Is it better to marry someone 5-10 years older than you?

[Anonymous]

What are advantages?

[Anonymous]

They’ll be dead before you and you can move in with your besties golden girls style.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are advantages?

This is a very silly question. What is good for one person may not be good for another. Personally I would never marry someone 10+ years older than me.

[Anonymous]

As a man in his 50s, I'd say my sex drive better matches someone who is 10-15 years younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a man in his 50s, I'd say my sex drive better matches someone who is 10-15 years younger.

Even though younger, attractive female finds aging, balding, low tested middle age man disgusting and unattractive?

[Anonymous]

*low testosterone

[Anonymous]

If you want to be bossed around.

[Anonymous]

If he is 10 year older, looking young and going stray, no. Falling ill and dying before kids are out of high school, yes.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's "better," and I say that as someone whose spouse is ten years older than I am. Age is one aspect of a person, and it's certainly one you should consider, but it also matters how active they are, whether they take care of their health, whether their personality meshes with yours -- it's not like older people can't be homebodies or adventurers just like anyone else. Are they open to exploring the same music, pop culture, art, travels, books, etc. as you? (And vice-versa?) It really depends on the person.

[Anonymous]

Financially and professionally settled but also settled in his ways and mot very flexible.

[Anonymous]

Divorce rates are lowest for couples who are the same age. It goes up for every year of age difference.

[Anonymous]

Your world view and experiences are different. 10 years is a big chunk of life so your marital life would be shorter.

[Anonymous]

I made someone ten years older than me. The advantages are that I liked him. But we are still youngish (he’s 51) so I’ll report back in 10 years.

[Anonymous]

My wife is two years older. Makes sense because men on average don't live as long.

[Anonymous]

My ex husband was 5 years older than I. Now I am with someone my own age. There are many many differences between them. But I will say that same age is so much better as we just have all the same references. There was always a slight disconnect caused by the five year difference. Not so much that I would ever discourage someone from this, but if you isolate it, I would say the difference was a disadvantage.