dad coaches yuck.

Son's bf's dad was a coach for t-ball and soccer. Awful awful. Never played DS. And was a jerk about it this was grade 1 &2. We finally removed DS from his teams. Fast forward 9th grade Varsity Lax, Divison 1 college recruit. His kid made the HS soccer team bench warmer.

This doesn’t sound like the coach making the comment, rather another parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The next time he says something, I would say "Stop embarrassing yourself. I've played the sport before and you don't know what you're talking about."

This.

What I love about my kids' teams is that the only critical comments you hear are from parents about their own kids.

OP. Oh no- he only sings praise about his own kid who is tall but on the ground constantly.

These are 14 year olds which is why I don’t say anything. My kid can’t hear from the field. I try not to sit near him. But, I know I will say something because I know myself too well.

This happened a few years ago (not directed at my son that time), but just a complete jerk dad who yelled at other kids and openly criticized. All of the parents couldn’t stand him. I lost it one game and just yelled “shut the F@k up”. I was the only woman on the sidelines. It ended it from there on out. I think he was quite humiliated and all the dads got a chuckle and thanked me later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Handout lollipops.

+1 We have a friend who does this.

Does this actually work? What adult wants the lollipop. I get it's supposed to stop people from speaking.

No. It’s a ridiculous idea. No clue how it got so much traction in the team sportsmanship liaison world. It’s not clear to me why people find it hard to just say “I’d appreciate it if you’d stop criticizing my child.” I’ve always found that most of the idiots like the one OP describes will rein it in if you give them a pointed look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The next time he says something, I would say "Stop embarrassing yourself. I've played the sport before and you don't know what you're talking about."

This.

What I love about my kids' teams is that the only critical comments you hear are from parents about their own kids.

OP. Oh no- he only sings praise about his own kid who is tall but on the ground constantly.

These are 14 year olds which is why I don’t say anything. My kid can’t hear from the field. I try not to sit near him. But, I know I will say something because I know myself too well.

This happened a few years ago (not directed at my son that time), but just a complete jerk dad who yelled at other kids and openly criticized. All of the parents couldn’t stand him. I lost it one game and just yelled “shut the F@k up”. I was the only woman on the sidelines. It ended it from there on out. I think he was quite humiliated and all the dads got a chuckle and thanked me later.

That’s perhaps not ideal modeling.

I don’t think you need to helicopter this either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The next time he says something, I would say "Stop embarrassing yourself. I've played the sport before and you don't know what you're talking about."

This.

What I love about my kids' teams is that the only critical comments you hear are from parents about their own kids.

OP. Oh no- he only sings praise about his own kid who is tall but on the ground constantly.

These are 14 year olds which is why I don’t say anything. My kid can’t hear from the field. I try not to sit near him. But, I know I will say something because I know myself too well.

This happened a few years ago (not directed at my son that time), but just a complete jerk dad who yelled at other kids and openly criticized. All of the parents couldn’t stand him. I lost it one game and just yelled “shut the F@k up”. I was the only woman on the sidelines. It ended it from there on out. I think he was quite humiliated and all the dads got a chuckle and thanked me later.

That’s perhaps not ideal modeling.

I don’t think you need to helicopter this either.

NP
Lord almighty not everything needs to be “ideal modeling.” We’re all human you know.

[Anonymous]

What exactly is he saying? I don’t quite understand. The kid is 14 and can handle himself but then again, you said he can’t hear him. Just let it go. If not, have your husband, a man, talk to him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What exactly is he saying? I don’t quite understand. The kid is 14 and can handle himself but then again, you said he can’t hear him. Just let it go. If not, have your husband, a man, talk to him.

Why does a man need to talk to him?