How do you deal with financial envy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m financially comfortable enough.

When I find myself feeling envious of other with more money, I just focus on my family and friends, and the job I love. These things fulfil me.

But also, I’m prettier than any of my wealthier friends. I know this sounds shallow, but I take great joy in being beautiful. My wealthiest friend has had several cosmetic surgeries, and as she has lamented, she still needs to put in a lot of work with makeup, etc to achieve something close to the look she wants. If I were given a choice between being very wealthy and average to slightly pretty looking or being financially comfortable plus beautiful, I wouldn’t change my situation. (I would never say these things in real life).

And I’m also strong and healthy, and a long run always leaves me feeling great, so that’s another way to vanquish envy.

If hate to live in your head. Not depth. No real purpose. What is pretty on the outside whrn ugly on the inside.

Imagine how pointless your life would be if you became disfigured or disabled. There be nothing lef to you. No purpose, just a sack of useless rotten flesh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m financially comfortable enough.

When I find myself feeling envious of other with more money, I just focus on my family and friends, and the job I love. These things fulfil me.

But also, I’m prettier than any of my wealthier friends. I know this sounds shallow, but I take great joy in being beautiful. My wealthiest friend has had several cosmetic surgeries, and as she has lamented, she still needs to put in a lot of work with makeup, etc to achieve something close to the look she wants. If I were given a choice between being very wealthy and average to slightly pretty looking or being financially comfortable plus beautiful, I wouldn’t change my situation. (I would never say these things in real life).

And I’m also strong and healthy, and a long run always leaves me feeling great, so that’s another way to vanquish envy.

Looks fade. When the wall comes for you, then what do you have?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m financially comfortable enough.

When I find myself feeling envious of other with more money, I just focus on my family and friends, and the job I love. These things fulfil me.

But also, I’m prettier than any of my wealthier friends. I know this sounds shallow, but I take great joy in being beautiful. My wealthiest friend has had several cosmetic surgeries, and as she has lamented, she still needs to put in a lot of work with makeup, etc to achieve something close to the look she wants. If I were given a choice between being very wealthy and average to slightly pretty looking or being financially comfortable plus beautiful, I wouldn’t change my situation. (I would never say these things in real life).

And I’m also strong and healthy, and a long run always leaves me feeling great, so that’s another way to vanquish envy.

Looks fade. When the wall comes for you, then what do you have?

And even if you look good for an older person, nobody really cares that much anymore. They just think you look good for an older person. There's a hard cut for how long physical attractiveness is a major asset for women. The only people I know who take that much joy from their physical appearance who aren't like 20 years old and immature are narcissists (who are often delusional about their beauty too) which means you would have a host of other problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We all know people who have more than us. How do you stop yourself from comparing and financial envy? Mostly it is challenging for me as I have expensive taste and have a hard time lowering my standards.

I konmaried my home and got rid of so much stuff. It helped me to realize what I actually want to spend my money on— and suddenly I was a whole lot richer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m financially comfortable enough.

When I find myself feeling envious of other with more money, I just focus on my family and friends, and the job I love. These things fulfil me.

But also, I’m prettier than any of my wealthier friends. I know this sounds shallow, but I take great joy in being beautiful. My wealthiest friend has had several cosmetic surgeries, and as she has lamented, she still needs to put in a lot of work with makeup, etc to achieve something close to the look she wants. If I were given a choice between being very wealthy and average to slightly pretty looking or being financially comfortable plus beautiful, I wouldn’t change my situation. (I would never say these things in real life).

And I’m also strong and healthy, and a long run always leaves me feeling great, so that’s another way to vanquish envy.

Looks fade. When the wall comes for you, then what do you have?

And even if you look good for an older person, nobody really cares that much anymore. They just think you look good for an older person. There's a hard cut for how long physical attractiveness is a major asset for women. The only people I know who take that much joy from their physical appearance who aren't like 20 years old and immature are narcissists (who are often delusional about their beauty too) which means you would have a host of other problems.

PP is proud of her appearance. Who cares? She’s admitting a secret on an anonymous forum. Good for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all know people who have more than us. How do you stop yourself from comparing and financial envy? Mostly it is challenging for me as I have expensive taste and have a hard time lowering my standards.

I'm a Christian, and I try to live by the principle that the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil.

So….this is all you can offer? Who cares.

[Anonymous]

God never gives anyone 100% of everything. The rich likely missing something and the poor obviously missing the $$. This is Gods way to keep everyone humble and grounded. I see it all the time. The key is to take the good with the bad, make the most of it, accept life’s ups and downs, and avoid comparisons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m financially comfortable enough.

When I find myself feeling envious of other with more money, I just focus on my family and friends, and the job I love. These things fulfil me.

But also, I’m prettier than any of my wealthier friends. I know this sounds shallow, but I take great joy in being beautiful. My wealthiest friend has had several cosmetic surgeries, and as she has lamented, she still needs to put in a lot of work with makeup, etc to achieve something close to the look she wants. If I were given a choice between being very wealthy and average to slightly pretty looking or being financially comfortable plus beautiful, I wouldn’t change my situation. (I would never say these things in real life).

And I’m also strong and healthy, and a long run always leaves me feeling great, so that’s another way to vanquish envy.

Looks fade. When the wall comes for you, then what do you have?

And even if you look good for an older person, nobody really cares that much anymore. They just think you look good for an older person. There's a hard cut for how long physical attractiveness is a major asset for women. The only people I know who take that much joy from their physical appearance who aren't like 20 years old and immature are narcissists (who are often delusional about their beauty too) which means you would have a host of other problems.

PP is proud of her appearance. Who cares? She’s admitting a secret on an anonymous forum. Good for her.

+1 I know this might sound snarky (I just don't know a smarter way to say it) but I agree, a little bit of baseless delusion that props up your self-esteem is a great asset to have in life.
Who cares what others think as long as you feel good about yourself, whatever the situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m financially comfortable enough.

When I find myself feeling envious of other with more money, I just focus on my family and friends, and the job I love. These things fulfil me.

But also, I’m prettier than any of my wealthier friends. I know this sounds shallow, but I take great joy in being beautiful. My wealthiest friend has had several cosmetic surgeries, and as she has lamented, she still needs to put in a lot of work with makeup, etc to achieve something close to the look she wants. If I were given a choice between being very wealthy and average to slightly pretty looking or being financially comfortable plus beautiful, I wouldn’t change my situation. (I would never say these things in real life).

And I’m also strong and healthy, and a long run always leaves me feeling great, so that’s another way to vanquish envy.

Looks fade. When the wall comes for you, then what do you have?

And even if you look good for an older person, nobody really cares that much anymore. They just think you look good for an older person. There's a hard cut for how long physical attractiveness is a major asset for women. The only people I know who take that much joy from their physical appearance who aren't like 20 years old and immature are narcissists (who are often delusional about their beauty too) which means you would have a host of other problems.

I give the PP credit for being honest, but as someone who used to get a lot of positive attention for my appearance I can tell you from first hand experience that it really drops off after a certain age. I would never say that I was beautiful but I was pretty and throughout my 20's, 30's and early 40's I got a lot of attention from men. I'm in my late 40's now and I think I look fine for my age but the PP I quoted above is so right about how "nobody really cares that much anymore." If I could go back in time I would focus less on taking pride in my appearance, getting attention from men, etc. The further away I get from being a pretty young woman the more I realize how much validation/self esteem I used to get from my appearance. It's fleeting and I wish I would have focused less on it.