We just started dating and she called me out over a joke. Petty?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - when she asked if you thought she was an airhead what did you say?

Well technically she didn’t ask but I started laughing and said “woah , don’t say that about yourself”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, she is insecure as evidenced by her reaction. You just hit a nerve.

You mean OP is.

No, if she weren’t insecure, she would have laughed it off. OP was being playful and she took it seriously. It wasn’t a big deal, she made it a big deal.

[Anonymous]

YTA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - when she asked if you thought she was an airhead what did you say?

Well technically she didn’t ask but I started laughing and said “woah , don’t say that about yourself”

You realize this makes you sound like a total dick, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[vimeo][/vimeo]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, she is insecure as evidenced by her reaction. You just hit a nerve.

You mean OP is.

No, if she weren’t insecure, she would have laughed it off. OP was being playful and she took it seriously. It wasn’t a big deal, she made it a big deal.

This 100%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[vimeo][/vimeo]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, she is insecure as evidenced by her reaction. You just hit a nerve.

You mean OP is.

No, if she weren’t insecure, she would have laughed it off. OP was being playful and she took it seriously. It wasn’t a big deal, she made it a big deal.

This 100%.

It has nothing to do with be insecure. Basically OP called her stupid. I don’t see the humor in that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - when she asked if you thought she was an airhead what did you say?

Well technically she didn’t ask but I started laughing and said “woah , don’t say that about yourself”

You realize this makes you sound like a total dick, right?

OP here - how?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[vimeo][/vimeo]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, she is insecure as evidenced by her reaction. You just hit a nerve.

You mean OP is.

No, if she weren’t insecure, she would have laughed it off. OP was being playful and she took it seriously. It wasn’t a big deal, she made it a big deal.

So the receiver of the comment doesn’t get to respond how they want. If I tell you that I think what you just said to me was insulting, that makes me insecure. I should just laugh it off because YOU think it was some funny teasing. That is some seriously messed up gaslighting. You are definitely an a$$hole with that line of reasoning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - when she asked if you thought she was an airhead what did you say?

Well technically she didn’t ask but I started laughing and said “woah , don’t say that about yourself”

You realize this makes you sound like a total dick, right?

OP here - how?

She told you the joke bothered her, and you just laughed and made another joke about her.

Do you really not get social cues?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - when she asked if you thought she was an airhead what did you say?

Well technically she didn’t ask but I started laughing and said “woah , don’t say that about yourself”

You realize this makes you sound like a total dick, right?

OP here - how?

Because YTAH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[vimeo][/vimeo]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, she is insecure as evidenced by her reaction. You just hit a nerve.

You mean OP is.

No, if she weren’t insecure, she would have laughed it off. OP was being playful and she took it seriously. It wasn’t a big deal, she made it a big deal.

So the receiver of the comment doesn’t get to respond how they want. If I tell you that I think what you just said to me was insulting, that makes me insecure. I should just laugh it off because YOU think it was some funny teasing. That is some seriously messed up gaslighting. You are definitely an a$$hole with that line of reasoning.

x1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - when she asked if you thought she was an airhead what did you say?

Well technically she didn’t ask but I started laughing and said “woah , don’t say that about yourself”

You realize this makes you sound like a total dick, right?

OP here - how?

She told you the joke bothered her, and you just laughed and made another joke about her.

Do you really not get social cues?

No, she hasn’t told me it bothered her yet. She said “you must think I’m an airhead”. I responded with “woah , don’t say that about yourself”. That’s when she went into why would I assume and she didn’t appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - when she asked if you thought she was an airhead what did you say?

Well technically she didn’t ask but I started laughing and said “woah , don’t say that about yourself”

You realize this makes you sound like a total dick, right?

OP here - how?

Seeing as you do seem to think she’s an airhead, this was probably the nicest way to give a nonresponse to the question. I guess PP thinks you should have lied and told her you don’t think she’s an airhead.

[Anonymous]

Ok, here’s a primer on how jokes work, since you said in your title this was a joke, not some “negging” attempt that went awry.

A joke is successful if the person who hears the joke laughs/finds it funny. If they don’t, the joke fails. Whether -the person who is telling the joke finds it funny is irrelevant (we’ve all been in a room with someone laughing at their own joke while no one else does). Whether someone on the internet thinks your joke is funny is irrelevant unless you were telling the joke to them.

The correct response to this woman was “bad joke— sorry!” And moving on. We’ve all been there. That doesn’t make YTA. Deciding that there is something wrong with her (she’s “petty”) because she didn’t like your joke at her expense is why YTA.

[Anonymous]

You’re the a—hole.