Trying to decide whether we should stay at private or go back to public

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm just confused about all the posters talking about the lack of community at their schools...

This has not been my experience at all. I'm wondering if these posters are the outliers...of if I am.

Some of the same posters talk about how much they hate the school they chose and look down on it, so I think it would be rather difficult to have that attitude and then really enjoy being around all the people who disagree with you and love the school and its community. I think it would be hard to become a genuine part of a community you disrespect so much that you trash it on DCUM daily. Sometimes, you really have to take this cite with a shaker of salt.

I will take what you say with a shaker of salt.

[Anonymous]

Go back to public, private is not worth the money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go back to public, private is not worth the money.

110%
-Private School Mom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go back to public, private is not worth the money.

As in, it's not worth any money? How much would it be worth, in your estimation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go back to public, private is not worth the money.

As in, it's not worth any money? How much would it be worth, in your estimation?

[Anonymous]

Social dynamics are important but I’m always surprised about parents who place more emphasis on this than academics. Where are they getting a better education? Unless there is a toxic bullying situation, The social stuff you can always supplement with sports- be a coach- that’s a sure fire way to meet a lot of kids and families. Plus, OP you haven’t been there SUPER long. It takes years to nestle into friendships. Some ppl find entertaining (even play dates) too much, especially during the COVID.

[Anonymous]

will take what you say with a shaker of salt.

this response is chefs kiss

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

will take what you say with a shaker of salt.

this response is chefs kiss

Bless your poor heart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go back to public, private is not worth the money.

As in, it's not worth any money? How much would it be worth, in your estimation?

It’s a super personal question as it relates to the % of your income/disposable income / net worth / liquid net worth.

I know this sounds like an a**hole comment, but we love our privates in part, because it’s not really material to anything else. If it was, it would be a much more comprehensive analysis.

If you live in a good public school system, don’t hurt yourself (present or future) financially to keep up with the Joneses.

[Anonymous]

I know DCUMers are often bad at nuance, but there are lots of families who decide that public is the best fit for one kid and private for another, because they know how ridiculous it is to make blanket statements about either type of school (like many in this thread are doing).

[Anonymous]

I am on the opposite side considering switching from public to private.

My kids have a lot of friends and a great current social life. I am not sure how much learning is happening.

You say finances are not an issue but your first con is that it is expensive.

Is your child happier in private?

[Anonymous]

Good luck. Many of the privates have stonewalled public school kids on admissions this year precisely because during Covid, they have had a tendency to stay a year and then leave.

[Anonymous]

We've been in private six years and worked super hard pre-COVID for community, which is much tougher when you all live far apart. COVID mostly brought that to an end, save for my kids best 2-3 friends who aren't also (coincidentally) local. As they grow, and given how much we've been shelling out for private to be virtual so many times, this thread resonates with me and I'm considering pulling out (and losing the deposit). It IS scary to put them from a pond (private) into an ocean (public), but that is going to happen at some point. Better at 6th? 9th? IDK!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've been in private six years and worked super hard pre-COVID for community, which is much tougher when you all live far apart. COVID mostly brought that to an end, save for my kids best 2-3 friends who aren't also (coincidentally) local. As they grow, and given how much we've been shelling out for private to be virtual so many times, this thread resonates with me and I'm considering pulling out (and losing the deposit). It IS scary to put them from a pond (private) into an ocean (public), but that is going to happen at some point. Better at 6th? 9th? IDK!!

We started early on and between the school changing so much and the educational gaps we are going public or applying out this fall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The covid protocols for private seem like it could easily be found in public so not really a pro.

Yes but smaller class sizes = significantly less exposure