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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m financially comfortable enough.

When I find myself feeling envious of other with more money, I just focus on my family and friends, and the job I love.  These things fulfil me.

But also, I’m prettier than any of my wealthier friends.  I know this sounds shallow, but I take great joy in being beautiful.  My wealthiest friend has had several cosmetic surgeries, and as she has lamented, she still needs to put in a lot of work with makeup, etc to achieve something close to the look she wants.  If I were given a choice between being very wealthy and average to slightly pretty looking or being financially comfortable plus beautiful, I wouldn’t change my situation.  (I would never say these things in real life).

And I’m also strong and healthy, and a long run always leaves me feeling great, so that’s another way to vanquish envy.[/quote]

Looks fade. When the wall comes for you, then what do you have? [/quote]

And even if you look good for an older person, nobody really cares that much anymore.  They just think you look good for an older person.  There's a hard cut for how long physical attractiveness is a major asset for women.  The only people I know who take that much joy from their physical appearance who aren't like 20 years old and immature are narcissists (who are often delusional about their beauty too) which means you would have a host of other problems. [/quote]

I give the PP credit for being honest, but as someone who used to get a lot of positive attention for my appearance I can tell you from first hand experience that it really drops off after a certain age. I would never say that I was beautiful but I was pretty and throughout my 20's, 30's and early 40's I got a lot of attention from men. I'm in my late 40's now and I think I look fine for my age but the PP I quoted above is so right about how "nobody really cares that much anymore." If I could go back in time I would focus less on taking pride in my appearance, getting attention from men, etc. The further away I get from being a pretty young woman the more I realize how much validation/self esteem I used to get from my appearance. It's fleeting and I wish I would have focused less on it. [/quote]

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