Why so much disgust felt towards men for dating significantly younger?

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Anonymous wrote:Envy from older women esp single ones

No, I would seriously not want to date a man who dates younger women. I’m the poster who did date older guys when I was younger and those men have concerning issues. Which is why they do so, they have predator tendencies. That’s why they target naive girls. Honest to God I would not be envious, a man like that does not command respect and really is looked at as a joke.

Or maybe they don't want to deal with frozen eggs and geriatric pregnancies.

Or maybe they’re misogynists with arrested development.

Yes, wanting a higher chance at healthier children with fewer developmental problems is soooo misogynistic! Keep coping.

Increased parental age is associated with a higher frequency of birth defects. But please, enjoy your delusion.

You're not going to scare a man into marrying you. I wish you the best in your endeavors though.

You’ll be shocked to know that I am married. You’re not going to manipulate a barely legal teen into marrying you, either - although I guess you can buy one from a third world country, incel. Best of luck to you!

The dating arbitrage in Thailand is INSANE! You should check it out sometime.

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Anonymous wrote:Envy from older women esp single ones

No, I would seriously not want to date a man who dates younger women. I’m the poster who did date older guys when I was younger and those men have concerning issues. Which is why they do so, they have predator tendencies. That’s why they target naive girls. Honest to God I would not be envious, a man like that does not command respect and really is looked at as a joke.

This. I don’t know any men I respect who date/marry significantly younger. Most people bond over shared life experiences and having a similar world view. For context, I (36) have some friends in their twenties - male and female. I love their energy and their optimism but there is nothing about us that put us on equal footing in the context of a potential relationship. Financially, professionally, life experiences, travel, etc etc - I am light years beyond them. It baffles me how men can overlook these fundamental differences in order to “bang” a young “hottie.” Gross.

Or, to put it another way, men desire the nubile, positive, life-vivacious younger women. That jaded, seasoned, rigid disposition is off putting. Older women are set in their ways. Why deal with the hassle?

Just because you prefer a nubile, positive, life vivacious younger woman doesn’t mean she should date down with dating you.

You should send them a news flash then, because they haven't gotten the message!

Imagine being so proud of being able to manipulate people with half the life experience you have. (Hint: it’s not giving what you think it’s giving.)

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Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.

I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!

I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.

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Anonymous wrote:Why so much disgust and judgement? Isn't there also a significant number of women, especially in their 20's, who don't want to date men their age and prefer older guys? It takes two consenting adults for these relationships to happen.

Lies, including to themselves about sperm quality.

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Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.

I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!

I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.

Exactly. And those who have had positive experiences or are in good relationships aren’t going to be found in this forum.

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Anonymous wrote:People using judgement as a way to cope and reconcile with their own regrettable life choices. Typical method these days of shaming men into compliance rather than being an adult and accepting the choices you made.

I see the incels have entered the chat. You all are pathetic! Get over yourselves!

I am a woman and don’t find the previous statement misogynistic or incel like. There are multiple women who posted to share these exact sentiments. They were naive 22 year olds with poor judgement who dated scumbag older men. In hindsight, they do indeed regret that choice. I’m not sure what is controversial about this.

You're misreading the comment you're agreeing with. He believes you are using judgment (calling them "scumbag older men") to cope with your regrettable life choices that led to being a lonely older woman who failed to lock down a "high value man."

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it’s not so much disgust as it is side-eye.

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Anonymous wrote:Envy from older women esp single ones

No, I would seriously not want to date a man who dates younger women. I’m the poster who did date older guys when I was younger and those men have concerning issues. Which is why they do so, they have predator tendencies. That’s why they target naive girls. Honest to God I would not be envious, a man like that does not command respect and really is looked at as a joke.

This. I don’t know any men I respect who date/marry significantly younger. Most people bond over shared life experiences and having a similar world view. For context, I (36) have some friends in their twenties - male and female. I love their energy and their optimism but there is nothing about us that put us on equal footing in the context of a potential relationship. Financially, professionally, life experiences, travel, etc etc - I am light years beyond them. It baffles me how men can overlook these fundamental differences in order to “bang” a young “hottie.” Gross.

Or, to put it another way, men desire the nubile, positive, life-vivacious younger women. That jaded, seasoned, rigid disposition is off putting. Older women are set in their ways. Why deal with the hassle?

Just because you prefer a nubile, positive, life vivacious younger woman doesn’t mean she should date down with dating you.

You should send them a news flash then, because they haven't gotten the message!

Imagine being so proud of being able to manipulate people with half the life experience you have. (Hint: it’s not giving what you think it’s giving.)

You are telling yourself lies to feel better. My parents and several of their friends have decade plus age gaps and have had long fruitful marriages. It's disgusting of you to try to paint them into a box because you are unhappy with your life choices.

[Anonymous]

Ladies, at some point we gotta start being honest. I have way too many bitter corporate lady friends who wish they had done things differently. A little honesty and self reflection maybe? No one path is right for everyone, but trying to foreclose certain paths with this shaming ain't cute.

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I don’t know, OP. People have hang ups. Adults are adults.

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Anonymous wrote:Envy from older women esp single ones

No, I would seriously not want to date a man who dates younger women. I’m the poster who did date older guys when I was younger and those men have concerning issues. Which is why they do so, they have predator tendencies. That’s why they target naive girls. Honest to God I would not be envious, a man like that does not command respect and really is looked at as a joke.

This. I don’t know any men I respect who date/marry significantly younger. Most people bond over shared life experiences and having a similar world view. For context, I (36) have some friends in their twenties - male and female. I love their energy and their optimism but there is nothing about us that put us on equal footing in the context of a potential relationship. Financially, professionally, life experiences, travel, etc etc - I am light years beyond them. It baffles me how men can overlook these fundamental differences in order to “bang” a young “hottie.” Gross.

Or, to put it another way, men desire the nubile, positive, life-vivacious younger women. That jaded, seasoned, rigid disposition is off putting. Older women are set in their ways. Why deal with the hassle?

Just because you prefer a nubile, positive, life vivacious younger woman doesn’t mean she should date down with dating you.

You should send them a news flash then, because they haven't gotten the message!

Imagine being so proud of being able to manipulate people with half the life experience you have. (Hint: it’s not giving what you think it’s giving.)

You are telling yourself lies to feel better. My parents and several of their friends have decade plus age gaps and have had long fruitful marriages. It's disgusting of you to try to paint them into a box because you are unhappy with your life choices.

Eh, a lot of people fool themselves into thinking they made good choices and have healthy relationships, especially younger women. I don’t think much about it and I don’t say anything, but I know that lots of these relationships are just off.

-NP

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Anonymous wrote:Ladies, at some point we gotta start being honest. I have way too many bitter corporate lady friends who wish they had done things differently. A little honesty and self reflection maybe? No one path is right for everyone, but trying to foreclose certain paths with this shaming ain't cute.

Lol. Ok Buddy.

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Anonymous wrote:Envy from older women esp single ones

No, I would seriously not want to date a man who dates younger women. I’m the poster who did date older guys when I was younger and those men have concerning issues. Which is why they do so, they have predator tendencies. That’s why they target naive girls. Honest to God I would not be envious, a man like that does not command respect and really is looked at as a joke.

This. I don’t know any men I respect who date/marry significantly younger. Most people bond over shared life experiences and having a similar world view. For context, I (36) have some friends in their twenties - male and female. I love their energy and their optimism but there is nothing about us that put us on equal footing in the context of a potential relationship. Financially, professionally, life experiences, travel, etc etc - I am light years beyond them. It baffles me how men can overlook these fundamental differences in order to “bang” a young “hottie.” Gross.

Or, to put it another way, men desire the nubile, positive, life-vivacious younger women. That jaded, seasoned, rigid disposition is off putting. Older women are set in their ways. Why deal with the hassle?

Just because you prefer a nubile, positive, life vivacious younger woman doesn’t mean she should date down with dating you.

You should send them a news flash then, because they haven't gotten the message!

Imagine being so proud of being able to manipulate people with half the life experience you have. (Hint: it’s not giving what you think it’s giving.)

You are telling yourself lies to feel better. My parents and several of their friends have decade plus age gaps and have had long fruitful marriages. It's disgusting of you to try to paint them into a box because you are unhappy with your life choices.

My dad didn’t finish high school and had a fruitful career. Would I judge his circumstance as good advice? No, and you are wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:Ladies, at some point we gotta start being honest. I have way too many bitter corporate lady friends who wish they had done things differently. A little honesty and self reflection maybe? No one path is right for everyone, but trying to foreclose certain paths with this shaming ain't cute.

Well, you see the men are shaming themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:Envy from older women esp single ones

No, I would seriously not want to date a man who dates younger women. I’m the poster who did date older guys when I was younger and those men have concerning issues. Which is why they do so, they have predator tendencies. That’s why they target naive girls. Honest to God I would not be envious, a man like that does not command respect and really is looked at as a joke.

This. I don’t know any men I respect who date/marry significantly younger. Most people bond over shared life experiences and having a similar world view. For context, I (36) have some friends in their twenties - male and female. I love their energy and their optimism but there is nothing about us that put us on equal footing in the context of a potential relationship. Financially, professionally, life experiences, travel, etc etc - I am light years beyond them. It baffles me how men can overlook these fundamental differences in order to “bang” a young “hottie.” Gross.

Or, to put it another way, men desire the nubile, positive, life-vivacious younger women. That jaded, seasoned, rigid disposition is off putting. Older women are set in their ways. Why deal with the hassle?

Just because you prefer a nubile, positive, life vivacious younger woman doesn’t mean she should date down with dating you.

You should send them a news flash then, because they haven't gotten the message!

Imagine being so proud of being able to manipulate people with half the life experience you have. (Hint: it’s not giving what you think it’s giving.)

You are telling yourself lies to feel better. My parents and several of their friends have decade plus age gaps and have had long fruitful marriages. It's disgusting of you to try to paint them into a box because you are unhappy with your life choices.

Eh, a lot of people fool themselves into thinking they made good choices and have healthy relationships, especially younger women. I don’t think much about it and I don’t say anything, but I know that lots of these relationships are just off.

-NP

I’ll add that this isn’t to say I don’t like these people! I think a lot of people, probably myself included, have relationships that are off in some way. It’s not a big deal. But it’s just a reality that often younger women don’t see the problems with the older men they date and marry. They’re too dazzled and like feeling special and chosen.