How many dates before sex?

[Anonymous]

Op you might find this helpful:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1048247.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you search the forum, you’ll find multiple examples of women who had sex after just a few dates and were devastated when the guy lost interest. I think this is the majority of cases.

These women shouldn’t be doing that, then. It’s easy to have sex on a first date because you only have chemistry, not feelings, so it’s not a big deal if they ghost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

Not just college. I have a 40 year old friend who meets someone for coffee and ends up in bed with them. She had known one guy for two hours.

So? I have done the same. We dated for a yr in the pandemic and it saved my sanity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I had known each other casually through social events at work for a couple months. We literally had sex BEFORE we even went on a date. She came over to my house and brought some stuff to finish getting ready (it was new years' eve), and we ended up having sex before we even left for dinner. Together 9 years, married 5, every day has been wonderful

You got game, bro!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you had to give advice to your children on dating, I hope you give them better advice than what you say on here.

I guess their advice would be to put out on the first date because men like fast and easy women.

News flash, we do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

Not just college. I have a 40 year old friend who meets someone for coffee and ends up in bed with them. She had known one guy for two hours.

So? I have done the same. We dated for a yr in the pandemic and it saved my sanity

Says a lot about your sanity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

Lol maybe your daughter approaches relationships like this but not every kid is broken

Geez. Why so sex negative? As long as everyone is safe and enjoying themselves then everything is fine. Women deserve to be able to explore their sexuality and learn what works for them so they can avoid marrying someone who they are not sexually compatible with. Otherwise they'll end up posting their frustrations on this forum like so many others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

Lol maybe your daughter approaches relationships like this but not every kid is broken

Geez. Why so sex negative? As long as everyone is safe and enjoying themselves then everything is fine. Women deserve to be able to explore their sexuality and learn what works for them so they can avoid marrying someone who they are not sexually compatible with. Otherwise they'll end up posting their frustrations on this forum like so many others.

Np here. But it's actually you who are sex negative. If you've met anyone of this generation practicing the let's jump into sex thin they aren't exactly happy with it. That's because sex was never supposed to be a handshake. That's not to say you need to wait for marriage or that women should be restricted from exploring their sexuality or whatever nonsense you're spewing but we've tried the hook up culture thing for sometime now it's not working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I had known each other casually through social events at work for a couple months. We literally had sex BEFORE we even went on a date. She came over to my house and brought some stuff to finish getting ready (it was new years' eve), and we ended up having sex before we even left for dinner. Together 9 years, married 5, every day has been wonderful

You got game, bro!

Took him 4 years to marry her not impressive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Know it’s the age-old question, but does anyone here have experience of sleeping together on the first and second date and it working out long-term?

Sure it happens plenty often, but never know how to think about it in the moment when starting to see someone new.

Get a clean bill of STD screen including HSV.

THIS^

[Anonymous]

3rd date with all 3 boyfriends - last one I married. I would generally slept with guys I was dating for 1 of 2 reasons 1. We couldn’t resist each other and couldn’t make it past 3rd date without taking clothes off or 2. After about 5 dates because I wanted to see if there was enough chemistry and I really liked how compatible/good the man seemed - but with these, it always turned out to be bad sex or there was just something off with them. Do what feels right. You can also get tested for STDs and ask your date to before sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

Lol maybe your daughter approaches relationships like this but not every kid is broken

Geez. Why so sex negative? As long as everyone is safe and enjoying themselves then everything is fine. Women deserve to be able to explore their sexuality and learn what works for them so they can avoid marrying someone who they are not sexually compatible with. Otherwise they'll end up posting their frustrations on this forum like so many others.

Np here. But it's actually you who are sex negative. If you've met anyone of this generation practicing the let's jump into sex thin they aren't exactly happy with it. That's because sex was never supposed to be a handshake. That's not to say you need to wait for marriage or that women should be restricted from exploring their sexuality or whatever nonsense you're spewing but we've tried the hook up culture thing for sometime now it's not working.

It worked for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. We are all old if this question makes any sense to us. My DD is a college freshman. The “kids” these days don’t date. The hook up culture is insane. This is the order: sex first. Then maybe you find out their name. Then maybe you exchange texts. Then maybe you hook up again.

Yep it's true

This is a myth. There is no hook up culture. Young people are not having sex nor dating.

[Anonymous]

First date. But DH and I had known each other for five years prior to first date. Married 15 years.

[Anonymous]

Second date. Married 25 years later this year.