What makes a 50+ year old woman think that she looks 25? Serious question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 54, my hair is past my bra strap, I wear whatever I like, and that includes mini skirts, stilettos, and bikini tops all together. My husband, who happens to be 37, cannot get enough of me and my mental illness. He dumped a woman 18 years my Junior to make me the happiest of women. So if that’s my mental illness then bring it on!

But do you think you look 37?

Rock what works for you and hope you're having fun!

[Anonymous]

When I look at myself in the mirror, I think I look like I always have. But when I do a side by side of pictures, of course I have aged over the past 25 years. The brain is weird.

There is a study that indicates that men see women as when they first met them. So your husband you married at 28 sees you as that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I look in my 20’s but I’ve been mistaken to be a younger person many times.

I’m 54 and people assume I’m in my 30’s.

I don’t see it personally.

How does this ever come up in your life? I’m curious. How do you have a 20 year old when you are 35? That type of thing?

In my social circles no one is guessing or commenting on anyone’s age.

Are your kids in daycare? No they are in college
I was on prednisone for a medical issue and a rumor was started at work that I was pregnant, lol pregnant.
Oh your kids play soccer what league, oh Big 10… what you have kids in college?
We were creating a team for a project, it’s a 10 year project, I said I could work on the plan but not execution because I’m retiring in 3 years when I’m 57.
I’ve had 30 year olds hit on me, I’m like dude I’m 50.

[Anonymous]

This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I look in my 20’s but I’ve been mistaken to be a younger person many times.

I’m 54 and people assume I’m in my 30’s.

I don’t see it personally.

How does this ever come up in your life? I’m curious. How do you have a 20 year old when you are 35? That type of thing?

In my social circles no one is guessing or commenting on anyone’s age.

From my experience, people tell others what they thing they want to hear. For example, I have a coworker who is older and not particularly pretty at all, but in her mind she is a sexy hot blond. Somehow people are always giving the compliments she craves. Other more beautiful but more grounded women rarely get any compliment because people just don't think they are after that kind of fake flattery. I'm 41 and can look pretty youthful on a good photo (minus the crow's feet), but look like an old hag when I catch my reflection by mistake. It does make me sad to think that's what people see of me.

People hear what they want to hear. I can always spot a person who is fishing for compliments, because it reeks of desperation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.

+1
It doesn't harm anyone and boosts someone's self esteem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some women get a lot of attention even as they get older b/c they are happy, fun, interested in others, do a lot of fun/different things, and have confidence. They are great to be around b/c they are warm and welcoming. Everyone wants to be close to a woman like that!

I agree with this and also what does this have to do with anything the OP said?

I’m guessing they’re trying to make the connection that those women assume getting attention is because they must look younger but it isn’t, it’s just that they’re fun and magnetic and maybe have a personality that feels young at heart.

This group of 50+ women said people regularly tell them they look to be in their 20s and 30s. Which is a totally different thing than being happy, positive, interesting people who draw others in and others want be around them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.

+1
It doesn't harm anyone and boosts someone's self esteem.

It does harm me if I have to sit around listen to your delusional ass at girl's night out and pretend I agree you look 25.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.

+1
It doesn't harm anyone and boosts someone's self esteem.

It does harm me if I have to sit around listen to your delusional ass at girl's night out and pretend I agree you look 25.

I am not one of these types of women, but I am so thankful you are not someone in my life. You are either a troll or an awful person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.

+1
It doesn't harm anyone and boosts someone's self esteem.

It does harm me if I have to sit around listen to your delusional ass at girl's night out and pretend I agree you look 25.

Clearly you don’t really like these women. Why did you even go out with them? They’d be much better off without a person in their midst who is secretly making fun of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't actually doubt that people have mistaken them for much younger and that they get attention from younger men. Some people, particularly if they are of a different race, are bad at guessing age, and some men will just f*** anybody.

This. It’s probably true that some people guess their age as younger. In general, women seem to age better than they used to, because of cosmetic procedures, healthier lifestyles, and not smoking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.

+1
It doesn't harm anyone and boosts someone's self esteem.

It does harm me if I have to sit around listen to your delusional ass at girl's night out and pretend I agree you look 25.

I am not one of these types of women, but I am so thankful you are not someone in my life. You are either a troll or an awful person.

But you are not an awful person for making grand pronouncements such as this about a random stranger on the internet? Classic DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think I look in my 20’s but I’ve been mistaken to be a younger person many times.

I’m 54 and people assume I’m in my 30’s.

I don’t see it personally.

How does this ever come up in your life? I’m curious. How do you have a 20 year old when you are 35? That type of thing?

In my social circles no one is guessing or commenting on anyone’s age.

From my experience, people tell others what they thing they want to hear. For example, I have a coworker who is older and not particularly pretty at all, but in her mind she is a sexy hot blond. Somehow people are always giving the compliments she craves. Other more beautiful but more grounded women rarely get any compliment because people just don't think they are after that kind of fake flattery. I'm 41 and can look pretty youthful on a good photo (minus the crow's feet), but look like an old hag when I catch my reflection by mistake. It does make me sad to think that's what people see of me.

Except nobody tells me I look 30 something they act @ me like I’m 30.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.

Not true. Why would you help a woman to delude herself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a perfect example of how women don't support other women, and are incredibly judgmental.

Let women feel whatever they want to feel if it's a positive to them.

+1
It doesn't harm anyone and boosts someone's self esteem.

It does harm me if I have to sit around listen to your delusional ass at girl's night out and pretend I agree you look 25.

I am not one of these types of women, but I am so thankful you are not someone in my life. You are either a troll or an awful person.

But you are not an awful person for making grand pronouncements such as this about a random stranger on the internet? Classic DCUM.

The point being that you are a classic example of what many women (probably like you) try to deny exists. And that is that women so often are the worst enemies of other women. If it "hurts" you so badly to sit and listen to these women feel good about themselves, then leave. Don't listen then go off and then denigrate them.