Is it better to marry someone 5-10 years older than you?

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Anonymous wrote:I wanted to settle down and have kids young (for DC, ie not at 40) and all the men my age wouldn't have been ready for that for another 10 years. I met DH when I was 26 and he was 32 and his light was on. It worked out great for us.

Yes, this seems accurate in dc. I don’t think 5 yrs is that much. 10 yrs seems a lot as one would have been in elementary and one in college which seems more of a frame of reference not at all in sync. Someone 15 may have liked the same music as a 20 yr old, for example.

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Anonymous wrote:I wanted to settle down and have kids young (for DC, ie not at 40) and all the men my age wouldn't have been ready for that for another 10 years. I met DH when I was 26 and he was 32 and his light was on. It worked out great for us.

Yes, this seems accurate in dc. I don’t think 5 yrs is that much. 10 yrs seems a lot as one would have been in elementary and one in college which seems more of a frame of reference not at all in sync. Someone 15 may have liked the same music as a 20 yr old, for example.

I have found who likes what music or sitcoms pretty inconsequential in a serious relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:5 yes, but 10 years? No, unless you are older. There is a huge difference between a 20 year old woman and a 30 year old man, but not so much between a 50 year old woman and a 60 year old man.

what are talking about? 30 yo man is the best looking man. college assistant professors around 30 were the rage, and even in high school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’ll be dead before you and you can move in with your besties golden girls style.

+1. Best reason. Can’t wait to grow old with my BFFs.

[Anonymous]

At 24 DH was ready to date to get married so me being a couple years older meant I was also ready. Most women his age weren’t interested in serious relationships yet so it made sense for him to go a little bit older.

[Anonymous]

Terrible idea OP . Look at actuarial charts or go to an old folks home. Women on average live longer. Go younger!

[Anonymous]

No. Its a different generation. I think you can marry someone who is 2-3 years younger or older than you if you have the option. It could also be that you are out of options and you marry whoever is available and they are that much younger or older than you.

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Anonymous wrote:As a man in his 50s, I'd say my sex drive better matches someone who is 10-15 years younger.

Even though younger, attractive female finds aging, balding, low tested middle age man disgusting and unattractive?

I’m sure men find your wrinkles, saggy boobs, stretched out vag, no sex drive, and nagging disgusting and unattractive.

DP.. so you agree that young people, men or women, don't find old saggy people physically attractive, right?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife is two years older. Makes sense because men on average don't live as long.

Same here, although we have a massive libido imbalance, with hers a fraction of mine. To match up on libido, an age gap is better. I wish I had married younger.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife is two years older. Makes sense because men on average don't live as long.

Same here, although we have a massive libido imbalance, with hers a fraction of mine. To match up on libido, an age gap is better. I wish I had married younger.

Based on personal experience, I don't think age related. I'm 3 years older than DH and my libido is much higher than his (even if it's a touch lower than in my twenties). I do feel a million times more confident in my body at 43 than I did at 23, so old age does have some advantages.

[Anonymous]

I married my DH when I was 30 and he was 35. I see no differences whatsoever as it relates to age and we are in our 40’s now. My parents are 8 years apart in their 70’s and still going strong.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to be bossed around.

My spouse is older and I am the boss

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I have a friend who married a man 15 years older. She has "aged up" to meet where he is. She acts, dresses and seems much older than her age. She doesn't get pop culture references of our peer group because they don't watch Netflix or listen to music made in the 2000's. He dresses like it's 1988 and she's a bit more updated but she wears "old" accessories like scarves and outdated jewelry which make her seem like she could be his age.

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Anonymous wrote:5 yes, but 10 years? No, unless you are older. There is a huge difference between a 20 year old woman and a 30 year old man, but not so much between a 50 year old woman and a 60 year old man.

what are talking about? 30 yo man is the best looking man. college assistant professors around 30 were the rage, and even in high school

Haha, I wholeheartedly agree. I've been dating 28-30 y.o. men for about 15 years, first older and then younger, and I ended up marrying one when I was 35. In fact, I've never dated anyone under 28.

[Anonymous]

Women in overwhelming numbers, outlive their partners, no matter if their partners are older, younger or same age aa them. Which makes case for marrying your own age group. Not necessarily exact year but just a couple of year range.