How many dates before sex?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

Lol maybe your daughter approaches relationships like this but not every kid is broken

Geez. Why so sex negative? As long as everyone is safe and enjoying themselves then everything is fine. Women deserve to be able to explore their sexuality and learn what works for them so they can avoid marrying someone who they are not sexually compatible with. Otherwise they'll end up posting their frustrations on this forum like so many others.

Np here. But it's actually you who are sex negative. If you've met anyone of this generation practicing the let's jump into sex thin they aren't exactly happy with it. That's because sex was never supposed to be a handshake. That's not to say you need to wait for marriage or that women should be restricted from exploring their sexuality or whatever nonsense you're spewing but we've[u] tried the hook up culture thing for sometime now it's not working.

Who is the "we've" here? I know plenty of people enjoying casual sex. Shoot, I've been married 12 years to someone I slept with the first time we hung out. It wasn't even an actual date.

[Anonymous]

3 months before. Married 35 years.

I can see a couple with really great chemistry having a lasting relationship after sex on a first or third date, but it is pretty rare.

[Anonymous]

2nd date, but only because l was having my period during first date. We had insane chemistry.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps people should also acknowledge that most relationships don't work out anyway regardless of when people have sex. Not sure of the percentage of relationships that result in marriage, but we do know nearly of half of all marriages end in divorce. So the odds of any relationship turning into a forever marriage are quite low. Therefore, I'm not sure if it makes sense to withhold sex for a set amount of time in hopes of it resulting in a happy forever marriage. Do whatever you are comfortable with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps people should also acknowledge that most relationships don't work out anyway regardless of when people have sex. Not sure of the percentage of relationships that result in marriage, but we do know nearly of half of all marriages end in divorce. So the odds of any relationship turning into a forever marriage are quite low. Therefore, I'm not sure if it makes sense to withhold sex for a set amount of time in hopes of it resulting in a happy forever marriage. Do whatever you are comfortable with.

Exactly - correlation but not causation.

[Anonymous]

First date. Together 12 years, married with kids.

I do believe in the general “rules” of dating, but I also think with the right person suddenly none of the rules apply!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Perhaps people should also acknowledge that most relationships don't work out anyway regardless of when people have sex. Not sure of the percentage of relationships that result in marriage, but we do know nearly of half of all marriages end in divorce. So the odds of any relationship turning into a forever marriage are quite low. Therefore, I'm not sure if it makes sense to withhold sex for a set amount of time in hopes of it resulting in a happy forever marriage. Do whatever you are comfortable with.

Exactly - correlation but not causation.

The issue with this is that many of us feel pretty crappy with one night stands.


Sex is so highly intimate. It takes a while for me to build up that level of trust.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First date. Together 12 years, married with kids.

I do believe in the general “rules” of dating, but I also think with the right person suddenly none of the rules apply!

Great, then you can tell your kids either the “right person” they can have sex on the first date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First date. Together 12 years, married with kids.

I do believe in the general “rules” of dating, but I also think with the right person suddenly none of the rules apply!

Interested in how you know it’s the right person when it’s a first date.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

Lol maybe your daughter approaches relationships like this but not every kid is broken

Geez. Why so sex negative? As long as everyone is safe and enjoying themselves then everything is fine. Women deserve to be able to explore their sexuality and learn what works for them so they can avoid marrying someone who they are not sexually compatible with. Otherwise they'll end up posting their frustrations on this forum like so many others.

Np here. But it's actually you who are sex negative. If you've met anyone of this generation practicing the let's jump into sex thin they aren't exactly happy with it. That's because sex was never supposed to be a handshake. That's not to say you need to wait for marriage or that women should be restricted from exploring their sexuality or whatever nonsense you're spewing but we've[u] tried the hook up culture thing for sometime now it's not working.

Who is the "we've" here? I know plenty of people enjoying casual sex. Shoot, I've been married 12 years to someone I slept with the first time we hung out. It wasn't even an actual date.

We as in society at large. Casual sex is a myth and it doesn't help anyone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Perhaps people should also acknowledge that most relationships don't work out anyway regardless of when people have sex. Not sure of the percentage of relationships that result in marriage, but we do know nearly of half of all marriages end in divorce. So the odds of any relationship turning into a forever marriage are quite low. Therefore, I'm not sure if it makes sense to withhold sex for a set amount of time in hopes of it resulting in a happy forever marriage. Do whatever you are comfortable with.

Exactly - correlation but not causation.

Half of all marriages do not end divorce please update your stats.

[Anonymous]

Three months for us. Both of us are slow burners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Perhaps people should also acknowledge that most relationships don't work out anyway regardless of when people have sex. Not sure of the percentage of relationships that result in marriage, but we do know nearly of half of all marriages end in divorce. So the odds of any relationship turning into a forever marriage are quite low. Therefore, I'm not sure if it makes sense to withhold sex for a set amount of time in hopes of it resulting in a happy forever marriage. Do whatever you are comfortable with.

Exactly - correlation but not causation.

The issue with this is that many of us feel pretty crappy with one night stands.


Sex is so highly intimate. It takes a while for me to build up that level of trust.

Sex is supposed to be intimate and with someone you trust.

I personally think problems come because people don't know how to be in a relationship everything is centered around sex the entire dating experience but yet magically you're supposed to know how to be in a relationship when that's never been the focus it's been all in sex and going to bars, concerts, restaurants and really fun dates. People don't know each other when they get married and then when they can't have sex 24/7 they realize they didn't know and actually hate their partner

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Perhaps people should also acknowledge that most relationships don't work out anyway regardless of when people have sex. Not sure of the percentage of relationships that result in marriage, but we do know nearly of half of all marriages end in divorce. So the odds of any relationship turning into a forever marriage are quite low. Therefore, I'm not sure if it makes sense to withhold sex for a set amount of time in hopes of it resulting in a happy forever marriage. Do whatever you are comfortable with.

Exactly - correlation but not causation.

Half of all marriages do not end divorce please update your stats.

Well provide the "correct % then....

[Anonymous]

i always f on the first date. sometimes in the car.