I am fat and hate it

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Anonymous wrote:There is no secret. Cut back on your eating and work out.

This. It is the ONLY way.

Now what methods you use to do that may differ depending on your needs. Maybe you needs meds or surgery in order to consistently eat less. If you do- do that. Baby steps with exercise. Start with low level exercise like walking on incline if you aren’t use to any. Increase intensity and add strength training as you build stamina and get stronger.

Actually many women are losing on Ozempic with little effort. Thinner than their friends now who have to restrict and work out 2x a day. Winning.

You are “winning” bc you need to take a med so you don’t keep overeating?

Um— yeah. If there are medical reasons for your weight gain, then taking a medication that will reduce it is definitely winning.

The people saying that all overweight people need to do is eat less and exercise more are similar to people who tell the clinically depressed that all they need to do is just cheer up.

For most obese people, it’s about body chemistry, not willpower.

Nice try, but the PP lacks the ability to understand. What you wrote reflects the current position of most obesity scientists, but most of DCUMs diet posters cannot understand something this complex. They lack the capacity.

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Anonymous wrote:Cut out all sugar, flour, white rice and potatoes. No seed oils. An anti inflammatory, low glycemic diet is the way to go. Exercise daily.

I eat 4 slices of bread with jelly for pre workout breakfast, 80g oatmeal for post workout breakfast, french bread as a morning snack, 200g of white rice with lunch, avocado toast for afternoon snack, 200g white rice with dinner, and 150g fruit for dessert. I’ll let you guess how fat I am.

Carbs are fuel. Diet depends on activity level. Stop the nonsense and eat in a well balanced deficit over several months.

Are you the neurotic man that does extreme exercising? If so, clearly what you and what your diet is isn’t applicable here.

Why yes that’s me! Eating my toast now

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Anonymous wrote:There is no secret. Cut back on your eating and work out.

This. It is the ONLY way.

Now what methods you use to do that may differ depending on your needs. Maybe you needs meds or surgery in order to consistently eat less. If you do- do that. Baby steps with exercise. Start with low level exercise like walking on incline if you aren’t use to any. Increase intensity and add strength training as you build stamina and get stronger.

Actually many women are losing on Ozempic with little effort. Thinner than their friends now who have to restrict and work out 2x a day. Winning.

You are “winning” bc you need to take a med so you don’t keep overeating?

Um— yeah. If there are medical reasons for your weight gain, then taking a medication that will reduce it is definitely winning.

The people saying that all overweight people need to do is eat less and exercise more are similar to people who tell the clinically depressed that all they need to do is just cheer up.

For most obese people, it’s about body chemistry, not willpower.

But that wasn’t PP point. They were gloating about somehow doing better than those that are able to manage their weight without meds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, I have lost approx 50 lbs so far this year and am still working on it. Give yourself grace and time and be realistic with yourself re what you can realistically do. Dont just cut out all carbs tomorrow and think that you will succeed in the long term. You wont. Small changes over time is what works.

Stop drinking, for starters. Alcohol has empty calories, yes, but that wasnt what was getting in the way of my health. It is that I would drink, eat more than usual while drinking, then be sluggish the next day and not want to get up and be active. So then its tempting to order takeover and put everyone on screens and it just isnt healthy.

Speaking of exercise, give yourself grace. I used to be able to do Orange Theory type classes, but that then, this is now. Find an exercise you like and will regularly do. It could be Zumba, yoga, walking, swimming, whatever, just go. Even if its a schlep to get there, your spouse is going to have to understand. Then, once you get there, dont beat yourself up if you arent kicking ass like you were in college. You will get back there eventually. Once you start to lose weight and can do more, you will.

As far as food, again try to give yourself grace. You cant sustainably go from takeout every night to homecooked organic vegan meals overnight. It takes baby steps re removing unhealthy components of your diet and adding healthy.

Wow, that is a lot of grace being given. At some point one has to knuckle down to the hard task of sacrificing some things you like to get the result you want.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t come to DCUM for advice. It will be 99% bad.

What is the 1% that's correct? Since you seem to know that 99% is "bad".

The 1% that is correct is that permanent long-term weight loss is very difficult and that OP would be better off talking with a variety of experts, understanding at the same time that a lot of nutritionists and personal trainers are wildly ignorant, and that a lot of doctors are ignorant and motivated by keeping income coming in.

In other words, what is true is that the state of advice for long-term, sustainable weight loss is grim. OPs best option is to carefully find professionals she trusts who can evaluate her individual situation. In her case it will need to include a weight-aware psychiatrist given how OP gained the weight. She also needs a comprehensive blood work-up, and an evaluation for insulin resistance and possibly for pre-diabetes.

Most of DCUM’s advice on weight loss is shockingly stupid.

Well I guess a lot of shockingly stupid weight loss advice is actually working for a lot of us. So no, not grim. and no, not only the 1%

Unless you have maintained significant weight loss for 5+ years, your opinion is irrelevant, and probably shockingly dumb, yes.

Actually I HAVE maintained a significant weight loss....for the last 20+ years - through TWO pregnancies! Is that relevant enough for you? Or are you still shockingly obtuse and ignorant.

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Are you still taking the Lexapro?

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Anonymous wrote:Only eat veggies and meat or eggs. Eat berries once in awhile for dessert.

why would you only eat berries once in a while? They are full of antioxidants and healthy.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t come to DCUM for advice. It will be 99% bad.

What is the 1% that's correct? Since you seem to know that 99% is "bad".

The 1% that is correct is that permanent long-term weight loss is very difficult and that OP would be better off talking with a variety of experts, understanding at the same time that a lot of nutritionists and personal trainers are wildly ignorant, and that a lot of doctors are ignorant and motivated by keeping income coming in.

In other words, what is true is that the state of advice for long-term, sustainable weight loss is grim. OPs best option is to carefully find professionals she trusts who can evaluate her individual situation. In her case it will need to include a weight-aware psychiatrist given how OP gained the weight. She also needs a comprehensive blood work-up, and an evaluation for insulin resistance and possibly for pre-diabetes.

Most of DCUM’s advice on weight loss is shockingly stupid.

Well I guess a lot of shockingly stupid weight loss advice is actually working for a lot of us. So no, not grim. and no, not only the 1%

Unless you have maintained significant weight loss for 5+ years, your opinion is irrelevant, and probably shockingly dumb, yes.

Actually I HAVE maintained a significant weight loss....for the last 20+ years - through TWO pregnancies! Is that relevant enough for you? Or are you still shockingly obtuse and ignorant.

DP but I think this is a misuse of "obtuse". It's a word I like to use myself and it seems out of place here.

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Anonymous wrote:There is no secret. Cut back on your eating and work out.

This. It is the ONLY way.

Now what methods you use to do that may differ depending on your needs. Maybe you needs meds or surgery in order to consistently eat less. If you do- do that. Baby steps with exercise. Start with low level exercise like walking on incline if you aren’t use to any. Increase intensity and add strength training as you build stamina and get stronger.

Actually many women are losing on Ozempic with little effort. Thinner than their friends now who have to restrict and work out 2x a day. Winning.

You are “winning” bc you need to take a med so you don’t keep overeating?

Lol this. I don’t need to take meds to maintain a normal weight and never have! Winning.

[Anonymous]

It's brave to admit this. I used to be bogged down with the shame.

I found cognitive behavioral therapy helpful - Beck Diet Book.

Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:There is no secret. Cut back on your eating and work out.

This. It is the ONLY way.

Now what methods you use to do that may differ depending on your needs. Maybe you needs meds or surgery in order to consistently eat less. If you do- do that. Baby steps with exercise. Start with low level exercise like walking on incline if you aren’t use to any. Increase intensity and add strength training as you build stamina and get stronger.

Actually many women are losing on Ozempic with little effort. Thinner than their friends now who have to restrict and work out 2x a day. Winning.

You are “winning” bc you need to take a med so you don’t keep overeating?

Lol this. I don’t need to take meds to maintain a normal weight and never have! Winning.

Whoop de doo for you. Not everyone can do that. Clearer you are a superior specimen of humanity. Physically, I mean. Clearly not morally.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you still taking the Lexapro?

Good question. NP here. I found it extremely hard to maintain my weight loss after starting lexapro. It made my appetite go through the roof with crazy sugar cravings. I am now decreasing my lexapro dose and it seems to be helping with decreasing my voracious appetite. But I plan to stay on a small dose because it is so helpful for my anxiety and panic attacks.

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Read and follow "Reversing Diabetes Forever" and be physically active every day. Even if you don't have diabetes.
There are food combinations and substitutions that help in conjunction with the physical exercise.
Protein at every snack and every meal. 15-20 carbs max for snacks (1 or 2x/day) and 30-40 carbs per meal (3x/day). But the food elements are important - not just the carb count (such as white bread v. multigrain or oil and vinegar/apple cider salad dressing instead of creamy ranch)

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Anonymous wrote:Gained on Lexapro. Help. I need to shed lbs for aesthetic and well-being reasons. Please offer advice that will work and begin to show immediately. I am sad

OP, cut yourself some slack. Lexapro is bad news for weight gain. If you haven't already, switch your antidepressant. Start with a few modifications to diet and increase your exercise. Just be diligent about sticking to diet and exercise and you will start seeing changes. I really think Lexapro should be prescribed w/ a weight loss drug or appetite suppressant b/c it is really, really bad at making you gain weight fast.

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Anonymous wrote:Gained on Lexapro. Help. I need to shed lbs for aesthetic and well-being reasons. Please offer advice that will work and begin to show immediately. I am sad

OP, cut yourself some slack. Lexapro is bad news for weight gain. If you haven't already, switch your antidepressant. Start with a few modifications to diet and increase your exercise. Just be diligent about sticking to diet and exercise and you will start seeing changes. I really think Lexapro should be prescribed w/ a weight loss drug or appetite suppressant b/c it is really, really bad at making you gain weight fast.

Is it just Lexapro? I thought all the SSRI antidepressants were bad for weight loss?