My brother’s fiancé doesn’t want me in the wedding.

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Anonymous wrote:OP do you really want to plan a bachelorette party for a 24yo?

Or worse, a bachelorette weekend?!

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Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

DP. Maybe you can't hold on to friends, but some of us can.

I’m calling BS, most people who are between the ages of 35-55 do not have a cadre of friends whom they have been friends with since their early 20s.

I realize that the typical DCUM poster considers her kids' friends' parents and her work colleagues to be her best "friends," but that doesn't apply to all of us.

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Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

+1. So true. If it weren’t for social media, I would know where half of my wedding party was. My SIL? I see her at every holiday, birthday, and funeral. Our daughters are in the same grade in the same school and best friends. I’m glad my SIL is in my wedding pictures.

NP- I talk to all five of my bridesmaids almost every day, certainly at least once a week. I see my SIL once every few years. People have different situations. There is no right or wrong answer.

Hmmm…. There kind of is one right answer - OP, as the only sister on either side should be included.

God we can all tell what kind of SIL you posters are

I’m a good one, PP. I just know what’s right. Both my brothers wives had me in their weddings and I appreciated the inclusion. I love them both - we’re family.

What's right is the bride getting to decide who she wants in her own wedding party and the SIL dealing with it.

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Anonymous wrote:She has no siblings. Maybe she doesn't want the bridal party to seem lopsided to his side of the family.

According to OP there is one brother and one sister (OP). That could never be described as lopsided.

And who the eff cares about the bride and who’s important to her, right?

I would hope her future husband’s family is important to her!!!

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Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

DP. Maybe you can't hold on to friends, but some of us can.

I’m calling BS, most people who are between the ages of 35-55 do not have a cadre of friends whom they have been friends with since their early 20s.

I realize that the typical DCUM poster considers her kids' friends' parents and her work colleagues to be her best "friends," but that doesn't apply to all of us.

+1. Sorry that I have actual friends I want in my bridal party and not my DH's sister who I've met a handful of times. If it's that important to the groom he can have her up there.

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Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

+1. So true. If it weren’t for social media, I would know where half of my wedding party was. My SIL? I see her at every holiday, birthday, and funeral. Our daughters are in the same grade in the same school and best friends. I’m glad my SIL is in my wedding pictures.

NP- I talk to all five of my bridesmaids almost every day, certainly at least once a week. I see my SIL once every few years. People have different situations. There is no right or wrong answer.

Hmmm…. There kind of is one right answer - OP, as the only sister on either side should be included.

God we can all tell what kind of SIL you posters are

I’m a good one, PP. I just know what’s right. Both my brothers wives had me in their weddings and I appreciated the inclusion. I love them both - we’re family.

What's right is the bride getting to decide who she wants in her own wedding party and the SIL dealing with it.

But the wedding is all about OP, you know?

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t include either my future sil or my sister. I just had one attendant. I wouldn’t consider it a slight

NP. It's not a slight in your case because you didn't have your sister OR your SIL.

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Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

+1. So true. If it weren’t for social media, I would know where half of my wedding party was. My SIL? I see her at every holiday, birthday, and funeral. Our daughters are in the same grade in the same school and best friends. I’m glad my SIL is in my wedding pictures.

This doesn't surprise me at all. You're a DCUM woman.

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Anonymous wrote:She has no siblings. Maybe she doesn't want the bridal party to seem lopsided to his side of the family.

According to OP there is one brother and one sister (OP). That could never be described as lopsided.

And who the eff cares about the bride and who’s important to her, right?

I would hope her future husband’s family is important to her!!!

Bingo. You are absolutely one of those sister's who doesn't understand that her brother puts his WIFE before your needs.

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Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

+1. So true. If it weren’t for social media, I would know where half of my wedding party was. My SIL? I see her at every holiday, birthday, and funeral. Our daughters are in the same grade in the same school and best friends. I’m glad my SIL is in my wedding pictures.

NP- I talk to all five of my bridesmaids almost every day, certainly at least once a week. I see my SIL once every few years. People have different situations. There is no right or wrong answer.

Hmmm…. There kind of is one right answer - OP, as the only sister on either side should be included.

God we can all tell what kind of SIL you posters are

I’m a good one, PP. I just know what’s right. Both my brothers wives had me in their weddings and I appreciated the inclusion. I love them both - we’re family.

What's right is the bride getting to decide who she wants in her own wedding party and the SIL dealing with it.

No, it isn’t. It isn’t right.

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Anonymous wrote:She has no siblings. Maybe she doesn't want the bridal party to seem lopsided to his side of the family.

According to OP there is one brother and one sister (OP). That could never be described as lopsided.

And who the eff cares about the bride and who’s important to her, right?

Again, it’s a mature life lesson. If you really mean your vows, this person will be in your life forever, and you’re going to slight them so your sorority sister that you see once a year can be in your wedding party because you want your bachelorette party to be so lit!

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Anonymous wrote:She has no siblings. Maybe she doesn't want the bridal party to seem lopsided to his side of the family.

According to OP there is one brother and one sister (OP). That could never be described as lopsided.

And who the eff cares about the bride and who’s important to her, right?

Again, it’s a mature life lesson. If you really mean your vows, this person will be in your life forever, and you’re going to slight them so your sorority sister that you see once a year can be in your wedding party because you want your bachelorette party to be so lit!

OMFG the entitlement. No where in my vows did it say anything about my sister in law. Get over yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:She has no siblings. Maybe she doesn't want the bridal party to seem lopsided to his side of the family.

According to OP there is one brother and one sister (OP). That could never be described as lopsided.

And who the eff cares about the bride and who’s important to her, right?

I would hope her future husband’s family is important to her!!!

Get over it, OP.

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Anyone who says that the only sister of the groom not being included is fine has no sense of care at all. Especially given that the only brother is included.

Getting married is about the bride and groom and bringing two families together.

Does no one teach decency any more. And no I'm not a grandma.

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Anonymous wrote:She has no siblings. Maybe she doesn't want the bridal party to seem lopsided to his side of the family.

According to OP there is one brother and one sister (OP). That could never be described as lopsided.

And who the eff cares about the bride and who’s important to her, right?

I would hope her future husband’s family is important to her!!!

Bingo. You are absolutely one of those sister's who doesn't understand that her brother puts his WIFE before your needs.

I don’t have any needs or sisters.

And since when is a bridesmaid a need?!!

This is her husband’s sister. It should be more improved her since her future husband and sister are very close.