How to find a husband at 30?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I met my DH at work. Are there any possible connections that could be made with any guys at work? At a conference?

OP here. I work in healthcare where most doctors are egotistical jerks. No thanks.

Oh you're THAT poster. What thread are we on now,? 10 . Good luck to you.

Same thought. OP get a life, please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After your 20s you always have to date older because the men in their 30s are looking for women in their 20s. Your dating pool mostly consists of 40 plus year old men who are probably divorced with kids. If the men are single in their 30s there is probably some issue.

Yeah, that’s my DH asked me out when he was 32 and I was 34. 27 years and 3 kids later it seems to have worked out.

[Anonymous]

Read Why men marry some women and not others. There's a summary online that may be goon enough. (It's not as misogynistic as it sounds.) And date lots. I had over 100 first dates and very few second dates before finally meeting my husband at ages 30-32.

[Anonymous]

Curious NP here. What are the other thread(s)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious NP here. What are the other thread(s)?

None. We have many posters who post various versions of the same topics on here. We have a troll on here who stirs up drama on almost every thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:After your 20s you always have to date older because the men in their 30s are looking for women in their 20s. Your dating pool mostly consists of 40 plus year old men who are probably divorced with kids. If the men are single in their 30s there is probably some issue.

Yeah, that’s my DH asked me out when he was 32 and I was 34. 27 years and 3 kids later it seems to have worked out.

So you're an anecdote. If you seriously ask men who are single in their 30s if they would date a woman also in her 30s you'll hear a lot of no answers because of potential fertility issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After your 20s you always have to date older because the men in their 30s are looking for women in their 20s. Your dating pool mostly consists of 40 plus year old men who are probably divorced with kids. If the men are single in their 30s there is probably some issue.

Yeah, that’s my DH asked me out when he was 32 and I was 34. 27 years and 3 kids later it seems to have worked out.

So you're an anecdote. If you seriously ask men who are single in their 30s if they would date a woman also in her 30s you'll hear a lot of no answers because of potential fertility issues.

Never had any issues dating men my own age - or often younger - when I was in my 30s. Many of them had no interest in women in their 20s, they wanted someone who was equal in maturity, intelligence, and career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Met mine at 33. My cousin died and he was at the funeral.

Did you meet him at a wedding a few weeks earlier?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Curious NP here. What are the other thread(s)?

None. We have many posters who post various versions of the same topics on here. We have a troll on here who stirs up drama on almost every thread.

Just use the sear feature she's attracted to white conservative Midwestern men no doctor s because they're all shallow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After your 20s you always have to date older because the men in their 30s are looking for women in their 20s. Your dating pool mostly consists of 40 plus year old men who are probably divorced with kids. If the men are single in their 30s there is probably some issue.

Yeah, that’s my DH asked me out when he was 32 and I was 34. 27 years and 3 kids later it seems to have worked out.

So you're an anecdote. If you seriously ask men who are single in their 30s if they would date a woman also in her 30s you'll hear a lot of no answers because of potential fertility issues.

Another anecdote here, met DH when I was 32 and he as 30, going strong 2 kids and 11 years later!

Women are PLENTY fertile until their early 40s, and many well beyond. We have all kinds of ways of checking for ovary and embryo health these days. Welcome to 2022.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did your last relationship end?

OP here. He is also 30 and wasn’t ready to settle down. He wanted to settle down eventually but he didn’t see himself having kids for at least another 5 years. He was fine with marriage but wanted to put off kids until 35+. I want to hopefully have 1-2 kids or be pregnant by 35.

It would take you roughly one year to find such guy then roughly one year to make sure if he is suitable. You are not likely to want to have kids in first year of marriage so this strategy only makes a difference of 2 years. You should’ve married the guy you loved and trusted and waited a bit longer for kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Curious NP here. What are the other thread(s)?

None. We have many posters who post various versions of the same topics on here. We have a troll on here who stirs up drama on almost every thread.

Just use the sear feature she's attracted to white conservative Midwestern men no doctor s because they're all shallow

Psychology 101. Probably not a troll but a confused woman wanting input on different scenarios she may want to consider.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After your 20s you always have to date older because the men in their 30s are looking for women in their 20s. Your dating pool mostly consists of 40 plus year old men who are probably divorced with kids. If the men are single in their 30s there is probably some issue.

Yeah, that’s my DH asked me out when he was 32 and I was 34. 27 years and 3 kids later it seems to have worked out.

So you're an anecdote. If you seriously ask men who are single in their 30s if they would date a woman also in her 30s you'll hear a lot of no answers because of potential fertility issues.

Another anecdote here, met DH when I was 32 and he as 30, going strong 2 kids and 11 years later!

Women are PLENTY fertile until their early 40s, and many well beyond. We have all kinds of ways of checking for ovary and embryo health these days. Welcome to 2022.

Fertility issues are still high after 35 but this shouldn’t be the deciding factor. Don’t settle out of desperation.

[Anonymous]

You want kids, not a husband. Just be a single mother.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why did your last relationship end?

OP here. He is also 30 and wasn’t ready to settle down. He wanted to settle down eventually but he didn’t see himself having kids for at least another 5 years. He was fine with marriage but wanted to put off kids until 35+. I want to hopefully have 1-2 kids or be pregnant by 35.

It would take you roughly one year to find such guy then roughly one year to make sure if he is suitable. You are not likely to want to have kids in first year of marriage so this strategy only makes a difference of 2 years. You should’ve married the guy you loved and trusted and waited a bit longer for kids.

You don't leave someone you love because you don't want kids at the exact same moment in life!! I think you need to go back to the basics, OP.