I got the stink-eye from a grandmother
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Anonymous
| How did I just know your post would include the words “energy” and “spirit.” Stop using those as bywords for inattentive, aggressive, temperamental, and disobedient. |
Anonymous
| I’m going to beg you to take him out of class. I paid a lot of money for my more timid child’s class too and one aggressive child would have her fretting all week and then be afraid to go back. Money is tight for us too. |
Anonymous
+1 Step it up, OP. That is what she was telling you. Don't be THAT mom. |
Anonymous
+1 Yeah, time to bail and stop putting the rest of the class through this. |
Anonymous
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She was upset. It scared her; it was close to her grand baby.
She didn’t get mean, she walked away. |
Anonymous
| Imagine if your kid actually hit the toddler! I bet the grandma would never be allowed to take her grandchildren out again. She doesn't want this. Who would? |
Anonymous
This is just so so wrong!!! Do not in under any circumstances switch your thinking to these pejoratives it would be so so bad for your child who sounds like a normal 3 year old. As for the class either block him from throwing, skip the part where he can throw or give up on the class. He may not be ready for such a class and that’s ok. |
Anonymous
Yeah, when I hear parents describe their kid as 'spirited', I think similar thoughts. You are excusing bad behavior with an adjective, in your own mind. You need to re-think and re-frame this behavior and address it as others have said. 1-2-3 Magic had great tips. |
Anonymous
What?! Why would anyone in their right mind blame the grandmother?!!! |
Anonymous
| Rare dcum consensus here OP - it’s you. We’re all giving you the stink eye. Everyone has to address bad behavior. The stink eye is because you are NOT addressing it. “Telling him” doesn’t count. You need to pick a discipline system and implement it with fidelity, and you need to accept that doing so will inconvenience you AB’s sometimes take things of value from him. |
Anonymous
Have you looked in the family forums? Grandmother would totally be blamed. |
Anonymous
| No, I'm sorry, OP. You are 100% in the wrong here. The first time he throws, he needs to take a time out. The second time he throws, you leave. I don't care how much the class costs, without consequences, he'll keep doing it. Stop being a pushover. |
Anonymous
NP, and totally agree. OP your child is not "spirited" and high "energy" - he is being aggressive, inattentive, temperamental, and disobedient. Does it mean he embodies these things? No. But he is behaving poorly and as such. And with intervention (and consequences! like leaving!) your kid could grow into becoming attentive, gentle, calm, and obedient. And a kid that other kids and classes would want to be around. |
Anonymous
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You tell him when you arrive no throwing things. If you throw things, we will leave.
If he throws something, you take him to the car, and leave. He won't believe you are serious until you act serious. Repeat as necessary. And calling your kid "spirited" is the same as saying, "I don't discipline my bratty kid". |
Anonymous
Not in my world! |