Dropping out at CMU.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS had a very hard time academically at CMU last year; however, he decided to give it a try by coming back this year. Based on the past two weeks, he feels like it is going to get much harder and he will not make it. Today is the last day to drop classes for a full refund. He wants to take off at least this semester to decide what he will do next, possibly transfer to a state school in Virginia. He admitted that CMU is a difficult place to succeed even when he spends at least 70 hours a week to study and it is effecting his mental health.

Anyone with kids dropping out of CMU recently?

Totally let him do whatever works for him. His mental health is more important. He is a smart kud, who'll find something where his hard work makes him happy and successful.

OP here. DS just confirmed that he cancelled all of his classes for this semester and going home once he can find someone to take over his lease. He will take off this semester and is looking into transfer. He still wants to major in Computer Engineering at another university.

Wise of him and bravo to you for supporting him.

My kid (douible major with CS and a STEM) is having a great time. Straight As first 2 years. Wonderful friends, great relationships with professors, does several ECs. Definitely a school for high achievers.

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Anonymous wrote:Have him checked for ADHD. I should've at that age but didn't and kept thinking I'm not trying hard enough. I did manage to finish medical school on time and decent grades but years of insecurity took a toll.

How is it that your ADHD became apparent in college but not K-12?

Also, CMU is hard. Even smart kids without ADHD can find it hard and stressful. Why must people jump to ADHD even when there is zero evidence of it.

Not the PP but my DD was just diagnosed this summer and is a sophomore. The structure of HS was fine for her. She thrived and had straight As and got into a top school. Got to school as a freshman and the wheels came off. She could not organize herself. Missed classes, missed exams and assignments. Totally shocked at what was going on as she is a very high achieving kid. Ended the year with barely a 3.0 gpa. Made some big changes including her diagnosis and getting some accommodations and meds, and hoping things go better this year. So yes, it can and does happen to make it that far without it being diagnosed or even identified as a possible concern.

was she in public HS? what cluster?

Not sure why it matters, but LCPS. No one ever had any clue, perfect student, great recommendations, lots of friends, literally no reason to suspect any issues.

I asked because a student in a large public school would not have *that* much structure and largely would have to be self motivated and self disciplined. This is why some kids require smaller schools. They need more structure and hand holding. Kids in very large public schools who are not self starters tend to get lost.

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Is CS 122 the problem? The first few weeks are supposedly the hardest?

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Anonymous wrote:Have him checked for ADHD. I should've at that age but didn't and kept thinking I'm not trying hard enough. I did manage to finish medical school on time and decent grades but years of insecurity took a toll.

How is it that your ADHD became apparent in college but not K-12?

Also, CMU is hard. Even smart kids without ADHD can find it hard and stressful. Why must people jump to ADHD even when there is zero evidence of it.

Not the PP but my DD was just diagnosed this summer and is a sophomore. The structure of HS was fine for her. She thrived and had straight As and got into a top school. Got to school as a freshman and the wheels came off. She could not organize herself. Missed classes, missed exams and assignments. Totally shocked at what was going on as she is a very high achieving kid. Ended the year with barely a 3.0 gpa. Made some big changes including her diagnosis and getting some accommodations and meds, and hoping things go better this year. So yes, it can and does happen to make it that far without it being diagnosed or even identified as a possible concern.

was she in public HS? what cluster?

Not sure why it matters, but LCPS. No one ever had any clue, perfect student, great recommendations, lots of friends, literally no reason to suspect any issues.

I asked because a student in a large public school would not have *that* much structure and largely would have to be self motivated and self disciplined. This is why some kids require smaller schools. They need more structure and hand holding. Kids in very large public schools who are not self starters tend to get lost.

Oh did you mean college Or HS? She’s at a mid size public school. Often wonders if she should have gone to a small school.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS had a very hard time academically at CMU last year; however, he decided to give it a try by coming back this year. Based on the past two weeks, he feels like it is going to get much harder and he will not make it. Today is the last day to drop classes for a full refund. He wants to take off at least this semester to decide what he will do next, possibly transfer to a state school in Virginia. He admitted that CMU is a difficult place to succeed even when he spends at least 70 hours a week to study and it is effecting his mental health.

Anyone with kids dropping out of CMU recently?

Totally let him do whatever works for him. His mental health is more important. He is a smart kud, who'll find something where his hard work makes him happy and successful.

OP here. DS just confirmed that he cancelled all of his classes for this semester and going home once he can find someone to take over his lease. He will take off this semester and is looking into transfer. He still wants to major in Computer Engineering at another university.

Wise of him and bravo to you for supporting him.

My kid (douible major with CS and a STEM) is having a great time. Straight As first 2 years. Wonderful friends, great relationships with professors, does several ECs. Definitely a school for high achievers.

OP here. DS has nothing but positive things to say about CMU Computer Engineering program. It is an exceptional university for high achievers but it is not a fit for him. He gave it a try and it didn't work out.

FWIW, he graduated from FCPS with 4.35 GPAs with 10 AP courses, 1590 on the SAT, 36 on the ACT, and scored a five on all 10 AP exams.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS had a very hard time academically at CMU last year; however, he decided to give it a try by coming back this year. Based on the past two weeks, he feels like it is going to get much harder and he will not make it. Today is the last day to drop classes for a full refund. He wants to take off at least this semester to decide what he will do next, possibly transfer to a state school in Virginia. He admitted that CMU is a difficult place to succeed even when he spends at least 70 hours a week to study and it is effecting his mental health.

Anyone with kids dropping out of CMU recently?

Totally let him do whatever works for him. His mental health is more important. He is a smart kud, who'll find something where his hard work makes him happy and successful.

OP here. DS just confirmed that he cancelled all of his classes for this semester and going home once he can find someone to take over his lease. He will take off this semester and is looking into transfer. He still wants to major in Computer Engineering at another university.

Its absolutely okay. He tried, it didn't work out. Time to try another place, everybody's learning style is different. He may benefit from change of scenery.

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https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/adult-adhd/symptoms-causes/syc-20350878

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Anonymous wrote:My DS had a very hard time academically at CMU last year; however, he decided to give it a try by coming back this year. Based on the past two weeks, he feels like it is going to get much harder and he will not make it. Today is the last day to drop classes for a full refund. He wants to take off at least this semester to decide what he will do next, possibly transfer to a state school in Virginia. He admitted that CMU is a difficult place to succeed even when he spends at least 70 hours a week to study and it is effecting his mental health.

Anyone with kids dropping out of CMU recently?

Totally let him do whatever works for him. His mental health is more important. He is a smart kud, who'll find something where his hard work makes him happy and successful.

OP here. DS just confirmed that he cancelled all of his classes for this semester and going home once he can find someone to take over his lease. He will take off this semester and is looking into transfer. He still wants to major in Computer Engineering at another university.

Wise of him and bravo to you for supporting him.

My kid (douible major with CS and a STEM) is having a great time. Straight As first 2 years. Wonderful friends, great relationships with professors, does several ECs. Definitely a school for high achievers.

OP here. DS has nothing but positive things to say about CMU Computer Engineering program. It is an exceptional university for high achievers but it is not a fit for him. He gave it a try and it didn't work out.

FWIW, he graduated from FCPS with 4.35 GPAs with 10 AP courses, 1590 on the SAT, 36 on the ACT, and scored a five on all 10 AP exams.

Smart kid. He will do well wherever he lands! Bravo to him for realizing CMU was not his place and putting a new plan in place. He will find a great college that is a right fit for him and excel in life

Kudos to you for raising such a mature young man

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Anonymous wrote:My DS had a very hard time academically at CMU last year; however, he decided to give it a try by coming back this year. Based on the past two weeks, he feels like it is going to get much harder and he will not make it. Today is the last day to drop classes for a full refund. He wants to take off at least this semester to decide what he will do next, possibly transfer to a state school in Virginia. He admitted that CMU is a difficult place to succeed even when he spends at least 70 hours a week to study and it is effecting his mental health.

Anyone with kids dropping out of CMU recently?

Totally let him do whatever works for him. His mental health is more important. He is a smart kud, who'll find something where his hard work makes him happy and successful.

OP here. DS just confirmed that he cancelled all of his classes for this semester and going home once he can find someone to take over his lease. He will take off this semester and is looking into transfer. He still wants to major in Computer Engineering at another university.

Wise of him and bravo to you for supporting him.

My kid (douible major with CS and a STEM) is having a great time. Straight As first 2 years. Wonderful friends, great relationships with professors, does several ECs. Definitely a school for high achievers.

OP here. DS has nothing but positive things to say about CMU Computer Engineering program. It is an exceptional university for high achievers but it is not a fit for him. He gave it a try and it didn't work out.

FWIW, he graduated from FCPS with 4.35 GPAs with 10 AP courses, 1590 on the SAT, 36 on the ACT, and scored a five on all 10 AP exams.

Does he need to work hard for these grades, some smart kids get good grades without too much effort and doesn’t have good study habits or self discipline until they got to college. I have a lazy high stat kids who always procrastinate..

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Oh I love your kid OP and kudos to you for great parenting!

It isn't right for him. He will find the right place and do so well.

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What a incredibly mature kid. Kudos to him and you for supporting him.

Maybe he can use this time to visit the different schools he’s interested in and talk to the CS professors or maybe sit in a class to get a sense of which will be the best fit for him. I would also talk to an admissions counselor at the schools he’s looking to transfer to - making sure what the deadlines are and what’s required. Best of luck to him!

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Anonymous wrote:My DS had a very hard time academically at CMU last year; however, he decided to give it a try by coming back this year. Based on the past two weeks, he feels like it is going to get much harder and he will not make it. Today is the last day to drop classes for a full refund. He wants to take off at least this semester to decide what he will do next, possibly transfer to a state school in Virginia. He admitted that CMU is a difficult place to succeed even when he spends at least 70 hours a week to study and it is effecting his mental health.

Anyone with kids dropping out of CMU recently?

Totally let him do whatever works for him. His mental health is more important. He is a smart kud, who'll find something where his hard work makes him happy and successful.

OP here. DS just confirmed that he cancelled all of his classes for this semester and going home once he can find someone to take over his lease. He will take off this semester and is looking into transfer. He still wants to major in Computer Engineering at another university.

He has shown maturity by having a pause. He already proved his intellectual excellence by his successful admission to CMU. Every school has its vibe and this school may not be the best kind for your DS who may operate in his own way toward excellence. Just need to find another school whose environment can better fit him, or if he still wants to try, come back in the spring and see if he feels more comfortable after some relax. In any case, your DS is smart and doing very courageous thing. Best luck to him!

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Anonymous wrote:My DS had a very hard time academically at CMU last year; however, he decided to give it a try by coming back this year. Based on the past two weeks, he feels like it is going to get much harder and he will not make it. Today is the last day to drop classes for a full refund. He wants to take off at least this semester to decide what he will do next, possibly transfer to a state school in Virginia. He admitted that CMU is a difficult place to succeed even when he spends at least 70 hours a week to study and it is effecting his mental health.

Anyone with kids dropping out of CMU recently?

Totally let him do whatever works for him. His mental health is more important. He is a smart kud, who'll find something where his hard work makes him happy and successful.

OP here. DS just confirmed that he cancelled all of his classes for this semester and going home once he can find someone to take over his lease. He will take off this semester and is looking into transfer. He still wants to major in Computer Engineering at another university.

Wise of him and bravo to you for supporting him.

My kid (douible major with CS and a STEM) is having a great time. Straight As first 2 years. Wonderful friends, great relationships with professors, does several ECs. Definitely a school for high achievers.

OK. Great for your kid. Irrelevant for OP's DC. And quite an epic all-about-MY-kid brag to drop into to the thread.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS had a very hard time academically at CMU last year; however, he decided to give it a try by coming back this year. Based on the past two weeks, he feels like it is going to get much harder and he will not make it. Today is the last day to drop classes for a full refund. He wants to take off at least this semester to decide what he will do next, possibly transfer to a state school in Virginia. He admitted that CMU is a difficult place to succeed even when he spends at least 70 hours a week to study and it is effecting his mental health.

Anyone with kids dropping out of CMU recently?

Totally let him do whatever works for him. His mental health is more important. He is a smart kud, who'll find something where his hard work makes him happy and successful.

OP here. DS just confirmed that he cancelled all of his classes for this semester and going home once he can find someone to take over his lease. He will take off this semester and is looking into transfer. He still wants to major in Computer Engineering at another university.

Wise of him and bravo to you for supporting him.

My kid (douible major with CS and a STEM) is having a great time. Straight As first 2 years. Wonderful friends, great relationships with professors, does several ECs. Definitely a school for high achievers.

OK. Great for your kid. Irrelevant for OP's DC. And quite an epic all-about-MY-kid brag to drop into to the thread.

+1 Ugh.

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Anonymous wrote:My DS had a very hard time academically at CMU last year; however, he decided to give it a try by coming back this year. Based on the past two weeks, he feels like it is going to get much harder and he will not make it. Today is the last day to drop classes for a full refund. He wants to take off at least this semester to decide what he will do next, possibly transfer to a state school in Virginia. He admitted that CMU is a difficult place to succeed even when he spends at least 70 hours a week to study and it is effecting his mental health.

Anyone with kids dropping out of CMU recently?

Totally let him do whatever works for him. His mental health is more important. He is a smart kud, who'll find something where his hard work makes him happy and successful.

OP here. DS just confirmed that he cancelled all of his classes for this semester and going home once he can find someone to take over his lease. He will take off this semester and is looking into transfer. He still wants to major in Computer Engineering at another university.

Wise of him and bravo to you for supporting him.

My kid (douible major with CS and a STEM) is having a great time. Straight As first 2 years. Wonderful friends, great relationships with professors, does several ECs. Definitely a school for high achievers.

wow PP your kid is SO amazing. Thanks for sharing their amazingness on a thread related to another kid having trouble. Just another demonstration of why this board is filled with absolutely evil people.