My brother’s fiancé doesn’t want me in the wedding.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

+1. So true. If it weren’t for social media, I would know where half of my wedding party was. My SIL? I see her at every holiday, birthday, and funeral. Our daughters are in the same grade in the same school and best friends. I’m glad my SIL is in my wedding pictures.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

Or her best friend that she’s know since grade school and will still be friends with when they’re 70.

Unless they are each only having 1 attendant this argument doesn’t work.

OP ignored the question about how many attendants they’re having. If each is having two and she’s chosen her own sister and her best friend, I won’t fault her for that.

OP said she doesn’t have siblings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

Or her best friend that she’s know since grade school and will still be friends with when they’re 70.

Unless they are each only having 1 attendant this argument doesn’t work.

OP ignored the question about how many attendants they’re having. If each is having two and she’s chosen her own sister and her best friend, I won’t fault her for that.

She may not know yet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

+1. So true. If it weren’t for social media, I would know where half of my wedding party was. My SIL? I see her at every holiday, birthday, and funeral. Our daughters are in the same grade in the same school and best friends. I’m glad my SIL is in my wedding pictures.

NP- I talk to all five of my bridesmaids almost every day, certainly at least once a week. I see my SIL once every few years. People have different situations. There is no right or wrong answer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

Or her best friend that she’s know since grade school and will still be friends with when they’re 70.

Unless they are each only having 1 attendant this argument doesn’t work.

OP ignored the question about how many attendants they’re having. If each is having two and she’s chosen her own sister and her best friend, I won’t fault her for that.

This is true, it depends on how many attendants there are. If there is 1 or 2 I can see excluding the further SIL, but any more than that, no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

In a word, yes. It’s old school etiquette but the sister of the groom should always be included. Yes, she should bump one of her best friends to have her future sister-in-law in the wedding party.

That said, I went to all girls schools and an all women’s college. I have two sisters and two close cousins. I have been a bridesmaid 16 times and maid of honor four times. I’m exhausted from wedding inclusion. When my best friend got married a few months ago she had four of her sisters and she asked how I felt if I wasp’s bridesmaid. I kissed her and said thank you!

Be glad you’re out, OP.

Then OP’s brother should have decided to include her.

[Anonymous]

She has no siblings. Maybe she doesn't want the bridal party to seem lopsided to his side of the family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

+1. So true. If it weren’t for social media, I would know where half of my wedding party was. My SIL? I see her at every holiday, birthday, and funeral. Our daughters are in the same grade in the same school and best friends. I’m glad my SIL is in my wedding pictures.

NP- I talk to all five of my bridesmaids almost every day, certainly at least once a week. I see my SIL once every few years. People have different situations. There is no right or wrong answer.

Hmmm…. There kind of is one right answer - OP, as the only sister on either side should be included.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

+1. So true. If it weren’t for social media, I would know where half of my wedding party was. My SIL? I see her at every holiday, birthday, and funeral. Our daughters are in the same grade in the same school and best friends. I’m glad my SIL is in my wedding pictures.

NP- I talk to all five of my bridesmaids almost every day, certainly at least once a week. I see my SIL once every few years. People have different situations. There is no right or wrong answer.

Hmmm…. There kind of is one right answer - OP, as the only sister on either side should be included.

God we can all tell what kind of SIL you posters are

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She has no siblings. Maybe she doesn't want the bridal party to seem lopsided to his side of the family.

According to OP there is one brother and one sister (OP). That could never be described as lopsided.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

Or her best friend that she’s know since grade school and will still be friends with when they’re 70.

Unless they are each only having 1 attendant this argument doesn’t work.

OP ignored the question about how many attendants they’re having. If each is having two and she’s chosen her own sister and her best friend, I won’t fault her for that.

OP said she doesn’t have siblings.

Fine, so maybe a cousin who’s always been like a sister.

[Anonymous]

OP do you really want to plan a bachelorette party for a 24yo?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

+1. So true. If it weren’t for social media, I would know where half of my wedding party was. My SIL? I see her at every holiday, birthday, and funeral. Our daughters are in the same grade in the same school and best friends. I’m glad my SIL is in my wedding pictures.

NP- I talk to all five of my bridesmaids almost every day, certainly at least once a week. I see my SIL once every few years. People have different situations. There is no right or wrong answer.

Hmmm…. There kind of is one right answer - OP, as the only sister on either side should be included.

God we can all tell what kind of SIL you posters are

I’m a good one, PP. I just know what’s right. Both my brothers wives had me in their weddings and I appreciated the inclusion. I love them both - we’re family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She has no siblings. Maybe she doesn't want the bridal party to seem lopsided to his side of the family.

According to OP there is one brother and one sister (OP). That could never be described as lopsided.

And who the eff cares about the bride and who’s important to her, right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So she should bump one of her best friends from the wedding to fit you into a limited number of attendants? If this was so important to your brother, he could have included you in some other way.

Yeah, one of her best friends at age 24 that she won’t speak to by the time she’s 35. 🙄 This a life lesson for this bride. Your spouse to be has 1 sibling, you include that person in the wedding, because if you are lucky that person will be in your life forever, as opposed to the fleeting friendships of your early 20s.

+1. So true. If it weren’t for social media, I would know where half of my wedding party was. My SIL? I see her at every holiday, birthday, and funeral. Our daughters are in the same grade in the same school and best friends. I’m glad my SIL is in my wedding pictures.

NP- I talk to all five of my bridesmaids almost every day, certainly at least once a week. I see my SIL once every few years. People have different situations. There is no right or wrong answer.

You have 5 friends that you speak to almost every day? That seems unrealistically excessive, unless you are really young and haven’t entered the kids phase of life, hence the idea that your life at 24 is different than your life at 35.