are teenage boys particularly jerkish about girls these days?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The popular 15-16 year old girls are the ones giving head or having.sex.with guys at parties and not thinking twice about it....I am not exaggerating. Be very glad your daughter is not part of that crowd. The boys know who to seek out

+1

[Anonymous]

My boys were really not interested until jr year of HS, so most their dating experience as a teen is senior year or college (still a teen).

They found girls are a bit mean and kinda crazy

In the Fall, A girl said in front of my son “nobody is gonna ask me to prom”, him thinking that’s sad “if I don’t have a date we can go as friends”. They did because she acted like he was her boyfriend for the rest of the year, like a psycho. He said over and over, we are friends stop bribing me gifts every week. I know I just thought it would be nice. After Prom he was busy and there was a complete psycho meltdown with yelling for not seeing her in the summer, like he ghosted her.

My son dated a girl for 4 months and broke up. She egged our house.

Girls have “groups” and if my son dates a girl from group A and his friend dates a girl from group B they can never go out together because girl groups don’t mix.

Girls cry a lot, over seemingly random stuff.

At college it just got worse.

A girl hits up his roommate in college, hey wanna come over? Roommate: Sure girl: as if no. The dude was home just playing keyboard why f with him.

Walk up to girl, says hi. Girl: Why would I talk to you. Or Keep walking. You can only talk to me if you buy me a drink. Etc.

My son did this at a tailgate so we could see it in action. It’s funny , his move now is to say hi, get the rude reaction, then say I’m saying hi to Dave, point to Dave. These are girls at his and his friends tailgates. Once he said “hi” and she said “do I know you?” And he said “idk your drinking my beer so I guess I had the same question “ he’s not asking for a date, he said “hi”.

Not just “beautiful” girls or “popular” girls.

They literally won’t engage in conversation with a girl unless she is a friend of a friend. My boys have lots of friends that are girls but girlfriends are few and far between… and it should be few and far between.

Now that they are older even the girls they take out on a date want to know what you are going to buy them. What is that? My son took a girl on a date and she ordered an expensive bottle of wine, he was not drinking wine. Really? $80 for wine. He went on a few dates with another girl, they went shopping together and she was pissed he would not buy her $200 shoes and some clothes. Girl I’ve known you 2 months.

My son has 1000 stories like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boys were really not interested until jr year of HS, so most their dating experience as a teen is senior year or college (still a teen).

They found girls are a bit mean and kinda crazy

In the Fall, A girl said in front of my son “nobody is gonna ask me to prom”, him thinking that’s sad “if I don’t have a date we can go as friends”. They did because she acted like he was her boyfriend for the rest of the year, like a psycho. He said over and over, we are friends stop bribing me gifts every week. I know I just thought it would be nice. After Prom he was busy and there was a complete psycho meltdown with yelling for not seeing her in the summer, like he ghosted her.

My son dated a girl for 4 months and broke up. She egged our house.

Girls have “groups” and if my son dates a girl from group A and his friend dates a girl from group B they can never go out together because girl groups don’t mix.

Girls cry a lot, over seemingly random stuff.

At college it just got worse.

A girl hits up his roommate in college, hey wanna come over? Roommate: Sure girl: as if no. The dude was home just playing keyboard why f with him.

Walk up to girl, says hi. Girl: Why would I talk to you. Or Keep walking. You can only talk to me if you buy me a drink. Etc.

My son did this at a tailgate so we could see it in action. It’s funny , his move now is to say hi, get the rude reaction, then say I’m saying hi to Dave, point to Dave. These are girls at his and his friends tailgates. Once he said “hi” and she said “do I know you?” And he said “idk your drinking my beer so I guess I had the same question “ he’s not asking for a date, he said “hi”.

Not just “beautiful” girls or “popular” girls.

They literally won’t engage in conversation with a girl unless she is a friend of a friend. My boys have lots of friends that are girls but girlfriends are few and far between… and it should be few and far between.

Now that they are older even the girls they take out on a date want to know what you are going to buy them. What is that? My son took a girl on a date and she ordered an expensive bottle of wine, he was not drinking wine. Really? $80 for wine. He went on a few dates with another girl, they went shopping together and she was pissed he would not buy her $200 shoes and some clothes. Girl I’ve known you 2 months.

My son has 1000 stories like this.

It's a bit early to be this drunk, no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My boys were really not interested until jr year of HS, so most their dating experience as a teen is senior year or college (still a teen).

They found girls are a bit mean and kinda crazy

In the Fall, A girl said in front of my son “nobody is gonna ask me to prom”, him thinking that’s sad “if I don’t have a date we can go as friends”. They did because she acted like he was her boyfriend for the rest of the year, like a psycho. He said over and over, we are friends stop bribing me gifts every week. I know I just thought it would be nice. After Prom he was busy and there was a complete psycho meltdown with yelling for not seeing her in the summer, like he ghosted her.

My son dated a girl for 4 months and broke up. She egged our house.

Girls have “groups” and if my son dates a girl from group A and his friend dates a girl from group B they can never go out together because girl groups don’t mix.

Girls cry a lot, over seemingly random stuff.

At college it just got worse.

A girl hits up his roommate in college, hey wanna come over? Roommate: Sure girl: as if no. The dude was home just playing keyboard why f with him.

Walk up to girl, says hi. Girl: Why would I talk to you. Or Keep walking. You can only talk to me if you buy me a drink. Etc.

My son did this at a tailgate so we could see it in action. It’s funny , his move now is to say hi, get the rude reaction, then say I’m saying hi to Dave, point to Dave. These are girls at his and his friends tailgates. Once he said “hi” and she said “do I know you?” And he said “idk your drinking my beer so I guess I had the same question “ he’s not asking for a date, he said “hi”.

Not just “beautiful” girls or “popular” girls.

They literally won’t engage in conversation with a girl unless she is a friend of a friend. My boys have lots of friends that are girls but girlfriends are few and far between… and it should be few and far between.

Now that they are older even the girls they take out on a date want to know what you are going to buy them. What is that? My son took a girl on a date and she ordered an expensive bottle of wine, he was not drinking wine. Really? $80 for wine. He went on a few dates with another girl, they went shopping together and she was pissed he would not buy her $200 shoes and some clothes. Girl I’ve known you 2 months.

My son has 1000 stories like this.

It's a bit early to be this drunk, no?

Sorry just bored at the airport.

Sorry but this is all true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, every boy in the school is not chasing the same 10 girls. There is a small subset of boys chasing the same ten girls, and then a whole lot of boys who aren’t. If your daughter can’t see beyond that small group of boys, that’s on her just as much as any of them.

This. And OP’s investment in the dynamic is weird, like she’s living through her kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, every boy in the school is not chasing the same 10 girls. There is a small subset of boys chasing the same ten girls, and then a whole lot of boys who aren’t. If your daughter can’t see beyond that small group of boys, that’s on her just as much as any of them.

This. And OP’s investment in the dynamic is weird, like she’s living through her kids.

Or maybe she’s just curious

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, every boy in the school is not chasing the same 10 girls. There is a small subset of boys chasing the same ten girls, and then a whole lot of boys who aren’t. If your daughter can’t see beyond that small group of boys, that’s on her just as much as any of them.

This. And OP’s investment in the dynamic is weird, like she’s living through her kids.

Ah no. It's not weird to notice that your kids are not dating and wonder if it's typical of their generation. It would be weird if OP was finding her daughter dates or suggesting therapy or otherwise getting involved. Asking a question is not weird.

[Anonymous]

I think social media has really skewed people's perception of attractiveness - that is, there's only one, very way to present oneself in order to be attractive - and this cuts across generational lines. Furthermore, I think that younger people are both hypersexualized in that they've been exposed to porn/soft porn (via IG) since they were preteens but have very little understanding of true sexuality, either their own or each other's. Relationships seem generally shallow and transactional. I could be wrong but these are my guesses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm laughing because the "first girl with a bra/boobs" will always (well, until first year of college) be seen as the one to "get"/lay, but the boys won't realize there is nothing between the ears until they are older (second year of college, on). It is then too late for those girls who sprouted early - but the boys - they have time.......the girls, not so much.....

The boys are then men, and glad they dodged a bullet, but those girls - they are a bit stunted, shall we say, now and forever.

Ask me how I know.

Are you suggesting that girls who sprout boobs early are vapid and dumb? Nice generalization, jerk.

-Early developer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, every boy in the school is not chasing the same 10 girls. There is a small subset of boys chasing the same ten girls, and then a whole lot of boys who aren’t. If your daughter can’t see beyond that small group of boys, that’s on her just as much as any of them.

This. And OP’s investment in the dynamic is weird, like she’s living through her kids.

Ah no. It's not weird to notice that your kids are not dating and wonder if it's typical of their generation. It would be weird if OP was finding her daughter dates or suggesting therapy or otherwise getting involved. Asking a question is not weird.

It is when she has completely mischaracterized it like PP pointed out and careens from “it’s awesome!” to “boys are a$$holes!”

[Anonymous]

This sounds like the 80s when I went to HS. I also have several nieces that went to HS in the 90s and 00s that didn’t dare because the boys were so immature.

But I guarantee your daughter and friends could find boyfriends if they made even the slightest overture to the geeky boys who are afraid to talk to girls.

I was always nice to that group and found out at graduation that half of them had massive crushes on me because I was the only girl that treated them with respect and kindness and talked to them about things like sci fi.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a boy and a girl. My kids are modest, smart, friendly, social and good in academics. [b]They laugh at the girls who try too hard and act skanky and the boys who lie and cheat to get into their pants. Fortunately such shallow boys and girls are a very small population of the student population.

Your kids will be fine as long as they are friends with other kids like them and they stay off social media. Especially, they should not post weird near naked pictures of themselves on social media.

You and your kids sound like mean people

[Anonymous]

What I’ve seen happen to girls several times is they think they’re starting a relationship with a guy on social media (sometimes even a guy in the same school) and then, after weeks and RIGHT before they’re supposed to have their first in person date, the guy totally ghosts them.

Sadly, this is often right after the guy received the racy photos he wanted.

[Anonymous]

I could say the same about my son and his friends - they are kind, smart, funny and handsome, but no girls are ever interested in them. They are rising seniors and I do not know if they will go to prom. I suspect your daughter and her friends are only lookig at a small group of boys (probably the “equivalent” to the 20 girls you mention).

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a small school issue. My kids public high school is so large there is no one group of 10-20 popular girls or boys. There is definitely a lot of dating of very normal kids. Theater kids who date theater kids, etc.