How many dates before sex?

[Anonymous]

The first and third date sex boggles me just because you take their word they are std and hpv free and you know almost nothing about them. You don't stop and think they probably did this for every date with another person before you.

[Anonymous]

No sex until marriage. Married 27 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first and third date sex boggles me just because you take their word they are std and hpv free and you know almost nothing about them. You don't stop and think they probably did this for every date with another person before you.

I was just going to say the same about STDs. That's basically the only reason I'd discourage first date sex and condoms don't protect against all infection. Other than that there's nothing inherently wrong with first date sex or later.

I'm a little concerned that op doesn't know how to feel about it. Leads me to believe he/ she is having sex not because they really want to.

Don't have sex unless you really and truly want to don't do it to meet some arbitrary standard as you can see from this thread there's no one right time,

[Anonymous]

NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

[Anonymous]

If you search the forum, you’ll find multiple examples of women who had sex after just a few dates and were devastated when the guy lost interest. I think this is the majority of cases.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

Yep it's true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

Lol maybe your daughter approaches relationships like this but not every kid is broken

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

Not just college. I have a 40 year old friend who meets someone for coffee and ends up in bed with them. She had known one guy for two hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

Not all do this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

Not just college. I have a 40 year old friend who meets someone for coffee and ends up in bed with them. She had known one guy for two hours.

Again not everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

Blame the parental pressure for her to “find herself.” If she were to date seriously in college, she might desire to marry her SO shortly after college or trail them around. Would you be okay with that? Be honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you search the forum, you’ll find multiple examples of women who had sex after just a few dates and were devastated when the guy lost interest. I think this is the majority of cases.

This. This. This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you search the forum, you’ll find multiple examples of women who had sex after just a few dates and were devastated when the guy lost interest. I think this is the majority of cases.

This. This. This.

Different poster but it always boggles my mind when people say women end of disappointed when mend an up losing interest after sex. I’ve literally never had that happen. Any man I’ve had sex with always wants more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Know it’s the age-old question, but does anyone here have experience of sleeping together on the first and second date and it working out long-term?

Sure it happens plenty often, but never know how to think about it in the moment when starting to see someone new.

Get a clean bill of STD screen including HSV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you search the forum, you’ll find multiple examples of women who had sex after just a few dates and were devastated when the guy lost interest. I think this is the majority of cases.

This. This. This.

Different poster but it always boggles my mind when people say women end of disappointed when mend an up losing interest after sex. I’ve literally never had that happen. Any man I’ve had sex with always wants more.

From reading this forum, they are getting more—just from different partners.